if your bed partner is having a nightmare do you wake them?

If you take your bed partner seriously into your life,what you have to do is to,take him/her to a good psychiatrist.Daily having nightmares,screaming at sleep are real mental problems and it should be treated quickly.Some suppressed feelings and emotions should have an outlet and a psychiatrist will help in this.Cheers!

Oh yes, I will try to coax them to wake up. Or at least calm them down. Usually once you intervene and calm them down, they will get out of whatever nightmarish situation they got themselves in in their dreams.

yup,i also wouldnt like to wake the person but like you said,i would like to see them in that state,so i would mutter reassurring words and would try to gently wake them up from their sleep.

Hi Moonlit, I whack him - I really do. The first few times when he had a dream or nightmare, he kicked out and hit me. So I'm very careful - whenever I hear him mumbling or talking, I will whack him first!

Yes. There are times that I sleep later than my husband. I used to read books in bed until I feel sleepy. There were times that he seemed to be into some bad dreams. I very well observed it and I woke him up. I didn't want anything bad to happen if I allowed him to be continually in that situation.

I would most definitely wake my partner up when hes having a nightmare or when he seems to be talking in his sleep. I've done it a few times. He's never really had any really bad nightmares or anything and he doesn't sleep walk either. He does the same for me. He wakes me up if I'm having nightmares.

My husband usually wakes himself up from a nightmare, screaming like a maniac, with Viet Nam flashbacks. FORTUNATELY these have become few and far between, over the years I've known him. It also really really REEEEEALLY helps that we live down in the basement. He says this is "just like a bomb shelter."

I have night terrors sometime, My boyfriend ALWAYS wakes me up. And I appreciate it because he wakes me up before I have a chance to walk around and freak out or potentially hurt myself. I move around a lot in my sleep and I have a tendency to get really sweaty and shakey, and I flat our just seize up. It's a terrible experience when you're woken up and realize what it is you're doing. It's embarrassing for some people. Fortunately I only ever sleep in the same bed with one person and he's so used to it that it doesn't bother him anymore. It worries him when it gets really bad some nights, and it does.. Because there's been a few nights where I've tretzed out in my sleep and kind of freaked out.. One night I did it and he woke me up. I didn't move the rest of the night. I layed there in a hardcore dripping sweat. I slowly remembered parts of the dream. THOSE I won't share cause it was goofy and embarrassing. :P haha

I think you should wake them up! Not sure but I've heard that its more dangerous if you let them have there scary nightmares... Better to bring them back to reality.

I am normally the one that has had the nightmares and my husband has always woke me up as long as he has been awaken by them at least. There has only been maybe twice that my husband has had a nightmare of sorts, I can't say that he was having a nightmare but when he seemed to be a bit jumpy or breathing heavier in bed I have woken him up out of his sleep just to be safe. He always gets these jumps as i call them to where right as he starts to fall asleep he jumps like he just got the poo scared out of him..he says he doesn't remember but is glad he wakes up from it.

It's necessary for me to wake them because it can affect their mental health. Sounds like your bed partner is in freddy krueger's nightmare. Freaks out and cries? That's not normal.

I still suffer from night-terrors. Sad at the age of 18, but it's true. When I sleep in the same bed as my boyfriend, he doesn't wake me up. But he says he holds me close and whispers in my ear that it's just a bad dream, and to start dreaming something happy, that he's close. He says it usually calms me down.

I have also heard that it is very bad to wake a sleepwalker and I wouldn't. Imagine laying down to go to bed at night and then opening your eyes and being in the livingroom. Your initial reaction would be to freak out. So, someone could end up getting hurt. When it comes to nightmares, I would wake them up. It may just be me, but I have had instances where I am in a very weird stage of sleep. I will be having a nightmare and I will be trying to scream at my husband to help me. I just can't talk or move because I am still asleep. I know it is a dream, but I still can't get out of my sleep mode and wake up. Has this ever happend to anyone else? I guess the main reason I would wake the person up CAREFULLY (incase they are fist fighting in their nightmare, I don't want to take a punch) is because most of the time when you wake up from a nightmare....you can go back to sleep and not continue the dream and be rested in the morning.

I woke my mom up once when she was having a nightmare and her fist flew up into my face. lol. I had a black eye and sore noose for a week.

My SIL is a sleepwalker.....my daughter doesn't wake him up...sometimes she doesn't even know he is gone...but a nightmare...if if were my grandbaby I would scoop her up in my arms and comfort her....if she woke up she would find herself safe....but I don't know if I would wake her.....

hi, of course, I will wake him/her up... cuz if I dont wake he/she up then he/she will continue in their dream and it might scare them so bad. it is a good idea to distract what they are seeing now. and hope to help them release from those bad dream.

When we were young, my eldest sis was the one who usually have nightmares. She would always make some scary sounds when she was having some bad dreams. When we asked her about it, she said she was actually shouting for help and hoping my other sis would hear her to wake her up. That's why when she started to have nightmares, my older sis would not hesitate, but to jolt her. So, I think it's better to wake the person who's having nightmares. He/she might be struggling to wake up and need someone's help. Just my thoughts...

for me, i'll wake up my bad partner, and let he away from the nightmare.After that, when he return to bed , maybe he will have a good dream, at least not nightmare again.

Rather than waking them up by shaking them, I would gently place my arms around them, so that if they did wake up, they would have a pair of reassuring arms around them, and help them awaken with less fear and anxiety from a nightmare. It can be awful for both the one suffering the nightmare and the partner when something like this does happen. But when you have a good partner, its much easier to cope with. Happy myLotting

Nightmares are just dreams in your head. In your head. So that means you can control it, if you try to overcome it. But it will take time for some depending on their control of fear.