ANGER MANAGEMENT: How you cope with it?

If i'm angry, i will definitely be heading to a gym or workouts, whereby i can be slamming all those weights.. haha =D IF not, i will be going for my runs, venting my anger thru my footsteps and sweat.. haha =D NO matter what method one is using, we only wanna get rid of that unhappiness inside of us, and it's gonna be hard. Thus, whoever is close to us, in terms of relations, are bound to get hit the hardest.. It's just human nature, and nobody knows why..

I try to control my anger management by having deep breaths, relaxing and just listening to some music; and not thinking of things much. If not, I'll be too stressed up. Going out for short walks also helps me a lot to distress and I use this method mainly to cool down.

Oh I let it out Once I was so mad when I got back to my house I threw and broke every plate I could find. saved 2 that was in the dish water lol And I barely missed the girl I was mad at goo thing she duck and ran away.

I know the restaurant you are talking about. I learned about it in Rated K and they even shout TAKSIAPO! Before throwing things. I also want that kind when I want to vent my anger. When I am angry I go to restroom and kick the wall. I can’t cry out loud because it usually happen during work, I just kick and kick until it hurts me. After that I was ok. I never done throwing things when I am angry, I do usually hurt myself which is bad I guess. I also shout but I avoid it now because the last time I shout and vent out my anger I lost my breathe and it almost killed me. Even a water can’t help me. I am very kind person. I am nice to everyone I do not think evil, but when someone hurt me badly the worst that I can’t imagine I will usually transform into a demon and I want to kill. I mean not to kill like stabbing, it is just my thoughts that I want to kill. I imagine myself killing them not totally doing it. It is just when I am angry I have to release it or else I will be having a heart attack.

i eat a lot of sweet food then if i really feel mad i could not control myself i let go of few hurting words or just go away from the person. usually i am expressive person when i am angry but after i shout out i just feel calm afterward and forget it happen.

i try to ignore totally the person or rather i would walk away or distance myself from the situation. usually i vent my anger by hiding on my room for a few minutes when i already feel calm. i could face the situation or the person again but avoid lot of arguments.

For the most part, I am very good at releasing my anger. I usually call up a good friend, and tell them that I have to vent, and they are very kind to listen while I do. Then, I feel alot better. I would rather vent to a good friend then to the person who I am really angry with, because I know that in the midst of my anger, I could say something that would really hurt that person.

I am silent first and it takes me longer to get mad but when i am being pressure then i say be silent please. then, the person still keep nagging me despite my warning i may scream to him louder just to keep him quiet or else if he keep on nagging God helps i may throw him something which could make him go to hospital..lol..well, the truth my patience is long that i could be mistaken like a saint unless provokes too much..lol..:-)

Hi neelianoscet, I got so accustomed to your previous avatar, I didn't recognize you. :) Now my way of doing it. Like misterwit, if I can I walk away from situation. If not, I vent it all out on a file on my computer, everything including my skills at bad words. I secretly hope somebody reads through them, and understands my stand, or why I feel so bad. At times, I am forced to be nasty, and much against my normal nature, I do let the steam off. Oh! I am not too pleased with myself at such times. Because there are a million scripts that come to my mind subsequently, which would have had a better impact, but I couldnt utter as I was clouded with my emotions at that point of time. So I do feel dissatisfied with what I would call "my performance". But I have realized one thing, if you can identify what angers you, and steer clear of such things, everything will be just right for you, at least emotionally. :) So Misterwit is right I am afraid. :)

For me when I'm angry I'm a type of a person who is calm and I don't want to destroy a thing because it's not good GOD said be angry but don't to comet a sin.

I am the silent time when i become angry, i just turn my back on the person and that imposes even greater passion. but there are times i become uncontrollable, i remember throwing the dirty plates and glasses when nobody wanted to wash them, So now they are all scared to make me angry, did not hurt anybody but the message was understood.I dont believe in confronting the person you are angry with, especially if its my wife, or kids, neighbor or friends. Although some people expresses outright emotions, I could be that too, just dont hurt any member of my family or there will gonna be blood.

I normally stay calm, normally I mean...just today I went a bit over with it...I told two coworkers that they need to start working and they aren't the princess on the pea....awww....yes, I admit I went beyond, but I had my reason too if I screwed up!! Anyways, tomorrow's a new day, and I think it wasn't that bad to start shouting because they might have got I'm not so stupid as they think.

Hmmm....anger is the most ruining property of a human being, and I have noticed it myself! My friend, was very hostile in nature.He supposed to believe that whatever he thinks is perfect. if any one opposed to him he could have slapped or punched that person in public. all tried to make him understand very politely but now he is no more!He had a fight with his girlfriend and he killed himself! But really that girl was innocent. I feel very sorry. But his anger killed him. I think some meditations everyday can keep us cool....

Every time I feel anger and may lose my temper ,I try my best to pacify myself and think over the matter to find the problem .I don't like acting recklessly and anger may lead to someting irrational. By managing anger in this way I wo't reget for doing something overreacted ,and the cost is the least.

I deal with anger in different ways. It all depends on the mood I am in or if I have some kind of happiness in my life also. I usually try to suppress my anger but if I am pushed to my limit over a period of time, I will go off.

I tend to release it. At least I think I do. Im not good with confrontations. Not when Im really angry about something. Even when I feel that intense I still have the sense to not say anythind, just walk away, and find some way to cool my head down or distract myself from the reason why I got angry. At least for a while. Im just the kind of person who would rather not say anything and just keep to oneself. That's because I can be very tactless and insensitive to the point that I will tell other people the hurting truth about themselves and the situation. Those people involved will never be able to see me eye to eye and they may even hate me if I do that. That's why I dont say anything, cause when I do, the things that I might say will be very loaded that it could ruin friendships, relationships, and networks. I cant afford to do that cause in my line of work, those things are important to keep it going. I have heard of that kind of restaurant. I fancied the thought of trying that someday. But I am awkward in showing my anger. I dont know how to physically vent. It can be a good experience though. When Im angry I walk for hours. It keeps my head clear and its good exercise as well. There are also those light anger where in food can help solve it. I respect my food, so I try to not think of the issue while eating. It kinda helps cause when Im done, Im not only full but I also have a clear head. That's just me anyways.

I have always expressed my anger to whoever makes me mad , still do. My temper is some better than it use to be but don't have the people in my life anymore that always made me sooooo mad.That helps but i can still roll out w/the best of them if they make me mad.

i express anger by simply get out of the situation and i want to spend alone staying in my room.sometimes i scream alone just to ease tension and so that i can cope with my anger.and i think you can manage it by handle different anger management like using some of the stress management like listening to mellow music.or even eating an ice cream to lessen tension.meditation is one of them and it is very effective in times of anger and stress.

Hi,neeli,i can't give exact response for the discussion you posted,because i never get anger and i practice the following maximum possible. 1] Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are incompatible. 2] Anger sends marriages and other family relationships off-course. 3] Anger reduces our social skills, compromising other relationships, too. 4] Anger means lost business, because it destroys relationships. 5] Anger also means losing business that you could have won in a more gracious mood. 6]Anger leads to increased stress (ironic, since stress often increases anger). 7] We make mistakes when we are angry, because anger makes it harder to process information. http://www.thehappyguy.com/anger-management-tips.html Have a nice time,neeli.