Would you encourage your child to get plastic surgery if they looked different?
By kjess77
@kjess77 (40)
United States
November 19, 2009 3:17pm CST
In a society where image is everything, many people think that they need to seek out plastic surgery. They say that only some people who seek plastic surgery have image issues and low self-esteem, but I seem to think that they all do. Almost no issue is black and white although, and I wonder if your child were to have a disfigurement would you encourage them to get plastic surgery? What if your child was born a hermaphrodite, would you alter the way they look to pinpoint a gender? What about a cleft lip? Are braces to be considered a type of plastic surgery, when you can live a perfectly good life with some crooked teeth? So where do we draw the line, and if we would want our children to have these surgeries, what about if our daughter had very small A cups, or a huge nose?
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9 responses
@coffeeshot (3783)
• Australia
20 Nov 09
It really depends on someone's deifnition of 'big' or 'small' or 'different' here. Some people have big noses, but it suits them or it doesn't look too bad. Though some people have physical qualities that cause people to stare at them, and this is where I would give my child the option of having surgery. I wouldn't encourage him or her, but I would let them know that it's there if they wanted it. Of course I would make him or her wait to make a decision and make sure that they're ready for it as surgery is not to be taken lightly.
My friend has big ears and his mother asked him when he was eight years old if he wanted to have them pinned back. He said no, he was happy with himself.
Some kids aren't that confident though. If they look different, they feel different and kids can be cruel- bullying can have a profound effect on a youngster's confidence and affect them for the rest of their life. I would offer surgery as an option, yes.
@beckysue12121 (37)
• United States
20 Nov 09
I think that plastic surgery for cosmetic reasons should be done as an adult, and if that adult makes that decision, then their friends and family should support them (unless they're addicted to it or something like that). Plastic surgery to fix a disfigurement on a child could be ok, if the risks to the child's health are low with the surgery. I could see how having a cleft lip could hurt a kid's self esteem (kids are so mean!!!). I think that braces are a good idea, but the invisilign ones. I have never had braces myself, but I have heard that they are painful to put on and take off. If the kid is completely put out by the idea, then it can wait till they are older and can make the decision for them selves. The hermaphrodie thing.....well.....I have seen instances on Discovery Health where people who's parents had elected to have that surgery for them have felt like they were trapped in the wrong body. I think that should wait until the kid displays tendencies of one gender or the other, and should be the kid's decision. That kind of surgery can always be done later.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
20 Nov 09
hi kjess,
yes i will also allow either my son or daughter to take plastic surgery if their face is different,but that is according to my financial position,now i wish to transplant hairs in my head but due to money i could not do the same,it is also just like buying some thing like clothes and cosmetics,have a nice day
@Dhinilshanker (395)
• India
20 Nov 09
i would never propose such an idea to my child unless he\she wanted it.cause if my child is ok with it and if i talked about plastic surgery to my kid he\she would really feel inferior and ashamed of herself/himself for having me feel like that about him/her.so i definitely wouldnt encourage it unless they wanted it
@habbeysax (77)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Well.Plastic surgery is a modern fashion innovation.To say precisely it is make someone look extra-ordinary fashionable but there's a side effect in the future if proper care is not taking.
@abhishek336699 (20)
• India
20 Nov 09
if the situation arises from the birth and getting worst and decreasing morality of my children then i will encourage it but if it is only for showoff just like actor and actress do in now a days for hiding their ages and looking beautiful then i will discourage them and tell them that nature's creation is best creation and we should not alter it until it is very very much imoprtant
@ram_cv (16513)
• India
20 Nov 09
Whatever be the situation, I would not encourage my child to do plastic surgery just to improve the looks or look sexy!! In case there is a accident such as fire etc. which necessitates plastic surgery then so be it, but just for looking more beautiful cutting the body is an absolute no no for me.
Cheers!
Ram
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
20 Nov 09
I would only encourage my children to do it if it really bothers her/him. Especially if its a daughter. a cleft lip, chipped ears, extra fingers according to me should be done in a young age, because it does temper her self esteem and stops other children mocking at her. I have seen this happen to neighbor's children. But I will not encourage her to have surgery if it'd just about beauty or being sexy. I would just do all I can to encourage her self-confidence and teach her that looks are not everything. A good personality and loving character is better than a beautiful face and body but no character.
@DarkMarixx (331)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Everybody wants to be good in their physical appearance(no doubt). The point here is, why don't we accept what we are. If you have enough money to go under the operation, why not. First of all, we must know if this will result a good or bad effect in our daily life. The most important thing here is what's in your heart. It isn't bad to change your looks but don't forget to look back on what you are before.
I think braces are not considered as a type of plastic surgery.(according to my friends and I)(,^^)