is it this hard to move on?='(

From personal experiances. Moving on is really hard after you break up with someone that you thought was your true love, when you knew he/she wasn't. If you were close to your girlfiend, having all of those fond memories of her each night you go to bed. Maybe try talking to her about the good times. And possibly not drink everday for your education sake. If you feel that something missing, listen to your heart. Its the one question that I always answered myself when my ex boyfriend that my ex friend hooked me up with. Do you want her back or not? Does she always makes you feel good inside or doesnt? You gotta rely on yourself about those things. And I mean that in a good way. I just really hope my advice would help you alot.

It's more of a decision actually. The feeling I guess will somehow stay. And you will have traces in your heart that will remind you what had been. But that has already passed, long gone. The length of time that is to come is longer than the time that has passed. Your still very young. Just go on and get over it. ;).

It is grief you are suffering. It probably can go on for a year. I know the feeling, as my husband & I separated 4 weeks ago, and I cant shut off my feelings. He can it seems. Have you thought about counselling? It seems to me that you should be moving on a bit by now.

Hello! I felt your pain as i read all the discussions to reply to, and i had to reply to you. It does hurt because you opened yourself up to another person, however, you must move forward. Please don't drink. You will still have those feelings when you get over your hangover. You have to get involved in activities that you enjoy and i am sure you will find other girls. No, you may never forget your girlfriend, but you will move forward to someone who will be the right person just for you. My VERY best to You.

That a sad story friend, but i think life it's complicated like that. There are times we are happy or sad. The most important know is how you can deal with the problem and finish it well. As we know one of the severe problems in this life is love, because it's related with our feeling that can be sensitive sometime. In my opinion it's better if you start to busy your day with positive activities. Since the breakup problem would need time to recover, but in your case it's been a year and you still can't forget her, so i think you love her so much. But life most go on friend, you have to keep life for the future. By doing positive activities slowly but sure you will gain your normal life again and forget about the problem. And maybe you will get a new girlfriend who will much better as long as you keep socializing with other people. Don't make a conclusion that drunk can solve problems and avoid negative thinking. Try to keep patient and positive thinking. I hope these suggestions can help you become a happy person as before. keep up the spirit friend

Man...don't be weak...weakness is not the way...those drinking and so forth isn't going to help you or get you anywhere...My first time girlfriend junior year in highschool, she was older than me but anyways...we have been together for 3 years, unlike pupy lovers in this world, I am not into short time relationship. It was serious, sexually active almost everyday (thanks to her). Anyways, Yes moving on is not easy, but you have to force your self, discipline your mind to move on and say it was fun to be with her but now it's time to move on and find another one that will hopefully be better or you will better your self if you feel the need to.There is no need to behave or let your self be that way...WORTHLESS. I don't know why you have to destroy your self like that... My only advice is to LEARN HOW TO CONTROL YOUR FEELINGS AND MIND, once you can control your mind and feelings you will be fine from now on and then. It helps a lot. Ya people might say you become COLD HEARTED or emotionless...but guess what, ONCE YOU KNOW HOW TO CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS AND MIND and feel less pain emotionally, your life would be much better.

I guess almost all of us go through break ups and heartbreaks my dear. Same with your situation, I had been through the same. It was hard, but I have to make a decision rather than totally ruining my life and forget everything because of love. It was pathetic really, yet a learning experience. To move on is actually tough and it requires determination and courage to do it. If you think that you already want to move in then do something about it. There's no hard way with a determined heart. Do the things which you are not used to do or the things you do without your ex. Don't reminisce because those memories would remind you of her. Travel if you can or work in a place that is out of sight or away from her. Moreover, pray.

Truthfully it can be hard to move on. I can only imagine that you guys were probably together for a good deal of time. It's very understandable to still have those feelings for her. But you do need to work on moving on. The things you have typed don't seem to be too good of situations that you've gotten yourself into because of your ex. I'm just saying you should be able to get your mind off of her if you just focus on what's important in your life now. I would say for you it should be school. If you don't worry about and try not to think about it then I promise things will get better. Just try to keep yourself occupied. Go out with your friends and have fun. Just have fun with your life but always be careful. I hope you all the best.

I would say its hard especially if you've been with that person for a long time. It's really hard to start again after having those wonderful moments with someone. But I would say it also depends on the person and with its support from the people surrounding him or her. As for me, I didn't have that much difficulty in moving on because I have great friends on my side. I have moved on in less than a month after breaking up with the man I have been for three years. At first, I think it is impossible to move on but then I realized during the process and as time goes by that it is possible and easy especially if you are open-minded enough.

Man..You have to find out..man. You have to work on it...are u still in love with her..Or is it jus something else..If u really want to move on..then you have to act..look forward to your life...make an ambition or objective and work for it...im sure youll get out from ur current condition..all the best pal..

well my friend.i have to agree 100% that it isnt easy at all breaking up and having no contact with a person you have loved so much.i wouldnt be able to do it frankly telling.i and my girlfriend have reached at the verge of breaking our relationship.but finally no matter how worse the problem becomes we somehow come back and join together.we switch off our phones and sit not talking for sometime.but finally one of use start talking.i and my girl have been together or 2 years and we always call each other.thinking about a day without hearing her voice now really makes me feel like as if something hasnt been done or like the day hasnt been completed.so it is very hard for me to break up and even if we did we would join back together somehow because we both cant live without each other. what i suggest is that,if u you still love her and is does the same to you,please go back towards her and everything would be back to normal if you both just hugged each other

can we know the reason why you two broke, if it was your fault, you will have a chance to settle with her again, but if it was her fault... you need to finalize your decision, if you really want her back, BUT Usually its the guys fault that women break up the relationship.

I think that you have to take ownership of your life. I am assuming that she broke up with you, judging from your level of distress. You need to convince yourself that you can do better. Live for yourself, not somebody else. If you're still in school...you're still young. Maybe you guys just weren't meant to be together, everything happens for a reason. Did you guys fight alot? If so, then isn't it nice not to have all the drama? Just be strong, you will pull through.

Moving on really is hard. I believe in the saying that, "You can't really move one from someone until you find somebody else". So, I dunno. Maybe you will move on if you fall in love with another person.

theonehush, Nobody says it's easy. But, you need to ask yourself if this excuse is good enough not to move along in life? If you do have that wisdom to understand discern that, it doesn't matter how many girls come into your life - you are just acting like a kid when mummy refuse to buy that particular toy; lying on the floor, kicking your feet and throwing your hands all over, hoping that somehow, you will get what you want. You see, nobody can make you move on if that isn't what you want to do. Eventually as time passed naturally, you will probably realized that there's no way she could return... and like that kid who couldn't get what he wants - you will still succumb to the power of time and move along. The difference is that all these while when you have decided to remain where you are, you have probably wasted much of your emotional self when you actually do have a choice to LEARN from your previous relationship and empower yourself spiritually. Please remember that there are responsibilities and your studies that needs your beckoning attention. There's just no self love here when you ignore the very fact of your existence and responsibilities. Getting yourself drunk and throwing away your education just would not bring her back and even if she has a choice, I just do not think that you are a considerable choice - no offense taken. But, if you would switch roles here, would you accept such a pathetic partner? You make you own choice in life, you live with what your choice dictate. Have a nice day.

Some of my friends were in the same situation like you right now. They almost lost their life just because they can't move on. Well, I experienced breaking up twice already but I can easily move on. Maybe because I don't love them that much. I believe that moving on is so easy for as long as that person is willing to let go and have a confidence to find someone who is more better for him/her. I know that love can't fade away so easily especially if that person give so much happiness in your life. However, we can't ask or demand someone to love us the way we want since we can't force someone's heart to love us. For me, the reason why moving on is hard its because we don't want to give up the past. We continue living in the present and in future holding the memories and hopes that she/he will come back to our life. Well, there's nothing wrong to keep our past since our past is the reason why we are still living in the present and continue facing the future. The only thing that I can advise is let go with your past and face the life in present. You can sometimes thing the happy memories that you had with her before but try your best to focus again to your main goal. If you need someone to talk you can count on me. You can count on us your friends here in mylot.

It certainly can be very hard to move on especially if you really cared for her alot. I would be in the same situation as you with a friend of mine who I had a falling out with just over a year ago. I think about my friend alot. I miss the friendship. It was a friendship like no other. My friend was like a big brother to me. If I need to find the words to speak to my husband without hurting his feelings, I would turn to my friend because he knows my husband and would advise me the best words to use. You are certainly not alone. I miss my friend and would like him back. Sadly it is not going to happen because of his girlfriend. She doesn't like me.

whoa! just let her go.