I am having a hard time at work, any advise please?

Well, I know it feels awkward to get orders now from someone who used to be your friend at the same level. But what is he doing all day ? Is he just sitting around giving orders while playing the computer game ? If this is the case, then you have a right to be angry. But if he seems to be truly busy and also give orders to the others (not only you), then I think it's part of your job. If you want to stay where you are, I suggest you watch out your body language and not show him that you dislike him. Otherwise, you may ask to be transfered to another department. Sometimes when the promotion is too quick, these "new" managers need time to adjust, and find their confidence.

Hi Mikesan1190, I'm sorry you are going through this, it is unfortunate that some people, once they get a little promotion, it simply goes to their little heads. You should think logically, #1. How long have you been in your current position? #2. Do you like your job? (This is a very important question because if you don't like what you do, you will not be an effective or productive employee.) #3. Did you do "all the hard work" before? #4. Isn't there a grievance person in place that you can go too, that is not your superior manager?...if he or she is a manager, then someone must be his or her boss. In 15 years on my job I've had 3 supervisors...2 were crap, the one supervisor that I have now and have had for the past 10 years was a Summer Youth worker who started here straight out of some college, she is young enough to be my daughter and is highly respectful of me and treats me very well...have never had a problem with her and even if I make a mistake she has a way of speaking that is non-offensive and always very respectful. I feel I am very fortunate. I hope everything works out for you and #5. Whatwith the economy and the jobless rates...can you find another job? Take care and please ponder the questions because at this point, the most important thing is for you to be employed. Good luck. ~G~

Well one thing is to know, how is he related to you your work. Is the work being given to you part of you your duties as a newly installed manager in your area. I guess as a manager it is you who is supposed to be delegating task from your subordinates and the only one that can give you an additional task is your immediate superior if there is one higher in your position.

It is really hard when a co-worker gets promoted and suddenly you are not an equal to him. Suddenly he is giving orders and you are not used to taking them from him. He is just doing his job. Usually a part of such a promotion is that that person does not have to do the jobs that everyone hates all the time. They can now delegate those jobs to others like you. Did your previous manager do these harder jobs? I mean it could be that the position has gone to his head a bit but it also could be that he is just doing his job.

A wise man once said that things you hate most make other things look better. so do something you hate even worse or observe the life of people who are in a lower position than you and i am sure you will feel much better