sleeping with the lights on

Its very unhealthy to sleep with lights on ,If he admits it or not he is sleep deprived. He should probably see a sleep specialist, who can help figure out why he needs the lights on in the first place. If it would stem back to something from his childhood ,he may need to be advised by family doc. With the lights on its impossible to get the natural sleep aid called melatonin,,which are bodies produce naturally. I have only heard of this before with kids ,the normal solution being to turn lights off after they have fallen asleep.You right in saying its a BIG problem seeing if he don't want to change it ,they may have to sleep in separate bed rooms.This would be a shame to have this burden in a new marriage as its so important to be together for bonding.

Use a blue light bulb in one of the lamps and leave that on all night. It gives enough light to see but not bright enough to bother someone who likes to sleep with it dark.

the answer may be as simple as sleeping in another room. I love my hubby immensely. Sometimes, he snores. So I sleep elsewhere. There are times he cannot sleep next to me, and he goes to another room. Not ideal I grant you. But you can love one another and not be in the same room for purposes of sleep.

I think it is a matter of understanding that could resolve their problem. It is not really a big issue if you come to think about it. For two people who are in love to one another they can just talk about it and make some agreement. Maybe if she will just talk to him in a nice way and make him understand the situation, probably the guy can gradually adopt to sleep with lights off. It is really up to them to solve it because i think it's ridiculous if they break up just because of that crazy reason.

One of them should sacrifice. I think the one with less problem about lights should just consider his/her partner. But if both of them can't sleep with lights on or off then maybe the one that wants the lights on sleeping should sleep first while the other one who can't sleep with lights should just allow his/her partner or wait for his/her partner to sleep first. While waiting for his/her partner to sleep first he/she can ready anything on bed like magazines or even watch tv. And when time comes that the one who wants to sleep with lights on is asleep the other one can now turn off the light and sleep soundly. Problem solved. shadow41

Try a night light one with low wattage(like 25watts) for him to use on his side. My sista has the same problem. Tell her to hang in there it'll get better.

Maybe they could start by lowering the level of brightness of the lights - you can add a dimmer to the light switch or replace the bulb in a lamp with a smaller bulb, maybe eventually getting to just a night-light on his side of the bed or something similar. During this process, she may need to get an eye mask to wear so that she is in total darkness while he still has his light.

My husband was used to sleeping with the t.v. on, but I didn't get good enough sleep with it on so he turned it off. I also didn't like the door open so he started to shut it for me. We cuddled so that our respective fears of the night were resolved by just simply knowing we have each other and noting would happen... Maybe suggesting to your niece that they cuddle and coo each other in the night to see if that helps with the boyfriend's not being able to sleep without the light on. Maybe even just getting a night light. My husband and I have a boot light in our room.

Well if we have to look deeper this issue is not a big problem or not a problem at all. They need to talk to each other and one should give way. They cant make this issue as a hindrance not marry. I believe that all things possible in a good talk.

Hi Godmother, In my view it's really a tiny or minor problem to a couple who love each other, they can solve this little issue by themselve. If they really love each other, they must have to face so many problems and difficulties in their long life, including happiness and tears, there are so long way for them to go,to struggle. So, they should talk and figure it out easily. Right? Jack

I always think that love is easy, but getting along with each other in life is hard. I am sure you niece and her boyfriend are falling in love right now, but they did not live together. Marriage needs the wisdom to solve the problem. For the guy of your niece, there should be some problems( I did not mean to offend) that he can only fall asleep with the light on. I suggest that he should go to the psychologist to solve the problem. Marriage is easier to get the break if they always make the concession on the unsolved problems. Once a bad habit formed, it is quite hard to get rid of it. Have a nice day.

Hi, Godmother! Yes, I can sleep with the lights on, but only in case I am realy tired. If I am not I probably couldn't sleep with hours.

They will work through it... It may be something as simple as a night light in place. He may have issues from childhood that he feels safe with a light on.(If so he should see a specialist) He may also like I have night blindness... Which when the lights are off in a dark room its not just dark its BLACK!!! It is one of the worse feeling to know you are waking up your partner in the middle of the night disturbing their sleep, just to go to the bathroom because you cant see and are walking into everything including the walls. I actually have a street light that shines in my bedroom window now. Its not so bright to keep you up all night it shines in the window just enough that if I had to get up Im not gonna kill myself doing so. I also keep a small light on in the kitchen and a dim lamp on in the living room. This way if I ever have to get up because of a noise etc. I can see. They will find what works. Just tell your niece to talk with him be patient and if need be see an optometrist and/or counselor.

lol there are only 2 resons i can think of that one gets use to sleeping with the lights on 1. you are from alaska born and raised 2. you have done a little time where you are in the lights 24-7 lol good luck with the prob to reslove the issue i would just tell him to get use to it

How about a dim light. Like a nite light. Or separate bedrooms. This is for sure something they want to figure out now before getting married.

compromise. either he can sleep with a night light on and her get used to it and him. or else, they can sleep in seperate rooms why dont they try that? or dont get married and date each other forever. if you are in love whats the problem with that? if you are not really in love theres no use in marriage

No. I haven't that kind of problem, my friend. I can sleep with light on and or off. But sometimes i like to sleep with lights and that is comfortable with me. If my happen that I have a companion in bed and want light is off no problem with me...

its not that big of a deal they can either try and see if a bright night lite wil help him but without haveing the large ceiling light on or she can get use to sleeping with a light on if they really love each other they will make it work when me and my husband first started sleeping in the same room he snored so horribly that i would never be able to sleep but now i couldnt tell you rather he even still snores or not because it no longer bothers me weve only been living together 3 months so its just a matter of give and take and getting use to it

Well, im the reverse of this case.. Cause i like to sleep in the darkness mean while my wife prefer sleep with the lights on... LMAO Maybe we could switch partner...hehehe just kidding! Well... i think, they should talk about it. to find the way out.

My goodness.. sleeping with someone whom you have not married? That is really a horrible thing in our country.. We Indians never do that(I do not know about everyone) Coming to the issue.. ask them to use zero watts bulb so that it will be neither too dark nor too lighted.. In this case adjustment comes from either side and it will increase their love