Do you have a love-hate relationship with your mother?
By zzyw87
@zzyw87 (1254)
Philippines
November 20, 2009 4:50am CST
I asked this because I have a love-hate relationship with my mom. Sometimes, she is such a cool mom, especially when she is in a great mood. We go shopping together, watch a movie, and have lunch or dinner. I feel really lucky to have such a mom like her. But sometimes,she is just so unreasonable, self-righteous, and close-minded. That is what I hate about her. Sometimes, she will just suddenly snap or get angry at people. But take note, she does not have any kind of mental problems. I guess that is just the way she is. I know I have to accept all her good and bad traits. But sometimes, I feel like our relationship tend to move backwards because of her bad qualities. Does any of you feel the same way about your own mothers? How do you characterize your relationship with your mothers?
5 responses
@today2009 (160)
• China
20 Nov 09
Can be said that no feelings for me and my mom.I have always followed the grandmother ,even if the realization of a holiday, returned home to grandma house .Something happens ,I also want to communcate with them ,but it seems that there is an insurmountable gap between us ,I do not know how to do ?
@today2009 (160)
• China
23 Nov 09
About one year.I learned in the feild.I go home half year.Tell a tures,I miss my mother!
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
20 Nov 09
It's funny but reading what you wrote about your relationship with your Mom, it reminds me a bit of my relationship with mine. Ok , now Mom doesn't snap at strangers other than me or Dad. My mother can also be fun and cool like your Mom and we do the same things as you: going shopping, out for lunch, pedicures, etc. Sometimes our arguments start when she nags me about my driving, or gets impatient with me why I didn't go through the traffic light. I usually say to her: "Who's the one doing the driving me or you? Would you like to drive then?" That's enough to make her close minded, snappy and unreasonable as well. Shopping can also be a stressful experience especially if she picks out clothes for me that I'm reluctant to try on. She'll nag and harp at me to try them on. Sometimes I will just to please her and won't care for the clothes. Well, that's when she always offers to buy them, grabs them from me and takes them to the cash desk. I have to struggle to get them out of her arms, insisting that she not waste her money as I'll never wear them. OMG you should see her freak out on me, get all hostile and give me the silent treatment. It's ridiculous and I always feel like it's a control issue with her so I resent it.
@ilyzium (1197)
• Canada
23 Nov 09
Oh well I agree with you on that. My mother is incredibly childish the way that she always sulks or has a temper tantrum over the stupidest things, if she doesn't get her own way. And yes people that don't really know here think that she seems like this really nice, shy, quiet lady...yeah only to people that don't know her.
@zzyw87 (1254)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Yes, I agree. Our moms are so alike. I think they always want to be the one in control.Plus, they are too pushy. Honestly, sometimes I feel they are so immature and are childish in the sense they also want to be followed by everyone. If what they want is not followed, they just sulk and give you the cold shoulder. My mom is the same. She only gets a bit nasty with us, her immediate family. But when in public, she has this image of a cool and nice mom.
@kerriisthebest (448)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Hi zzyw87,
Well I love my mother so much, but she can also get on my nervous so easy. When I lived with her all the time it be crazy we would always go shopping then get home and have a fight about the stupidest things. Then I got married and now we are all good cause we don't live in the same house, but if I was to go visit her and stay at her house for a few days it would be bitter sweet everyday.
@Metromanda (151)
• United States
24 Nov 09
That's interesting. I have the EXACT same relationship with my mother. She's always nagging me to do things i dont want to do, and it's so annoying, but im afraid id hurt her feelings by telling her so. Sometimes. i feel like i should just leave, like get up, and go, never come back. I dont know what it is, but she is my mom. I cant change that, and i do love her. I notice all the little things she does for me, and realize that leaving would be the stupidest thing i could do. It may be a "love-hate relationship" most of the time, but it always ends up as just love.
@will_win (222)
• India
28 Jul 10
Yes my mother is same like yours.But we have to accept the way she is...what i do to avoid when shouts at me is that don't care ,let her to shout ..........you just stand back and act as if you are listening but don't reply back ,she will gets hurt.This is what will happen at every house .........after they are all our mothers........so just bear it ..........good luck
