What is the worth?

Philippines
November 20, 2009 7:20am CST
I am a very shallow person and I must say that sometimes I feel like I am not the type of person anyone would want for a friend. What I am saying is that most of the friends I make prefer those who are outgoing and the ones who are spontaneous. A lot of them like the night life and at this point and time of my life, it's not really my concentration. I concentrate more on the benefits for my family, like watching over my sister with her new business and from time to time, I seem to be my father's guard- a noisy one. I like my life that is concentrated and surrounded with my loved ones and that is mostly my family. There's just the three of us since my mom passed away and even if my dad remarried, it's not like stepmom is living with us. She's very independent. Now, lately what I feel is that I have no connections whatsoever with my friends. I im them or send them emails from time to time, but I truly don't have friends right now that I can click with. I wonder if this is bad and if this indicates that I'm a loner. I don't consider myself a loner since I feel content with my life with my family, however, what saddens me sometimes is the fact that I seem to have lost track with keeping in touch with my friends. It does make me lonely, but what is my worth as a friend? I wonder....
2 responses
Alicesnow
@Alicesnow (78)
• China
21 Nov 09
Hello,My friend.Your situation as same as I .Maybe you not lonely.That's because you long time no contact with your friends that can cause you feel lonely.I often together with my BF,and totally overlooked the friends that always together with me previously.But now,my BF will graduate.It is obvious that I will be alone for a while.During this time ,I will get more contact with my friend.I believe as long as we with a sincere heart,we will get some good friend. So you needn't worry,please keep a happy heart..... Good luck to you.
ViolettaV1
@ViolettaV1 (5)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Dear Fortunebee, I read your post about your mom and about you and your friends. First,You are in no way a shallow person. Second i do believe that you are dealing with some guilt feelings. You are only interested in your family now and not in your friends since you believe that you were not nice to your mother while she was alive. Wrong, you did what most children do. You loved your mother, but starting your own life was not easy for you nor for your mother, for most mothers. About your dad. He has moved on, and he chose a wife that is independent. He chose her for a reason, and you need to move on whit your own life. That does not meen beeing disconnected from your father. That does not mean going out with your friends at night. Your priorities did change, and if your friends do not understand this, than you may have to make other friends with similar interest whit your own. Go somewhere guiet, look in to what you want out of life. Your Mom would want this for her doughter. You are her extention, do something that will make her proud of you. But most of all get rid of the guilt, and than start loving yourself first. Life is preciuoss, and how can you love others if you do not love yourself first. BEST OF LUCK