Why do guys do like to writting letters or e-mails they love text messaging?
By unique16
@unique16 (1531)
United States
November 20, 2009 9:03am CST
I have met more guys who love to text message than write or e-mail.
We ladies love to talk sometimes I feel I write to long of e-mail or letter and shorts seem not to get my point across or they do not understand.
When I was trying dating sites they wanted short e-mails and always want to text me.
It got expensive after while keep ing my cell phone with minutes etc...
I always feel I get too naggy or I am too whinny and I do try to change my tone and keep them uplifting or funny but not always easy too do. Then if I do not write it like I ge th question why are you not writing do you not like me anymore? Is it ego boost for them? I am off the dating sites just could not really fined the guy for me. I think I am way too picky. The other part is I do not want a person who smokes or drinks and I get the guys like why not and I tell them. I did try to go out of my comfort zone and date a guy who smoke and drank and it was too much for me. Do not get me wrong they smoke away from me but it seeing it and knowing it. The taste on there breath and yes, they used breath mints etc. Then I went on another date with who just smoke and same deal. Like I said I was too picky. Somehting about graded on my nereves. My dad smoke heavy pall mall and my mom smoke for a while. The drinking is because my ex was alcholoic etc... and so was my mom
Oh well thank for the resposnes ahead of time
Have a great weekend
Sincerley Unique16
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9 responses
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Hi unique16!
I guess most of us now prefer to text and not send emails anymore. But one can do it if you have more to say anyway
It's their style of doing it, so be that way! 
You may be picky and you have qualifications for a lover but since you can't find him for now, i know for sure it will be given to you really soon.
Good luck to you.
yan
It's their style of doing it, so be that way!
You may be picky and you have qualifications for a lover but since you can't find him for now, i know for sure it will be given to you really soon.
Good luck to you.
yan2 people like this
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Why such in a hurry anyway? lol! You have your kids to make you happy. It will come once its there, even without you knowing it
Uhmm, we don't have Thanksgiving holiday here in the Philippines though but i do have time with my families and friends.
Hope you are too!
You have your kids to make you happy. It will come once its there, even without you knowing it
Uhmm, we don't have Thanksgiving holiday here in the Philippines though but i do have time with my families and friends.
Hope you are too! 1 person likes this
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Hello Yan_Blue8,
Thanks for the hope here. I sure hope so... only time will tell on finding someone for me. I hope you have a wonderful time with your family and friends over the Thanksgiving holiday.
Thanks for the response here
Sincerely Unique16
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@mommyjewel (39)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Texting is so much easier for some people. I know guys that are definaltly not talkers and would rather have a conversation via text than an actual face to face conversation. Some of my friends that are women are the same way. Trying to have a conversation with them face to face or over the phone is like talking to a brick wall. I either get one word answers or I end up doing all the talking. Half the time I do not know if they are even listening to me. At least with a text message I can get more of a response out of people and actual know that they are listening or paying attention to me.
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Hello mommyjewel
I agree with you with some people not being talkers but with texting you cannot tell if they are lieing or pully your leg or if they think the conversation is silly etc... with phone or talking you get a tone pitch of there voice and see of getting feeling they are into you and the conversation. Do think the phone and talking will go the way side all to texting? Just a thought many years down the road and generations to come.
Thanks for the response
Have a great Thanksgiving week
Sincerely Unique16
@moneymommy (3418)
• United States
20 Nov 09
I think all the younger people these days enjoy texting instead of talking.
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Hello moneymommy,
Very nice to meet you here
Yes, children do love to text. I think if they could text in there sleep they would (lol) I am showing my age and my time period too.
Thanks for the response
Have a great weekend
Sincerely unique16
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@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
20 Nov 09
hai Unique16,
hmm..personally, I do love to write but not to everybody :) ..guess texting is way more convinient, no wonder many prefer to use it (both boys and girls)..
it's OK to be picky, I don't smoke nor drink, still, for all this years I only have been in relationship once..and it bothers me not :)
I believe when it comes to relationship, quality counts rather than quantity
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Hi Syaryel
Very nice to meet you here. Thank you and I agree quality counts. Sometimes I feel it is me that is holding me back but it something I am not willing to sacrifice the smoking and drinking. Smaller pool. I am getting used to be alone and few qulaity friends like 1 or 2. My children think I way too much a hermit. (lol) wait till they are older and out of college how the friend pool shrinks drastically.
Have a wonderful weekend
Sincerely unique16
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@raisinwine (97)
• Philippines
21 Nov 09
Most of the guys now prefer texting because this is the fastest way to express your feelings. Besides, texting don't require you to write many words as it is limited letters only. Maybe, another reason is because in our modern generation some of the girls don't appreciate love letters. But I'm not one of them, hahaha!
@unique16 (1531)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Hello rasinwine,
Boy what I would give to get a Love letter from a guy. I would melt in that letter especailly from I guy I care about. But that is neither here or there right now.
Thank you for the response.
I am just glad I have my lots friends here to talk too. It means alot to me.
I know there are faces behind these avatars and more stories behind these answer too. Thank you sincerely and have a great
Unique16
@soybeans612 (122)
• United States
21 Nov 09
I think most people now prefer texting because it's so convenient. You can not only text the person but call them right away to chat on a more personal level. If you think about it sometimes people might not have much to say and they might just want to see how you're doing or if you want to hang out, so texting is just a quick way of doing that, instead of turning on your computer to go through the process of contacting someone.. and not knowing when they'll be able to check it. And most people always have their phones with them and their phones are always on, so they always know when they receive a message. I love to text but I also love to write a lot in e-mails. I like when people write me long e-mails as well because it's nice to see how they're doing and what's going through their mind.
I hope you find a guy who you'll like :) unfortunately it seems like most men smoke and/or drink... but I'm sure you'll find someone nice soon :)
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Hello Soybeans612,
Thank you for the response. I understand it is the quicker way but I just miss hearing the voice behind the message etc.. I do like long e-mails too and it show they took time to write or talk to me and are making the attempt or show intentions that they care etc. I also understand many guys do not like to talk met many of them when I was doing online dating stuff. I stop was not meeting the kind men I hope I would. I think I was ment to b e single. I do not feel that in my heart so I trying other things to give my heart too. My church has Sunday school so I will be that a go this Sunday at least observe and see... I will let you guys know how it goes along the way. I think is where my focus needs to be.
Thanks and Have a great day
Sincerley Unique16
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
20 Nov 09
unique16,
Don't get me wrong, but can you help it when you are trying to get acquainted online. I mean what else can they use other than tools with a screen and a keyboard.
I suppose you may have to stick and try to stay comfortable with texts, templates and whatever is digital. Still having issues?
Then, I'd just have to encourage you to widen your social circle to actual real life ones. I am sorry but in love, I just feel the need of having someone in our lives to walk with, side by side and hand-in-hand.
Take care and have a nice day.
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
20 Nov 09
Hello skysuccess,
Thank you for response. Yes, I will hopefully get back into it. I feel I wearing two left shoes doing this texting stuff and online stuff. I surely miss the one on one talking and getting the feel of there tone and voice. I guess I fall in love with my ears and no voice it like yukky... I understand where you are coming from.
Have a great Thanksgiving week
Sincerely Unique16
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@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
20 Nov 09
i guess guys like different things just like us ladies. i know one guy who does not use any techonolgy, as in he's not got a computer, so no internet. i'm trying to get him to learn how to txt, but he's not bothered on doing that either.
no harm in being picky about who you date either.
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Hello weasel81,
Thanks for the response. Yes, I know a guy just like your guy he finally broke down and got a computer. Now he is finally thinking of getting his first cell pohone he is in his 55 years old. He been asking a lot questions about it but is afraid everyone will bug him even more once he gets the cell phone. He does have children and grandchildren and I keep telling just for that reason alone he should get one and only give out the number to his closest friends so he does not get bomarded with phone calls etc...
Thanks about it is ok being picky. It will just take me longer to fined him.
I am thinking to help sunday school children at the church I been going too. That may help get me more focus on me and I need to feel needed and wanted. Children love attention with my two daughters going be college next fall I want to things for me now. I am so tired of doing things for them all the time and I know it seems selfish but I need to fill me back up and just do what I want when I want.
I had just a micro managed life with being single and two children and being here and being there for them and working two jobs making sure money is there and they getting majority of all the time...
Thanks again for the response
Have a great day
Unique16
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
20 Nov 09
Well I mostly like writing emails but I love also text message ,you know I am not talkative too much so I can not talk on phone for a long time so I think it is better way to express your self.Happy Mylotting
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