Shall I persist in the love for “begging money”?

Well that sounds like a one way relationship. If she continues she should expect to spend all her money.

Hi Neulichuang, I have dated men like that. I have no doubt that this guy cares about her and is sincere in saying that he loves her. Still, what she has to consider is if she really wants to be with a guy that has so little self-pride that he would expect her to constantly be the one to pay for everything. I did not pay living expenses for my own kids once they were grown. I raised them to be independent. I would definitely not pay expenses for a boyfriend . A loan is one thing but no...I don't owe him a living. I don't even mind paying for dates but if it is one-sided all the time then I do.

neulichuang, I just do not think that by adding facts and theories could actually help with the analysis or tell much for your colleague. Besides, your colleague should be mature and resourceful on her part than actually depend on our analysis when we are not directly or have an in depth knowledge from all sides. In the first place, I feel that there are just so many aspects to this problem and although the facts may be blatant - I just cannot help wonder if your colleague's decision has something to do with her boyfriend's family background or the absent of it. Going along this line, I wonder how an individual can pursue tertiary education without parental or family support and make others suffer at their expense. Besides, I am aware that there are so many solutions where one can overcome in the areas of tuition fees like study loans, scholarships and etc.. I just do not find why your colleague has to support him. Sometimes, I wonder if the human gullibility has overwhelmed her logic and senses. So, I think she will have to live with her decisions and that you cannot do much other than playing a supportive role in her times of need of a shoulder or ear. Take care and have a nice day.

If I was in your friend's position, I would stop meeting him so often, especially since he seems like, not to be rude but I can't find another word to describe him, a 'leech'. Maybe he really does care, but if he cared more, he wouldn't always ask for me to pay for him. I would really question his feelings for me because if you think about it, visiting me is for free; all that food and a place to stay? If I was in his position, I would also feel very tempted to continue on this relationship because I wouldn't have to pay for much. What I would do, is probably stop meeting so often and limit it, or just stick with chatting online and webcamming as an alternative. A girl's got to have money to spend on herself ^-^