How far will you go to help?

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Allow me to vent my pent-up emotions right now for I need to unload it. My subject, how far will you go to help? How far are you really willing to help? My family is currently helping the medical needs of my uncle who has TB and kidney problems. At present, we are subsidizing the expenses. Since the treatment will run for 6 months, it could be a little heavy (financially) on our part and we might not be able to afford it anymore. We thought that it was best to seek the help of the other relatives and if they could share whatever they can afford to. I sent a text message to all concerned and asked if they could give a little to help in the medical expenses. I have enumerated the estimated monthly expenses and the current total expenses. One, who was not earning that much responded well. Another one, earning quite well responded otherwise. The latter responded that he was aware of our uncle's sickness and even prior to that he was already helping the family. We are helping but we are not counting how much we have given, in his exact words. He said that we need not tell him how much one has shared. He further states that we need not tell him the accounting of all of the expenses for he knew how it goes when one member gets sick. Honestly, I was taken aback when I read this text. This response came from a person we least expected. What we want here, is for everyone to share whatever they could to prolong the life of a sick person. We are not here to extort money from him. I just felt that informing them of the detailed expenses was just the proper thing to do. My family is doing this because we want to make sure that my uncle finishes the 6-month TB treatment because if not, it will just go back. But it seems people took it wrongly. To make the matters worse, the son of my uncle said earlier that when his father got sick before, a relative help but nothing of this sort came up. Now that we are helping, we are sending text messages to everybody asking for more help and in effect, complaining. Was I wrong in asking for their help? Was I wrong that I mentioned the current total medical expenses? Please enlighten me and I will accept and appreciate it if you tell me that I was wrong. Thank you.