Do You Allow Your Daughter To Marry In Some Other Religion Leaving Your Religion
By priyavivek
@priyavivek (681)
India
November 20, 2009 10:56am CST
Hi friends, Nowadays i think love marriages are most common AND people started encouraging those who are doing love marriage and they started to accept the intercaste marriages also. Do you allow your daughter to marry in some other religion leaving your religion. If you are following some religion will you be satisfied when your daughter marrying in other religion.
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11 responses
@rameshkumaar57 (5908)
• India
29 Nov 09
I will certainly not allow my son or daughter to marry outside my religion. For me my religion is everything. Since my daughter is already married, if my son, marries, somebody from other religion, she has to change to my religion, or it is the end of the relation ship between me and my son.
I wonder why you have asked only about the daughter and not the son.Do you think that father or mother will have a seperate rule for the daughter and one for the son. No, both are equal to me.
@priyavivek (681)
• India
30 Nov 09
hi rameshkumar ,
i asked the question for daughters only because if a girl marries a boy , in our indian society it is considered like the girl should follow the religion of a that boy only.
But from the boy's side , he will be still in his religion only and allowed to follow the worshipping of his religion. It is like the boy is still considered to be in his religion only.
But the girls are expected to worship her husband's religion and to leave their own religion. it is totally like they are to exit from their religion according to the society.
that's why i had put this question for daughters and not for the sons.
Ofcourse , apart from this i agree that all the daughters and sons are equal.
By the way , thank you for your response
@rcombos (57)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
As long as the person that my daughter is going to marry is a good person, responsible and will not hurt my daughter then it will be alright with me. There is just one question that my daughter will have to answer and that is if she is truly happy with this person. If she is then by all means marry the person.
@murderistic (2278)
• United States
21 Nov 09
I am a Christian and my husband is Muslim... I never left my religion, in fact I've only grown stronger in it. It was a tough thing to put my parents through, especially my dad, but I think that has more to do with the discrimination Americans have against Muslims more than the fact that he was of a different religion. But once they got to know him they grew to love him and accept him. I don't try to convert him, and he doesn't try to convert me. It's all about respect.
@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
21 Nov 09
I dont force my kids to believe what I believe
they are free to believe whatever they want to
I have to agree with Galena above
marrying someone of a different faith doesnt have to mean leaving your own religion
I want my kids to be happy and if their future spouse treats them good and makes them happy then I dont care what religion they are
@deepamoorthy (239)
• India
22 Nov 09
i can't allow such a thing .inter caste atleast acceptable i love my religion very much and i want generation to be the same .my be i may sound narrow minded but i can't show my self broad minded i can't imagine such a thing .anyway future is in not in our hands.hope nothing happens beyond our wishes.
@prasant_sp3214 (137)
• India
21 Nov 09
That doesn't depend on religion, if he is good and can take care of my daughter I will not object that.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
22 Dec 09
I will allow my daughter or my son to marry anyone they choose, whatever their faith. I know perfectly happy, married people who are interfaith. People even conduct interfaith marriages now. As a person of faith, I don't think God cares if you marry someone who worships Him in a different guise or even if they don't worship at all. Love in a marriage is, I feel, God's number one priority.
@Galena (9110)
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20 Nov 09
why would marrying someone of another religion mean leaving your religion?
and if a man marries someone of another religion, is he leaving his religion too?
of course not.
religion is something you feel in the depths of your bones. you can't just decide to change it. either you believe it or you don't.
if you told me up was down, I wouldn't believe you. even if we were married.
my husband is loosely buddhist, and I'm Pagan.
and we both still hold true to our beliefs and hold true to each other.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
20 Nov 09
Hello friend,
Here in my country this is just a natural thing(love marriages/intercaste and other races/foreigners,including religion matter)
In India i know this is not a common thing since your culture and tradition is an arrange marriages.
This really makes a big difference and i am sure not everyone has an open mind to accept the big changes in your society.
But,this is happening now in this modern times...no religion,culture nor tradition is being spared for the global modernization.
I know it's not easy my friend,but,sometimes we must admit the reality.
There maybe lot of changes,advantages and disadvantages.
It really sad that even cultures and tradition had to suffer for those changes.
It would be better if we can preserve some of our traditions and cultures too.
In my opinion,religion is not a big deal as long as my daughter will marry a man that believes in God and a good person.
@priyavivek (681)
• India
23 Nov 09
thank you jaiho for your response. you are right we have to admit the reality in this modern time.
@neelimaravi (1793)
• India
20 Nov 09
hi priya, now-a-days, love marriage is commen for everybody, if i had this situation in my family, first i will convince my daughter, if she is not liesen to me, then i leave her for her wish. i will cooperate with her for her life. thankyou, have a nice day.
@ruchimom (280)
• Australia
23 Dec 09
Hi
I did the same thing.
I am Christian amrried to a Hindu and I did that.I won't mind my daughter marrying into otehr religion ,because I strongly feel that having a secular enviorment athome helps thans being a rigid one.
As long as she finds a man of her virtue,education and she is of teh right age to marry i don't mind the relisgion factor.