You give him gift but receive complains in return...

hi lovelyn^^;; i have done this to my mother several times you know she likes buying clothes for me but on the contrary im not a clothes fan neither do i love shopping. i don't like her buying some things really that i can't use as i find it a waste. oh well sure i can't do this to other people and as you say, just a plain thank you will do or maybe add a little lip service like "wow, it's so nice!" is one way of appreciating their effort to give such gifts. i would suggest, you would not give him gifts as usual. i mean, pause for a while and i am sure he will miss receiving gifts from you. another way that i understand is, he is just protecting his big ego or just pretending not to like your gift

I personally would not have bought this Person any more Gifts no matter how much I liked/loved this Person, actually I would have just got him/her a Gift Voucher to be honest and let them buy themselves, I know it is not the same but it would spare you hurt I know how much that hurts when People are not grateful

Hi, lovelyn. I agree 100% with you! My mother-in-law reminds me of this. I truly feel that if someone dislikes what you give to them, they should keep any mean comments to themselves. You are right. The fact that you even remembered to think about this person is more important than the gift itself. I wished that people could understand this. Then maybe they would not be so critical! It is very sad that peoplehttp://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/sad.gif don't think about others feelings before they react..

The concept of gratitude and politeness is lost on some people I'm afraid. The way I see it, if somebody gives me a gift, I'll be thankful and put on a smile no matter how much I'm not particularly fond of it deep down inside. If they have the generousity to take the time to get a gift and spend money on you, then the last you can do is show some appreciation in return. It appears that this person is consistently rude about your gift ideas, and there are numerous ways you could resolve this. The first is ask them what it is exactly what they want (within reason, obviously). I know this utterly destroys the surprise element, yet at least they cannot possibly express disappointment (unless they are just out to annoy you or give you a hard time). If the gift is intended to be a surprise, ask somebody else to find out what this person wants and get them to pass the information along to you. That way, not only are you giving that person no excuse to complain about the gift you have given them, but you are also maintaining the element of surprise. Or, why not give them a gift voucher for a shop they frequently visit? I live by the statement that "you can't go wrong with a gift voucher," and it's remained true for me throughout many years. However, if this person has angered you to the point where you absolutely cannot bear the thought of handing over a gift to them, simply don't bother. Why should you put up with their unnessecary rudeness if all you are doing is something nice for them by giving them a gift? Save the money and use it to buy a gift for somebody who would actually APPRECIATE it.

Some people are not good at expressing their thanks. I would talk with him and explain that his comments hurt my feelings. I am someone who puts a lot of thought and consideration into even the simplest of gifts. I would never tell someone I didn't like their gift even if I didn't. I would thank them graciously for thinking of me. It's rude and hurtful and socially unacceptable. Once I talked with him if he didn't get the message I would not continue to purchase gifts for him. Another tact would be to purchase something like a VISA gift card. Then he couldn't object to the color, style, store or anything else. If he objected to the amount I would never speak to him again :)

hi lovelyn,,,maybe his too shy too show his gratitude of thanking to you ^^...YOU GUYS THEY they take their pride coz they know that their the one that is giving that accepting ^^....and by the way i accepting any gifts ^^and accept it gracefully ^^ aheheheheheh

I'm really sorry. I can understand your sad feelings completely because I once had the same experience as you do. When I was in relationship with the guy, I thought he was really special to me because I had been going out with several other guys and failed to find the right one before I met him, I regarded him as my soul mate, and thought about him everyday. When he said he needed something, I kept it in mind and bought what he needed for him afterwards. He was kind of taciturn and was not good at expressing himself, so I thougt he might feel very happy and surprised when receiving my presents. The fact was he said nothing when I gave him presents. It's natural to feel some disappointment at first. I persuaded myself that he might want to thank me, but he just didn't know how to say. But the same thing happened several times afterwards. Then I realized he wasn't worth my attention and love. I was justing wasting my time and energy on him, so I chose to break up. I've never regretted for what I did. I believe everyone was born with a thankful heart. We should know how to express our gratitude when receiving attention from others.

Wow lovelyn, sounds very familiar. Although you don't hear it, but you get to feel and see it. As they say, silence is the most powerful cry. Well, I should know that person better so he or she will be delighted with the gift next time. I'd still give that person a gift. :). And I won't be giving up.

First of all, this person is quite rude and does not deserve your continued generosity. However, there is an art to giving a gift. Be sure that when you give someone a gift you are thinking of them when you select it. Do not just select something that you like or you think is nice. For instance, if you have known someone many years, you should know what his or her favorite color is. Selecting a sweater for this person in a color they hate would not be a thoughtful gift.

I had it plenty of times already but I tried to look at it in a different light. My in-laws would always say things like, we already have plenty of shirts still unused, or I have a wallet given to me by so and so that is still in the cabinet. There was even an instance that they showed me a still-in-the-box gift from a relative that has not been used at all. I was of course hurt because my parents are very appreciative of anything you give them so I was not used to such comments. But I realized that my in-laws really appreciate the presents but they have a really weird way of saying "you should not have bothered". So just think of it that way.

may be you got to understand him more like his interests wat is his fav color nd wat kind of style he likes nd if spend some more time with him u get answers to all these nd then u would be able to present gifts which cannot be ignored or atleast u get a thanks from him.if all this doesnt work then it would be ideal u cross over the roles.Ask him to get some gift for u nd then u find some fault with his gift then he would know how much it would hurt ignoring the gift our loved ones bring us.hope this works.gud day.

I know I hate when people get me things only because I feel they should save their money, but even if someone does buy me something, I always thank them and I'm always appreciate them for being so kind. Personally, if I gave someone something and I felt offended in the process, such as, they didn't say thank you or didn't seem to care that I got them something, I'd never get them anything again. I know some people don't know how to express their feelings in the right way or just don't know how to say thanks but after a while it's like, if you have those problems try to fix them or try to make more an attempt instead of making your friend feel so lousy. And if they complained about how they couldn't use it or didn't like it, I would simply say "Okay.. let maybe I should return it back to the store."

This just seems very sad to me. I am sorry this happened. If he thought you were very special as well... this makes me wonder why he would say such things and keep them to himself. If he complains why not just give him nothing. Or if you really want to give him something else next time.. maybe a gift card? I hope you will be appreciated next time for whatever you might give. You seem like your a very generous person and at some point your going to get back the goodness that you shared with others.

It is a bad habit when receive the gifts then complain it. But some people is difficult to express his real feeling. Maybe he say it is waste, but in fact, he very like it. If he say he does not this color , this style or others, maybe it is not suitable to him. Anyway we should say ths when we receive the gifts.I have no interest to send the gifts to someone if he complain it.