Well...
By shell2784
@shell2784 (752)
United States
November 20, 2009 11:47pm CST
My 2 girlfriends that I have talked about previously have informed me that they will stay thru the winter - but only because they all ready got the fuel tank filled. At 33 years old (daughter - has NEVER had a job, SSI employee, so to speak) and 49 years old (mom... started collecting ssi when she had the daughter) they can't handle the responsibility of getting 2 or 3 days a week.
So come spring time they're moving out and I'll have to find new daycare and such and such.
My husband and I went thru hell to get those appartments set up for them just the way they wanted them b/c they "couldn't see themselves living anywhere else" kind of thing.
I bent over backwards for these ladies... and I guess I don't think that they shouldn't have the right to move so to speak - but, I dont know. We had an agreement that they'd stay in the appartments helping me out with Jos until she started Kindergarten... right around 2 years... and I guess I was banking on it.
I feel like I"m being selfish, but not at the same time. I've made sure they haven't gone without anything kind of thing and I guess I feel stabbed in the back.
Anyway, I more or less just needed to vent a little, but its 1247am and the normal people I would talk to are the 2 ladies mentioned above... or they're sleeping. lol
Thanks for listening :)
3 responses
@Raven7317 (691)
• United States
21 Nov 09
Good morning, Shell. I read your original post; they are most definitely taking advantage of your kind soul! They should be so unbelievably grateful to your kindness and they seem to be forgetting that you are under NO obligation to do some of the things that you do! They seem to have fallen into the "I'm entitled" rut and it's carrying over to areas that are unacceptale - YOUR FRIENDSHIP!
In the meantime, I hope that these two 'friends' will come to see how lucky they are - I hope you will cease all your very kind but unappreciated extra measures for them. Perhaps they will see how good you were to them and perhaps they will learn to appreciate your help. Maybe, in the next few months, once they see that they are being unreasonable, that they are taking advantage of you, they will change their minds about leaving - and mend their ways of treating you! And maybe, once you are all calm, not angry anymore, maybe you will all come to a NEW agreement that will suit you all. Maybe a new lease with certain things outlined clearly for them and for you... I do wish you luck with this - it's terrible to realize that people who you consider friends are not truly your friends.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
21 Nov 09
Yeah I agree. I think I'm going to tell them that I can't afford for them to do laundry down here anymore - and i think I'm going to enjoy MY car a little bit more. And a few other things.
It may be for the best in the end. But the reasons she gave me were just... I don't know. She said "its not convenient for my friends to come here" Its 10 miles from where she lived before - she wants to go back into subsdidized housing.
Dam it - the pair of them wanted a fresh start. Out of the subsd. building, out in the country. They wanted to be able to sit outside, and have camfires in the summer - they wanted to start a new lives for themselves - I guess they decided that they really are lower class and would rather reap all the benefits of being "low income".
I guess lets just see what happens - but I too feel my husband and I are being taken advantage of.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to this. I'm just lost.
@shell2784 (752)
• United States
21 Nov 09
If you'd like an ear full - then by all means put in a friend request. lol
@saizo6 (2199)
• United States
21 Nov 09
Hmm...that's tough, especially since it seems that you guys had some kind of arrangement going on. I'd feel a bit betrayed too if I were in your shoes. But then again there's not really anything you could do about it. It is their choice to go after all. Hopefully, everything works out for you in the end.
