how do you handle falling in love with a friend

I would never fall in love with a friend as that is when if things dont work out you have lost a friend as things are never the same again no matter how hard you try.

i think that's one of the biggest problem i have..?

Hmm this is a difficult situation. I think it really depends on the people. I think that for a succesful relationship you need to be friends with the person first. By that, i mean you need to hang out with them and have fun and LIKE spending time with them for their personality. So being friends with some one first is definatly a good idea. However relationships sometimes dont work and then youre friendship would most likely also be ruined. And also, once you have told the person how you feel the whole atmosphere will change. If it was me i would probably try to live with my feelings for a while, until i was more sure of his feelings. If i knew for a fact he didnt like me then i would say nothing, and try to control my feelings so that it didnt affect our friendship. The way i would look at it is: If he didnt like me in that way, then nothing will ever happen between us and there is little point telling him how i feel incase it ruins anything. If i knew he did like me in that way i might be brave and tell him how i feel, or i would definatly hint to him that i liked him in that way so that he could then tell me how he felt. If he does feel the same then i think it is probably worth the risk, you might have something 10 times more amazing than just a good friendship! Maybe a good idea in that situation would be to get a friend to ask for you, but not obviously, so that they can find out who he liked!