What are the rules of chatting ,who should say ' hi 'first ?

Hello my friend ronnyb Ji, Well, your annoyance is natural. In such cass, my children always suggest to keep quiet, but my hubby is very much fond of initiating first without being biased by anythin.He is of the view that a person who leads first becomes leader in real sense in life. Others are lef as followers. A self steem will prevail. I do not think, it will harm you. May God bless You and have a great time.

I only have very close Friends on my IM and if I see them come on they will say Hi but I sometimes appear ofline so they will not see me on I will then say hi But I agree with what you are saying and it does seem that they do not want to talk unless you do

Forgive me if iam one of them. From the tagged site i get many request for my messenger ID. There have been a few that have been annoying to me in the past. I also work online and they open the messenger ID and expect ASAP response. Meanwhile i may have a window open and working. So after a few problem people who liked ringing the BUZZ i deleted a lot of people from my list. Now im selective in giving out my ID. Mainly because of all the request. Right now im in a transistion ive gotten a new computer that has vista on it and im waiting for the pony express to bring my free disk upgrade for windows7. I didnt even bother setting the home page or downloading the messenger. Just because i will have to do it all again ina few days.

i WOULD DELETE ALL THOSE SILLY IMMATURE PEOPLE TO. hOW CHILDISH FOR GROWN PEOPLE TO ACT LIKE THAT. THEY NEED TO GET A LIFE.

I think there should be no rules for chatting. Some days I feel like chatting, and other days I don't. Sometimes I chat with one friend, and then the next a different. I think that some people might spend too much time on the net, and should relax and do something else. After all, in real life we don't spend every waking second with our friends, chat should be the same. Peace!

Usually when someone adds me, I don't start a conversation. I wait for them to say hi, hey or something like that. If they added me just for adding why would I be boring them every time they log in? I think there are no rules of chatting...

I don't know why it would matter to those people that you don't speak to them first. If they want to have a conversation with you, then they should just say "Hi" or ask you if you are busy. I know a lot of people who have there instant messengers up when they are at work, and I would never expect for them to just automatically say hi to me every time that I log on to the internet. I wonder if there is a way that you can make yourself invisible to these people. Some of the messengers have an option to show your self as invisible to certain people unless you want to show yourself. I think that this might be the thing to do. Then again, I don't blame you for deleting them either. Good luck with these relationships, and have a great day!

i don't think your being petty, it does get annoying when you have to start the conversation first. i don't use chat that much, most the time those who are on my list are people i don't really talk to unless i see them in person. if i want to talk to someone i will say hi, and let it go from there.

I used to chat as much as you do - but not anymore. And yes, I used to have "rules" like you do and hated it when people break those said "rules." But you have to understand that they might have other rules - that are not conforming to yours. I think that you should just chill and don't berate yourself over such things. If they didn't say hi - you say hi. If they don't give you a hi back. Move on! Life is too short to stress over such things. And most importantly, chat is suppose to be fun. When you let people stress you out like that - it losses its charm. So just keep on having fun chatting - and screw 'em.