your ex girl friends wedding.

Its so sad to hear their story! It really happens especially if the parents would really insist to do things like this and not like that! I pity your friend. He must love the girl and end up not with her because of that reason. He is right now hurting. As for me, i won't go on her wedding though she requested for me to come. She hurted me much when she left because of the other guy which her parents told her to marry. Its the worst pain I could have ever feel if i do attend.

Its so sad to hear their story! It really happens especially if the parents would really insist to do things like this and not like that! I pity your friend. He must love the girl and end up not with her because of that reason.

This has happened to me in my life. Exactly the way it has been with your friend. I was requested by my ex to attend her wedding, fixed as per parents wishes.And attend I did. It is a very very painful experience though. It was a great effort to keep calm and not break down once. If you tell me what I did was foolish, I have no answer. My other family members didn't like this one wee bit. There was only one reason why I did attend though. It was because in my day, India was more traditional place and any discovery of a girl having had a previous love affair could have her marriage in peril. I attended, for the sole reason that should there be a mishap of that kind, I could standby for the completion. But by God's grace nothing of that sort happened and everything is fine and wonderful till this day. A man who had been truly in love would/should be able to give up his love with as much equanimity (albeit with a lot of pain) as he would have celebrated it had ha had his way. One must respect traditions and more so the girl's decision to go with her parents' wishes. There is no great achievement in courting hatred. After her wedding and in time we had ceased to cross each others paths. I wish it to be this way for the rest of our mortal lives.

that depends. if they don't love each other any more, then it is no need to take part in the marriage at all. if they still love each other, and the girl is really forced to marry some one, the man should be brave to take the girl away. love should deserve respect. no matter what happens. but anyone else couldn't make the decision for the man. good luck anyway.

oh well maybe he can go there and protest because it's something he wouldn't sure agree with right? does he still love her? if yes, how could he witness the love of his life be taken by someone...?? if he doesn't love her anymore, then maybe he could attend for old times sake.

Oh i fell sorry for your friend...i hate parents thnking and doing like that...its annoying that they able to control other persons lives,,,I mean whats their problem,,,

That is so uncalled for. I would advise him to go to the wedding and to tell him to tell her how he feels. Maybe he can talk her out of it. Even though I'm sure we all love our parents if not for any other reason that their our parents, sometimes they can go a little overboard and I'm sorry but who she marrys isn't really thier decsion. If over the age of 18 it should be her choice and who she loves.

It seems really unfair. But different cultures handle a situation like this differently. I hope your friend will find happiness. It may take time. In my opinion he should stay away and try to heal.

awwwww, soo unfair. they should fight for their relationship . . . the girl should decide for herself, and not her mom. . but if there's really nothing to do, i think it would be better if your friend won't go to the marriage. both of them will be hurt, besides there will be no good outcome unless your friend will stop the marriage.

I think If it was me, I would have gone there with good wishes n flowers

That is so unfair. If I were your friend I would attend the wedding and I will protest against it. I will tell the priest that the marriage is not due to love. If your friend's girlfriend is getting married in catholic church then priest won't allow marriage like that especially if someone objects. I can only imagine how much pain your friend is dealing with right now. He should fight for his love. shadow41

Hi hireshd: first of all what a big dilemma as you mention but i think he must not go to the wedding just because she wants it. You have told us that she didn't marry your friend because of her parents but at the same time i think that she's an adult, she is rational and she knows what's right for her and she can do what she considers that's the best and not only to make her parents happy. If I'd be your friend i'd feel hurt. Tell him that he don't have to do something against his feelings. By the way, why does she want that he goes to that wedding. Thanks for mentioning this complicated subject. Have a nice day.

Tell your friend to follow his heart. IF he takes anyone elses advice he may make a choice he has to live with for the rest of his life. Just be there for your friend, but let him decide what is best. Either way there will be pain.