Romantics a Question.

I think that if someone doesn't like certain types of gifts, then they should tell their significant other from the beginning so that there isn't any confusion and there aren't any hurt feeling later on down the road. Just because one doesn't like to receive flowers as gifts, doesn't mean that they aren't romantic.

Hi sarahruthbeth22, I have told my love not to bother with flowers, although I have sent him flowers before (guys rarely get them from girls so it was a nice surprise for him). I do love flowers but I would prefer something more permanent, maybe a plant that flowers but cut flowers from a florist will wilt and look wilted and unsightly, plus it is something my mom used to always say, "It's a waste of money, just give me the money instead" lol. A note, or email to tell me he's thinking of me is so much more to me. Just because you don't want flowers sent to you, doesn't mean you are not a romantic, maybe you are just romantic in other ways, (hockey tickets maybe?) The idea of romance is to do something that the other person finds special letting that person know that he knows who you are and what you like not just flowers as the good ole standby.

My husband's ex-wives hated flowers, I love them!! Romantic is different to different people. I don't like flowers because they are traditionally romantic, I like flowers because I LIKE flowers, and that's that!! If your partner truly loves you then he will understand if you like or do not like something, And if you mention that you like it or don't like it before he does it, all the better, so he won't be caught in a potentially awkward situation.

well, i wouldn't be upset cos it's a great saving! especially around valentines day when the price of mere roses go totally crazy. as for myself, I'm quite a romantic so I'd like getting flowers on my birthday and anniversary. but not valentines. my hubby and i will laugh at those people we see carrying flowers on valentines day cos they have been conned by the florists!

hai, if I were the guy, I guess I'm pretty upset if my lover didn't want me to send her flowers. perhaps a little explanation is suffice to clear things up, other than that...hmm I'm gonna be so--upset (big time) :(

That would not upset me. Although, I'm female and don't send my husband flowers. I had told my husband when we first met that I didn't like flowers. They just wither up and die anyway. So what's the point? If your going to give me something, then give me something that I can keep! Since then I've changed my mind. An occasional rose (or dozen) makes my day. I have no idea exactly what changed. I guess it's not the flower per say, but that he thought of me while he was out

If you are the kind of person who would not want your man to give you flowers because of your reasons (that I hope he knows), then I think it really would not matter and upset him. It is you, and his feelings for you, are what's important, I guess. He could give you other romantic ways or gifts that would show his love for you.

I don't think flowers have all that much to do with romance other than as a symbol. And everyone has their own idea of what romance is. I wouldn't be upset. But someone else might be. To each their own. I think it is no big deal. Hopefully a person can respect a decision to or not to receive flowers.

A person giving gifts wants to please.If you don't want flowers, great. There are a million other things I can come up with. Hmmm??? Won't expect my gift. It's unique, just like you!!!

Before we got married, my hubby loved to send me flowers at the office and sometimes, it was a pleasant surprise to me. I am not a person who is into flowers so much, but when I received the flowers, they could actually brighten up my day and warm my heart. If the situation is reversed, I won't be upset if my hubby tells me that he doesn't like me to send him flowers. He must tell me from the beginning though otherwise I won't stop pondering why he suddenly asks me to stop sending him flowers. If you see flowers in a different way, I don't think it's a matter of being romantic or not. It's just your personal view, but I don't know why you see flowers negatively. They are beautiful and men usually give flowers to their women because they see their women as beautiful as the flowers and some flowers like red roses symbolize love. Anyway, I hope your love respect your request and shouldn't be upset with you just because of that. He can always think of sending or giving you something else other than flowers.

There are people who dont like flowers, maybe somewhat they are allergic or they just plain hate it. I wouldnt be upset if my partner dont want to receive flowers. I will be more Ok with it cause i dont have to spend money buying her flowers. I know some girls who dont like chocolates either, so it really depends to a person. Flowers are really important in expressing love but there is other way of showing love. We all have a different interpretation on flowers, whats important is the action of giving or receiving it.

if a person has the same symbolism for flowers as yours,maybe that person would also not want to receive flowers. but for many people,flowers is a sign of their love for a person.it gives them the idea is very valuable just like the flowers that they have received.so if your partner thinks of that way too,maybe he/she'll be upset to know that he/she cannot give you even one flower because of that reason. maybe for you to be able to compromise to each other,why not allow him/her to give you even for just one time and then tell him/her not to give again. at least,you gave him/her chance to show his/her affection towards you and then he/she'd understand your point as well.

Looka here Ms. Sarahruthbeth, NO NO NO just beacause U don't like flowers sent/given to U isn't a sign that your not romantic, it just means U DON'T LIKE FLOWERS LADY!!LOL STOP beating yourself up about it and tell your "LOVE" to SNAP OUTTA IT AND GO BUY U SOMETHING NICE FROM TIFFANY'S instead.

Flowers can be overrated sometimes. But giving gifts is never over rated or too much trouble. I love giving gifts for the people I care about and love. I like getting gifts too though, but the fun is giving for me. I like gifts that say I belong. I love the feeling of belonging to someone or knowing they belong to me. I am one of those head-in-the-cloud romantics who think loves conquers all and endures all things. If you love someone and they love you, it's all that matters. Things will be all right in the end. It's one of the few things I believe in. It's why I have a heart in the clouds as my profile picture. Relationships are a lot of work, bu when you are dealing with the one you love, it doesn't seem like hard work, or work at all. It's something you enjoy doing, and something you miss terribly when they are not there. Any gift I would get from the one who loves me I'd deeply appreciate. My circumstances don't allow any gift exchanges so to me, a gift could be something as simple as a voice mail message or a phone call when none was expected. Those mean more than you could ever know.

I wouldn't be upset...I personally like getting them.....to me they make a bright spot where someone says.....I care. So I'll take flowers anytime someone wants to send them to me! LOL

Well I like to think of myself as a romantic but I have always thought flowers too cliche and I have never sent snyone flowers However if my girl tolad me not to send her flowers then I would have thought that had some significance and she didnt want anything to do with me again .Cant see anyother way that could be interpretted because from as long as I know flowers were supposed to be a gesture of love and if she doesnt want any from you then I would think she doesnt want my love,unless she hates flowers and that is something youw ould have known from the start

i guess no, your lover would eventually understand that either way there are more things that he could give you like chocolates or even stuffed animals. Just be sure that if ever he mistakenly given you one, don't push the flowers away, accept them discreetly and tell him your views about "giving flowers"

It depends on his condition and mentality.

Hi Sarah..no it wouldn't bother me any. My husband knows not to bring me flowers. I do love them and I have flower beds galore, but I can't stand cut flowers, I hate to see them die just so I can have them in a vase. He got creative when our last son was born..he wanted to get me flowers and respect the way I feel..you should have seen the look on the nurses face when he brought me in a potted rose bush that needed to be planted..It's still in the top 5 romantic things he's ever done...and blooms like crazy every summer.