Can you make yourself not love someone?

Absolutely not. First of all, you cannot help who you love. Second, I do not see how you can possibly convince yourself to either stop loving someone or that you don't love them. If you love someone who doesn't love you back, please do yourself a favor and move on and focus on yourself. It will hurt for a while and it's okay to cry but time heals everything and your funk will eventually lift and you'll be able to move on to someone who WILL love you back. Also remember "If you love someone let them go. If they come back to you they are yours and if they don't, they never were". Good luck with whatever it is you are going through.

when you are falling already, its really hard or impossible to stop. either you could just keep it in and let it blow over in time or act on it. But one could prevent falling before actually falling by not allowing oneself to get infatuate. Its a discipline, a skill i believe that the most committed people in lasting happy relationships consciously or unconsciously know.

I pretty much agree with IceQueen. Once you've fallen in love with someone you can't just turn that love off. If you are in a bad situation where you're giving your heart to someone who isn't returning your feelings then do what IceQueen said, "let them go". It will hurt, and you will feel sad, don't expect anything different, but you'll make it through it. You'll probably need to separate yourself from the person, avoid seeing them and even talking to them for a while. Then I think you're love will fade, maybe not completely, but it will fade. For example, I was madly in love with the boyfriend I had before I met my husband, and after we broke up I was sad and still in love with him, but as time went by and after I met my husband my love for my ex-boyfriend faded and my love for my now-hubby grew. You'll get by, just be strong, don't be afraid to cry, and keep using these message boards to vent, I'm sure it'll help! Chin up... :-)