Sliding in on your responses?

I just respond, I never look at what others have written, for one thing I haven't figured out how to see the other responses until I send in my own, but even if I did I don't think I'd bother

I am not concerned at all who comments on the responses on the discussions that I start - the more the merrier! I don't start many but when I do I try and comment back as soon as a response is posted. That is not always possible as I sleep sometimes too and someone else often comments first. No problem because I can then make a comment back to both the responder and the commentor

No, it doesn't annoy me. In fact, I am happy to see it. MyLot is an open forum and I am happy when many people join in with differing views, or join in just for a bit of fun. I like to see long threads of interaction between members. If someone else posts a response to a comment received on one of my discussions, and it says the same as I would have said, I can still post a response agreeing and maybe putting it a little bit differently. I think it all adds to the myLot experience.

It only annoys me when people decide to butt in and don't say anything useful. It's even worse when they spit some type of verbal vitriol all over the discussion because they don't personally believe in something or adamantly dislike it. Yes, those are valid points in a discussion, but they could have added their OWN response to the discussion instead of splattering their hate all over someone else's response.

Not if the person has something valuable to say. And some of my friends do that anyway to be funny or whatever. It would only bother me if somebody came around and insulted all my responders.

I'm not quite sure what you mean by this. I quite like it when people join in my response box, because it usually means we can have a bit more interaction and extend the discussion. I don't particularly like it when I get a stalker who comes in and disagrees with everything I say, but I find if you ignore them they get fed up after a while and go away. Remember you earn for what you write, so even if you may make a similar point in a different way, and it's a quality response, you'll still get paid for it.

Nope, doesn't annoy me in the least. I genuinely don't understand why some folks are so proprietary about their discussions... as in this is "my" discussion and I "control" it. That is not the spirit of a community or a discussion, in my thoughts. If someone wants to comment to a response before I do, in a discussion that I have started, more power to 'em :) The discussions are open to all and nothing stops me from commenting beneath that person or persons and having more people to converse with in total. There is no impact on my earnings, whatsoever, because there is no barrier to commenting after a comment. Also, if someone says what I was going to say, no problem! I'll generally just acknowledge that I agree and then I feel challenged to interject something different - so that just stands to continue the conversations further.

No it doesn't bother me at all. That is the way it is supposed to be. That is what makes it a "discussion". They are not butting in...they are joining in. And each time someone responds under your discussion regardless of whether it is under their own post or to comment on another response, it brings your discussion back up to the top so that others are likely to see it that may have missed it before. You can still respond even if someone else has gotten there before you so you don't have to lose money on it.

whoa lala just one darned minute. mylot is free and we are free to comment on any response or comment we choose so if we comment on yours thats just tough because ordinarily most of us like to get comments like that,its like a conversation where two people are talking and the neighbors join in, would you be angry at that? its not butting in it is joining in a conversation my dear.no it does not annoy me as it is legal and it pays and it is fu n too, feel free to butt in as you call it on any responses or comments in my discussions . I will not get angry at you. besides have you no imagination at all, that you cannot make a comment because someone made the one you were going to use? use your imagination for heaven's sakes.

Hi lala, I kind of expect my friends to be in there quite a bit but I've had it happen now twice when people I don't know have decided to respond to my discussion on my behalf and it really annoyed me. One was in my Greek life style interest so it really wasn't on to respond on my behalf and I always respond back to everyone. I had to send a F/r to tell the person to go and start her own discussion as all she was doing was getting in on someone elses popular discussion. she stopped for a bit then started again and told me I may have missed something in my responses. The trouble with that kind of butting in as my friends do respond to my discussions and do expect a reply from me. It ended up of just being a case of working around her. On the other hand I've done a couple of joint discussions which have been fun but planned in advance. I know exactly what you mean though and you aren't talking about interaction in boxes but about being completely hijacked. Just stand up and tell them to make their own discussions, the person who did that told me she gets no responses which really says it all. Off to chat to Sandra in box 1.

I don't mind it, as I really don't consider it butting in. I don't start all that many discussions, but when I do, I would hope for responses, so I can comment back. I have commented to both a response and a comment, asit makes for a better discussion, and it will keep it going for a little longer. As long as users are willing to respond and comment, I will comment back to them. It lets me know that they took enough interest in my discussion to respond in the first place. The more comments I do, the more I can make, oo it is all good. Goo luck to you, and happy mylotting.

Hi, Lala! No, it doesn't annoy me at all. There are no rules that we have to wait for the posters to comment first on the responses s/he receives and the time difference of all the countries must be considered here. MyLot is a live forum site so, once the discussion is posted, every member is able to comment and interact. If you have run out of ideas to comment back because what you want to say has been said by other members, don't push yourself. Just try to comment on the responses by looking at different angles. It might help, but feeling mad just because somebody finds that the discussion is interesting and wants to share her/his opinion before yours is just wasting your energy. Use that to think for some fresh ideas instead. Good luck!

Hi Lala501, I don't usually start many discussions, hardly any actually, but I enjoy responding to them. When I first signed up for myLot I felt that the person who posted the discussion was supposed to initially respond to the comments first but then sometimes I would get a spurt of inspiration and respond before the poster had a chance to. I would feel a little guilty as if I had taken away some of the poster's fun but the more I would join in on discussions, I found that I enjoyed that people would just pop in on others and it made it feel like "discussing". I'm glad you posted this topic as that I have always wondered whether people were proprietary of their discussions in this fashion and all the individuals that have responded have given me some insight.

Wow. It seems like most people agree that the goal is to get people talking. I do find it annoying when someone just pops up and responds randomly, not even on topic, or when they try to trash everything you are saying. However, I just ignore them. It is tacky and lame. Otherwise, I love reading how other people respond to any given topic or question. Often times, I find new perspectives on the issue at hand. It is very interesting and give insight into the minds and hearts of other people. I love to join the topics that other people are responding back and forth though. I like joining a conversation, not just posting a message on a board. Make sense? Thanks for the great topic starter