Where can you find true happiness?

India
November 23, 2009 11:40am CST
Your spouse/ lover? your kids? prayers? smoking? drinking? Physical pleasures? dance? music? sports and games? friends? relatives? television Internet hanging around mylot?
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16 responses
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
23 Nov 09
Many things, like the things you mention, can bring us a meausre of happiness. But all these things are incomplete. If we want to find "true happiness" as you categorized it, then God has to be involved. When we build a relationship or friendship with God where each day He plays a role in it, now we have found true happiness. All other things will always disappoint us, always leave us empty. But when God is close to us and we are close to Him then we are riding high.
• India
27 Nov 09
You are absolutely right 1hopefulman. no happiness can match surrendering yourself to the Lord, thanks for your response.
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
28 Nov 09
vijayanths, I see that we both have learned a few things from life. We have observed who the real happy people are. We have observed what really makes people happy. We have seen what has disappointed people. We have seen what has brought genuine lasting happiness to people. Now we need to share our find and experience so that others might benefit. I wish you well!
• China
28 Nov 09
I think the true happiness can be discovered from small things of daily life.Even some sincere words will also give you a sence of security.And the most important moment is the time when you spending with your family or dear friends.They almost to be your ment al support.So the secret of happiness is gratitude.You should cherish your family and friends.
@shobhan51 (376)
• Malaysia
25 Nov 09
Happiness cannot be found outside oneself. Happiness is found within. Searching for happiness is a myth and if one tries to find it outside oneself or from the environment then one is searching for a unicorn. Though we are physically matter, we live in a virtual world. If we see and accept something as good, then it is good. But then, the same thing can be seen and accepted as bad by another, then it is bad. Our spouses/lovers, kids, prayers, smoking, drinking, physical pleasures, dances, music, sports, friends, relatives, television,internet, mylot, none of them can make us happy if we find no happiness within ourselves. Happiness is like the 'Midas Touch.' Whosoever, has happiness within himself/herself, spreads that happiness to others around. It is a ray of light and hope that brightens the world around.
• India
27 Nov 09
Wow, that is a great response from you shobaha, I really loved this one from you, thanks.
• Malaysia
28 Nov 09
You're welcome. Nice to hear from you after a short spell. Keep us motivated with your mind boggling discussions, responses and debates. Thanks.
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
True happiness has deep meaning to me. True happiness can be found when I have peace of mind. Without money or without being rich as long as I have that, I don't have enemy, I don't hurt other someone that is true happiness for me. When I am with my family , with true people that is true and everlasting happiness. Not all people have peace of mind , free from problems, that is why it is hard to achieve true happiness. I also found true happiness by being a volunteer whenever someone needed my help. I love the feeling of being able to help.
• India
27 Nov 09
very good thoughts grecy, thanks for your response.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
25 Nov 09
i find happiness with all whom i love ...hubby, children, my friends, some adorable people, doing prayers and being with God, and many such things like music, mylotting, playing and laughing with my kids and their friends...
• India
27 Nov 09
same here eshaan, we both have many similarities, right? hehehe. thanks for your response.
• India
24 Nov 09
Hi vijayanths, It depends on each individuals. But i find my happiness in various ways. one should be happy internaly. I find my happiness by seeing small childrens, whatever the tensions i have i foget them in few minutes seeing them. sometimes i visit temples where one can find peaceful atmosphere obvisouly the tensions will be reduced.
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes, deepa, I used to vent my stresses by playing with very small kids. I become a kid of their age and enjoy the moment with them. They consider me as their friend, hehehe. I do find peace when i go to temple, thanks for your response.
24 Nov 09
contentment with your life is the true happiness..your family and loved one matters most..
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes, contentment is very essential to be happy, scoutsniper, thanks for your response.
@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
23 Nov 09
It all depends on you if want to have happness you will have but it's all up to you. cd
• India
27 Nov 09
yes, agreed daisy, thanks for your response.
@zeethegr8 (785)
• India
23 Nov 09
Two words - within yourself. True happiness lies in finding the best things about yourself and loving yourself first. When we love ourselves, we learn to respect others and enjoy life. Few other things that you mentioned are forms of entertainment excluding the relationships.
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes, zeethegr8, within yourself the best way to define happiness. thanks for your response.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
hello vijayanths! i think, we will find true happiness within ourselves and by being satisfied & contented with what we have and what we got... and the feeling of being loved and at peace as well as having the presence of God in our life are more than enough reasons to be happy! have a good day yaar! and i hope that you have found your happiness...
• India
27 Nov 09
yes, ckyera. True happiness should come from within us. I am trying hard to find my happiness that lost a few years ago, lol.
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
I do find happiness not alone in material things as happiness depend on what the person could feel within herself. It is the happiness which could only be find in a genuine love that do not lie is the desires of everyone. The inner peace and calm is unmeasurable happiness which one felt as how could someone shares happiness with other when herself is suffering from inside. all the things which a person show in external happiness could be deceive and all comes out as a superficial. True happiness is not searchable outside self it is found within the inner self.
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes, very true that happiness is within inner self, well said neelianoscet, thanks for your response.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
23 Nov 09
Hello Vijay. I find happiness in various ways, but rather than lying outside oneself, I think it is a thing we embrace from the inside. It may come and go, but below are things about which I feel happy: Nature People and love Faith People helping people Children The elderly Prayer and meditation The simple everyday things like sunsets and laughter. Karen
• India
27 Nov 09
Nice to note you are a nature lover and a natural lover, lol.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
23 Nov 09
Hello dear brother, It is hypocrisy when someone say's ...gaining happiness is all about love and simple things. Happiness can be feel depending each situation and circumstances. When we are suffering from some problem,thu we hang out with friends and doing the usual things we enjoyed so much with our friends,still,we can't feel the real happiness becoz at the back our mind we are worrying and trying to find some solution for our problems. We can be happy and contended with our life and gain the real happiness when we achieve things we really wanted in this life. When we can have some time of relaxation without troubles,no works to think of the next day. Not worried about the bills and financial statement from the banks. We can say that we are successfully happy when we can laugh and smile to all the people around us becoz,we never had any ill-feelings towards them,and vice versa. True happiness can be achieved when we can see straight to our kids eyes and say to ourselves..."i can die anytime becoz,i have shown my love to my family and loved ones esp my kids,and i have saved enough money for them...and i am not afraid to leave my kids becoz,i know i have taught them good lesson and how to become a good person too"
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes, dear when we achieve we get real happiness.You are a great mom and a great human. You also know what is life, I am proud to be your brother, jai.
@ced_cap (207)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
For me true happiness is being with my family because in times of troubles, there's nothing you've got but only your family. as long as we're together and we're intact that is happiness for me...
• India
27 Nov 09
yes, ced, family is the center of happiness for me too. thanks for your response.
• Indonesia
23 Nov 09
I found happiness when he was praying. I am more able to control myself from negative behavior. I felt receiving a lot of positive energy. hearts and minds to be peaceful. how about you?
• India
27 Nov 09
Prayers can give you happiness and peace. I am happy when I can help others. I am happy when some one praises my talents. I am happy when my children shine well. I am happy when i play with children. I am happy when I watch comedy programs on television...thanks for your response, dadan.
• India
23 Nov 09
Some people have been working all their lives to reach their heart's desires. You may be shocked to know that even if many of them have reached the highest peak of accomplishment, they are still unhappy. Why is this so? Happiness is abstract. It cannot be seen nor touched. It can only be felt and experienced. Happiness encompasses the feeling of completion and inner peace. And this is everyone's goal - to attain ecstasy for eternity.
• India
27 Nov 09
Yes, very true nishan. thanks for your response.
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
23 Nov 09
I don't think you can find true happiness in an outside interest. There are things that makes me happy when I do them or see them, but true happiness, I think that is something that comes from our own hearts.
• India
27 Nov 09
yes true, it has to come from heart, jewels, hanks for your response.