Would you attend your ex's wedding if you are invited to it?

Not so many years ago, I attended an ex-girlfriend's wedding. At first I did not want to, but since we were together for a long time, I decided to go. Plus, she took my mother as one of her sponsors. It was a weekende event, and when we got there, I realized she still had feelings for me. It was awkward. My old university gang was there too, so we keep joking around that if ever the groom could not make it, I could stand in. It was an experience, and I would say that I had fun. So, yes I would attend.

I think you are a very mature adult to go to such an event. I admire your maturity. If it was me, and I still had some small feelings about a boyfriend that was getting married to someone else, I don't think I would go. I would be very honest with them, and tell them exactly why. Maybe he thought of me as now a good friend, but I would make it clear that my feelings went beyond friends, and while I wish them alot of luck, I cannot be there to witness him marrying someone else.

This is an upcoming issue for me. A college girlfriend of mine, the love of my life and before that, my BEST friend and one of the greatest people i have ever met, is getting married this summer. We went to college together and were inseperable. But after we went home for the summer some stuff came up and she couldnt come back to school so we broke up. It took me about a year to get over it, but now she visits every once in a while. We talked about it, and im not going to go just because it would be really awkward and it would most likely bring up good memories that hurt me too much. The part im mad about is that i knew our friendship would change if we started dating and she said it wouldnt. If we hadnt dated, I would definitely be there.

I have actually attended my ex's wedding about 15 years ago. We had split up about 5 years previous. At first it wasn't to friendly, but then we couldn't really avoid each other, so decided to stay friendly. We are still friends now and her husband is quite a nice guy and we talk quite often. - Derek

If you are invited for your ex's wedding, and if she is never a traitor in your part of life, then sure you can attend the wedding and prove your greatness as a perfect gentleman. There is really nothing wrong, from my view. i feel that way.

Hmm...that is a tricky one. I have only attended one of my ex bf's weddings. I was actually IN the wedding. As you said we were friends first before anything else and had continued to be friends years later. I got along well with his fiance and he asked that I be in the wedding. I didn't find it wierd, but trust me everyone not in the wedding that new the situation thought it was. :) Back to your question. I think I would go. As long as you don't cause a scene or anything silly it should be fine. However, as another post said...if she has feelings for you still, it could become akward very quickly. I can only think of one of my ex's whose wedding I would not attend, but I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be invited. :) I hope you go, she obviously wants you to attend or she wouldn't have sent the invite. Just be courteous, and if things start to get wierd...leave. I hope it works out well and you have a great time.

Yes I would to all of my exes too. If someone is courteous enough to invite you to their wedding it means that it's probably important to them that you be there. Even if my ex wasn't the best relationship or we had some bad problems I would get over it to share what could be the happiest day of their life.

For me, it would depend on how we felt about each other and if I had the time to attend at all. If we were on good, speakable terms with each other, then I would most certainly consider attending. Of course I would want to see an ex-love of mine be happy once more and tie the knot with somebody she loves. Also, there would be free food on offer, which would certainly be a deciding factor for me. However, if it was obvious that she had just sent me an invite to rub my face in the fact that she was living a life far superior to mine, or that her new man was everything that I wished I was, then, free food or no free food, it would be a definite no from me when it's time to RSVP. Furthermore, if it was too far away, or I was very busy, or even if I had a wife of my own, I wouldn't bother with the hassle to be honest. Personally, I find weddings to be rather dull affairs. I know that sounds cruel of me given that it's supposed to be the best day of somebody's life, but I usually find myself fighting to stay awake when the vowels are being read. Perhaps I will appreciate them more when I am older and more sentimental!

If you still have such strong feelings for her, I wouldn't go. I would send her a note of congrats and a nice gift, though.

From your words it seems that you two had an unfinished love story. If i were you, i will not go to the wedding. You said that you can't even look her new BF in the eye. Going to her wedding would only open up wounds that have not completely healed yet. I'm sure you are not the only one who would feel uneasy but the people around you who knew the story. This is their day, let them make the most of it. I'm sure you won't even be missed or if they will it's all worth it. Cheers!

You are a mature person to attend such an event.If I were you,I will never attend any of my ex's wedding,I think I'll be very awkward in that place.Sometimes,things just went in the way we did't expect.we have to accept the result.I really feel sorry for you.But being good friends feels also very good.I think you can wish then good luck for their wedding.

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Yes friend, I would attend her wedding. I just want to see her is she happy or not. I just want to see the reaction to her seeing me on her wedding. I just want to see myself that can I control myself from the tears or not. I must attend that to show her that not only she can marry in front of me, but also I can see her wedding in front of her.

I will not attend my ex wedding because I don't want to ruin their happy day. It is not just your ex wedding but it also involve another person, the bride or bridegroom. The spouse might say he/she doesn't mind but we will never know...so it's better not to go. Just make an excuse...

If the break up is good I will attend the wedding. But if the break up is so painful due to her acts of cheating I can't attend the wedding because that will remind me of the past that makes me hurt and cry...

hm. it`s hard question. i dont know if i will attend her wedding if she invite me. it depends on my heart maybe. but whether iam coming or not, i had told her that i am happy if she is happy.

Hmm. I think I would be attending too.. It's quite the same reason as yours.. first I think of my exes as my friends then an ex.. I mean, wouldn't you attend a friend's wedding? right?.. And not attending I think would just hurt her.. if she has invited you then she wanted you to be there.. I think what happened in the past should already be forgotten and all of you should move forward, and just celebrate her big day..

Yes I will attend the wedding for the sake of friendship and to see her and the gang for old time sake. It hurts to see her go but that is life we have to accept for the things that we cannot do anything.

For me, I would say attend the wedding. It is always nice to see someone from your past... it makes us remember a few things about ourselves that we have forgotten because of the stress in our lives. I do not see any harm in attending this party as you do not have any intention to ruin the wedding. Also, getting an invite from your ex-girl friend means she wants you to be part of this special event in her life.

yes, why not, its bad if you go to your ex wedding day and your not invited..