The Family Get Together Went Really Well!!

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Ok my dear friends, I just woke up and am still digging the sand out of my eyes so bear with me for my brain is still oh so cloudy but I want to tell you about the get together and how it went! First of all, there was a misunderstanding on my part with my middle brother through text messaging in which I apologized to him for it. He didn't respond back so I took it to mean hostility so that was even more reason I was dreading going to this thing but went so that mom would be happy and make good memories for her and dad. On the way up, hubby said some derogatory remark in which I had to quickly put him in his place in order to keep the peace. Mom shot back a retort but hubby kept his trap shut for the duration of the trip. Needless to say I was really up tight then and mad? Oh my gosh, was I EVER!! He put me in a hell of a spot which I did NOT appreciate one bit. It was a 3 hour drive each way so you can only imagine the tension! Needless to say, once we got there and let mom and dad out at the door, that's when I got to say my peace with hubby. I did let him have it in a huge way! Damn him for putting me on the spot like that! ARG!! We get there and go inside, hubby says he forgot something so I figured it was the camera so he goes back to the car. I'm standing there, waiting for him to come back and figured, Ah hell, I'll go and he'll have to find me. I find their table and there was my middle brother on the back side of the table but on the end. He starts to get up and I turned away. My oldest brother comes around from the other end and gives me a big hug and says some nice things and then went back to his seat. I said something to mom and dad which were already seated and realized, the only two seats left are the ones right across from my middle brother and his wife and I looked up at him for a split second and turned to see if hubby had come yet which he had not. My brother got up and walked around tentatively and opens his arms for a big hug. I teared up a little but turned away so he wouldn't see them but hugged him back and we held onto to each other a bit longer than normal. He asked how I was doing and I told him fine but what a long trip that was and he agreed that it was. I then said very quietly "I'm sorry for the misunderstanding" and he said "Don't worry about it, it happens" then some small talk and he went back around to sit back down. The dinner carried on and my brother starts to talk small talk to me and hubby which I couldn't ignore because I saw in his eyes that he was really sad and that he felt awkward too just as I was. I just knew it was time to let the past go. I still wanted that verbal apology but also knowing, he's a proud man so I'm not going to hear that apology AND that him giving me a hug WAS his apology so I was so ready to let the past go and that I did. So we talked about things going on in our lives and so on and it turned out really nice! After dinner, mom got a right nice surprise! The waiter came with a cheese cake and cherries all around it with a candle on top! He started singing Happy Birthday to mom and then the whole place lit up and EVERYBODY started singing! LOL Mom was so surprised and embarrassed that she blushed a number of shades of red! It was really awesome!! We all really did have a wonderful time! When we got up to leave, my middle brother helped mom to the bathroom and waited for her outside the door and helped her back to the table to get her things and helped her to her car. She was just beaming with pride! While she was in the car, I got to talk to my two brothers a little bit and explained what was going on and how hubby and I aren't trying to cause problems but we need help and how it's all about our mom and dad and nobody else. They seemed to understand but time will tell how much of it they really do. Needless to say, I was so exhausted from the trip and being so uptight with nerves, I fell asleep on the way back home but only for a few minutes but it was just what I needed for I felt much better. Then hubby started being the jokester that he is started commenting about this and that in his life before he met me and got all of us to laughing so hard! Then mom and I got to talking about different things and then she reached over and grabbed my hand and held it for a few minutes. I was taken aback from that but held her hand too but gosh, my heart just swelled up with so much love!! I felt light as a feather that I could fly if the windows were down! I just felt that good!! I'm so glad she's come around to being the mother she should be and I'm just so happy about it! We made it home safely and all is good!! How's that for a family gathering that I was so nervous about?! LOL It turned out to be absolutely wonderful!! lol