Is it right for a grandma to make fun of her grandchild?

My step-mother is like this only she picks at the physical things. I will be honest I have 4 great kids and unfortunately my girls got the looks of the bunch. I am not being mean or rude, but my boys' are both in awkward states right now. Anyhow, without going too deep, I raised my youngest all by myself. No change of custody or anything and tended to show her a little more favortism than the others. I bonded with her from day one and always had her with me. Well, one day we were talking about the genetic traits that my kids inherited from me. My son kota, is heavy but has my pointy chin, and my son enoch happens to look just like me. They all have my eyes and my oldest girl has my hair color. Well, when it got to my youngest (who had a crossed eye before her surgery) she immediately dug into her. She said things like she looked like a reta*d because she's a pigeon toed, bow legged dork and her head is too big for her body. Those of you who know me from facebook, have access to what my kids look like and you tell me what my dear Biskit looks like. I have good looking kids but that day she tore into the little one with no remorse. I later heard her talking about how she felt sorry for my kids because they would grow up looking like me. She said things when I was a kid that I was too skinny and no real man would ever want me and that I had big lips (only racially charged) and my daddy never paid a sitter cuz he could lick my lips and stick me to a window. She's always attacked me like that and when I blew her comments off she started on my kids. I know how you feel and the more you ignore her the less she will do it. Or be like me and bite back. I always tell her that I hope no one paid her pennies for her thoughts because they would be wasting their money. Or you could have said "Thank you captain OBVIOUS". Good luck to ya!

Some grand parents are indeed cruel. My grandmother used to make my mother cry with what she used to tell her. I remember my grandmother being very contemptous of us children as a little boy. I guess it depends on the person.

I don't think she was making fun of your son. I think that she was maybe telling you that you needed to buy him new shoes, or making fun of you because you couldn't, but either way it sounds like she was being mean. I don't think it's right at all for anyone to make fun of a child, but especially if a family member is making fun of a child, that is just very sad indeed! A shoe is a shoe and as long as it protects the feet it is fine, also shoes can be expensive, so sometimes you have to wait to get a good pair of shoes until you have the money!

Well nothing is wrong with a grandma making fun of her grandchild if its done in a way that they both can laugh about it .My grandma and I had a lot of fun together but I think the way she did it was wrong and if the child had heard her it would have made the child resent her.If my grandma had made fun of me she would have atleast tried to get me a new pair

I'm not seeing where you think she was trying to be funny. From what I get, she simply decided not to ask you about your son's shoes; maybe because she thought it wasn't any of her business. I don't see the joke that you thought she was pulling. Can you clarify?

Be wise and patient, my friend ... what say your mother in-laws are only a sense of sympathy and prayer your in-law on your condition unable to buy new shoes for your child. I am sure, if your in-laws can afford to buy new shoes, she would buy new shoes for her grandchildren, unfortunately she was also not able to, so she could only pray for you with a way to make it as a joke. Believe me, a grandmother must be very fond of his own grandson

She probably knew you and your husband were having a hard time and was just trying to make light of the subject so you wouldn't be upset that she noticed. And she didn't buy him new shoes out of fear she may offend you in doing so. I could be wrong in this but that's my take. But because you didn't take the bait and were offended, she probably saw that and may be the reason she didn't respond to your son on his new shoes, out of fear of offending you even further.

cream97 I really don't know but she might have been embarrassed and did not want to show it andjust laughed to cover it. sometimes people laugh, and at the stupidest times, and I think its because they are hard put to know what to say. I agree she seems to have a really warped sense of humor,to laugh at a child because he has a ripped shoe. that is sure not what most grandmothers would do or I hope not. Surely she knew you were having financial problems so why did she do that, it would have been better if she had offered to help buy him new shoes or even best just bought them for him. but I do not really know your mother in law's financial situation, Cream maybe she is not as well off as you might think?

Your mother in law is some kind of b!tch, sorry to say! Instead of doing something to provide new shoes to her grandchild she even could afford to laugh at the torn shoes. How dare her laugh at that poor state of her very own grandchild? Well, I believe that torn shoes is not even funny. It is actually a touching sight. If I see my grandchild wearing torn shoes, I will not waste a time and would immediately buy him a new pair. Well, if you grandmother would reason out, she does not have the money either, they she could at least have just kept her mouth shot instead of ridiculing the child or making fun of him.

Hi Cream, It's sad that you have a Mother-in-law who is not only selfish but thoughtless. I know how it feels when your little one needs shoes or anything for that matter, and you just can't afford it. When my Son was little, I used to buy his at this 5 and dime type store. They were cheap and quite suitable. He would wear them out before he grew out of them. Places like K-Mart and Walmart have perfectly fine shoes. I have bought many shoes from there and places like that. For me it is about comfort and cost. I know, sometimes or should I say often times we don't even have the money for that. Kids are great. They know they will get what they need as soon as mommy and daddy can get it. Shame on Grandma for not helping and making fun. Leenie

That can be verbally abusive and your son shouldn't have to put up with that. Being an adult, I would think that your mother-in-law has a bit of a mean streak and your son is the one who'll pay for it in the long run. I feel very sorry for your mother-in-law and I hope that soon she realizes what she is doing. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija

The only thing I can say about this is the grandmother should have brought the shoes for her grandson. I know I have brought many a pair of shoes for my granddaughter because I don't want to see her without. Her foot is growing very fast so between her parents and myself we are always buying shoes or sneakers for her. She should have offered to buy them for him. Shame on the grandmother.

Sometimes life sure can be challenging. Well, congratulations in getting him the new shoes. I know you were glad when you could afford it. As far as her, what can you do but forget it. Maybe she felt uncomfortable.

Probably she just wasn't trying to laugh at your child's condition. Maybe she just didn't know what to do in that situation or how to help. In case it wasn't like that, I think that of course grandmas shouldn't make fun of their grandchilds, but usually grandmas love their grandchilds very much, so probably she wasn't trying to do anything bad.

That type of grandma is not a good one. She should be embarrassed to see her grandson wearing a torn shoes and bought her a new one? If I am the grandmother? I would pity my grandson, not make fun of him but buy him one. I would be sad if my grandchildren are not having good shoes.

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