Money vs. Love

You're situation is pretty tough huh?Well if you really love him then try to understand his situation for now maybe he is trying to adjust between work & you. He is still in the stage of showing his superiors how hardworking he is. For sure when he can get used to it he will simply learn how to manage his time properly between you & his work. Just be patience for now.

money or love?... well for me both are necessary for man's survival.. but in your situation it's better for now to understand your partner. I guess you need more patience regarding the situation. Maybe your partner is just a little stress out of work but it doesn't mean that money is more important. The better thing to do is for you to talk about this matter... communication is very important in any conflicts especially in a relationship.

Let me first say that I can really feel for you and there are many guys and girls who’ve moved up corporate / social ladder and forgotten their poorer/simpler better halves or relatives or friends and I do wish to see such people rot in their self-created hell. However, I do wish to mention here that its’ still early times to press the panic button. For one, he’s moved on to a more responsible position and now that you are married, you are no longer the former lovers that he needs to shower his attention on you as before. Marriage brings with it a certain stability which has both its pros and cons and one of the downsides is that there is much less outward romance and excitement in marriage. You both should definitely sit down and talk and he should listen and understand you priorities too…money is not the priority for everybody and if you feel that spending a weekend at home together or taking a vacation is more important, then he should listen to you. But even if he does, don’t expect that he’ll be there every weekend for you…and give him some personal space (and you take your own space too)…visit friends or relatives or go shopping individually and then return and talk about it together over dinner…basically it should not be like ‘you don’t spend time with me so you don’t love me’ OR ‘now that we’re married, don’t expect me to follow you like a lovestruck puppy’. Find out a middle path coz in marriage, middle paths work the best.

Maybe he is just trying to adjust himself in the new workplace. Even for the strongest person it is hard to cope with a different situation, moreover it is the place of his earnings and he has to give the best impression to his employer. I guess he is an ambitious guy who wants to achieve the highest rank in life. A person like this is usually only comfortable when he has achieved what he wanted. I don't think he has forgotten you, from your writings I have a feeling he's just trying to joke with you when he said "oh I forgot you today". What I feel he is trying to tell you he is very busy that day and he almost forgot about everything. I think it is natural for a human being to forget about everything else when he or she is focusing real hard on something important. But it doesn't mean he has totally forgotten about you, he's just being too busy to think about anything else. I bet some of the times he even forgets to eat, but that's only my guess and please correct me if I am wrong. Maybe you should just give him time and encouragement so that he can speed up the time for adjustment. If you don't give him encouragement, this will only make things harder for him to cope and it will take longer time for him to adjust. I understand you miss the man, and I know how it feels like to be "forgotten" it is like he had begun to make you feel you are no longer number one because his work comes first. Well... in life there is always a sacrifice if you want something. In this case it's money and you have to remember he's working real hard because he wants to bring home the money to you - and it proves that he loves you so much and wants to give you everything that money can buy. Be patient, and with time when he's already adjusted everything will come back to normal. If you are not satisfied with him, you can always discuss your problem with him but try to do it with a clear mind and never judge him or giving him more stress. Try to talk without emotion first, and tell what you want in a way which is not hurting his feelings. I wish you luck. God bless you.

If the love is true then money does not matter but alas one cannot survive without money. So both are important.

love .u can earn money later but not love ones gone ,gone forever........

Oh, this is really painful for you. But I think love is one thing that can't be got through forcing or compulsion. It has to come naturally and unconditionally. If I were in your shoes I would rather go away from him and let him have his own life. If you really want him very badly, what you can do is to wait. Work hard, keep your status improving. Improve your personality. Improve on your appearances and become more attractive to him. Don't go to him, let him come back to you. Best wishes.

Hi Miss Cinque - I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through something like this. I was going through something like this at one point in my relationship and at one point, I just got so sick of it that I talked to my bf - told him what I've been feeling, and that I'm considering leaving him. That I've gotten so tired of giving and giving in the relationship - and i'm running out of "things" to give. You can only give so much of yourself - at one point, you won't have anything else to give. He needs to know that you're at the point of "nothing else to give." If he doesn't change, then it's time to call it quits. Unless you wanna spend the rest of your life like this, which I'm sure is not the case. Thankfully in my case, he's changed. He definitely makes it a point to call or spend some time with me. And always tells me that he's grateful for me. I hope for all the best. Hang in there! =)

It seems that you are just now the second priority of your husband. i understand that his work really is very stressful but I cant see any reason why he said those things in you. I dont know what is on his mind because i don't want to judge him. I suggest that you always try to talk to him although he is upset in you. Tell him what you feel.

Just be as supportive to him as you have been in the past. Maybe you can also divert your attention to other things not for both of you to fall apart but just so you can both have a breather. Sometimes, men just take some things for granted even the important ones because they had they're head buried deep in the works but it doesn't mean that they've changed but more of having the feeling security that something is waiting for them at home. Cheers!

May be you must give him some time to realize what he is missing.he cant get along with this attitude too long and for sure he would call back asking about you and may be he is trying to concentrate more on the work coz you said he has gone through many interviews so he is trying make an impact by working hard so that the current job would be stable for him in the future too.hope this works for you.gud day.

I go with love. You can earn money but you can't earn real love. That's what I thought. But now, we must be practical. We must choose money first before love. For me, love can't stay longer without money. Do you agree with that? It's hard for me to accept that this modern era, money is now overwhelming love.