would you compromise your career or job for you family ?

I would be very happy to quit my job if only my husband can provide for our needs because I can look after my son & I can take care of him well. For a mother's care is never the same with the care giver we always knew & wants whats best for our children.

Yes, I’ll compromise on my career and salary for the sake of my family. After all, I’m working and earning money for my family’s sake, money for me has no value if it stands between me and my family. I’m working at the same place for 11yrs now only because it offers me some facilities with regard to my family life…I’ve got numerous offers at other places with better benefits but I did not join coz it would have forced me to compromise on the time and attention I give to my family, specially my son who’s just 10yrs old.

i dont think so. only if it was necessary. if my spouse asked me to give up my job to care for kids id ask them why dont they? surely you can work out something with your employers so that you can both alternatively get some time off to look after the children while they are very young and then they can go into daycare. maybe each could drop a day to spend time with the kids. the only reason that i would actually compromise my career would be for somethiing that was really necessary such as my spouse or child being very ill or having a child with a disability.

I would likely do it during emergency but as long as possible i would do everything not to risk mu jobs. instead, i would likely ask my boss for a permission to visit my home if their is an emergency before making absences may lead me to a ensure my family is safe.

If I am in the shoes of those countless career women out there and have ask by my husband to stay home and have a full-time job as a wife, then he must have a very good reason for asking it. If the reason is justifiable enough, then it would be a great thing for me to stay at home. But as a person with equal rights, I would still insist the best for me. But when it becomes a hindrance for our happy living, then, its also true that there must be one who always give-in for the benefit of the family.

Fortunately this doesn't happen to me. My baby is around 6 months old. My mum who is not working looks after her when I am away. Anyway, I will not give up my job if I have another option. I view job an important part of my life. I will feel bored and independent if I have to stay at home all day long. But pls don't misunderstand me. Family is also important too for me. What I will try to do is balance these two. Say, I will employ a baby sitter in the day on weekdays while I myself will look after the baby in the evening and on weekends. Or I will find a SOH job and work at home.

Hi, Aweins! If our financial income is stable, I don't see it as something to argue about. To me, family comes first and I always believe that a mother should stay at home and taking care of the baby especially in the first few years. If my hubby can support the family, I won't compromise between my career and family, but there are things that both parents should consider before making such decisions. Sometimes, there are cases of retrenchment and the husband is out of job, so, if both parents are working, it will help a lot for the family to survive. It is always wise to have something more for the family in case of rainy days.

hi aweins^^;; i think it's the other way around for me: i would not compromise my family for my job or career. we can earn money and start all over when we lost our jobs but it'll be more difficult when one loses a family. i would not hesitate to stay at home as long my hubby can provide what we need and i think the same with him. he's willing to do housework and take care of our to-be children when the situation needed like i earn twice as he earns. it maybe a very big decision for men but it's being practical i guess.

If she earns more then why not? sometimes a couples have to sacrifice something in exchange of another. and you have to look at the long term goal. Although it may be hard for me to take care of the babies while she's working but I'm willing to do the sacrifice if needed. Cheers!

If at all we have any financial constraints we need to think on leaving the job.Else, I prefer to take care of my family.Baby is never a hurdle its the blessing for us.So its all in our hands as to how we manage.I think more than opposing my partner, I'll try to understand his point of view and then decide.

Hi aweins, Is your question like, baby Vs job? if so, then this is my opinion: I would think about my duties, pros and cons for baby and job Duties: Baby- iam responsible to bring up the baby job- minimum contribution- to meet expectations of the employer If i can balance both, then no problem, else a good planning, discussing and decision making is important. This is my planning: prioritizing baby more than job; considering factors based on life and life style like: Going for job: factors- money/ interest in the field where iam working/ personal development/ career development/ organization loyalty/ time pass/ satisfaction in life/ being on the safer side, if there is goin to be disaster in life etc. ? Then, does the current family situation require only one job holder? and who it is goin to be? Discussing with the partner about my duties, feelings, likings, future planning for baby and job, and also importantly listening to that of the partner. Based on the info from discussion, find out/ list dwon all possible solutions that can help achieve the balance between family and job, without compromise between the partners. One solution in my opinion is requesting our parent's help to take care of the baby in our absence. if the above is not possible, a little compromise would help. but if, the husband is strictly saying no to going for job, then in my opinion i wud accept his decision/ thinking. But this has feeble probability, as it happens when husband never hears/ listens to his wife or when the reason is really very genuine. then leave the rest to god and do my best..

I will.actually, i did.I'm the only child left here in our country,all of my sibling live overseas.as the youngest,my parents don't oblige me to stay,but i did.My parents are too old to look over each other.though my mom is younger than my dad,still she's old.I have to stay in our house or get a job near it.i have a middle-class family but we can do with the finances even if i don't work.but at some point,i can't help[ but to think,what if i leave and pursue a career?I graduated form one of the top three universities in the country,i could easily get a job,but still,my care for my parents took over.I don't have regrets though,because i think i'll regret it the most if i don't stay.