my parents needs help and I need help
By jannafaye
@jannafaye (21)
Philippines
November 24, 2009 8:57am CST
Since I was kid,I had a problem with my parents. They lack understanding, love, care and passion. I dont want to have a family like them in the future.Even if they are together but it seems they are very far from one another.I dont heard any fights from them but the actions speaks louder than their moves. It hurts, yah beacause they are my parents. But I will not walk the same path they walk in now. I have to take a cross so my own family will live life to the fullest.
6 responses
@ncrc15 (17)
• Philippines
24 Nov 09
I dont know how old you ar already but I'd like to tell you first to start praying for your parents. I can't give the best advise but I can tell that God knows your situation, and will help you work it out because He loves you. He is just waiting for you to call or come to Him. Pray nad then help will be on it's way.
@jannafaye (21)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Thank you for the response.I already prayed since i encounter this problem,but seems our line to God was disconnected.Maybe the line still chappy.But my hope is still kicking,im so happy to get a wonderful message from you.I never stop praying until He hears me. Amen.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I feel sad for you that you are having so many emotional pains within your own home. I do know that there are so many things that tend to go on within a relationship that make it hard to get along at times. Most likely you will not know the whys behind what makes this so hard for them. I am pretty loving with my husband, thats just the way we are. But I have found that most of the people I encounter are not that way. I am glad also or you that you are choosing to take a different route for your household you and they deserve it!!
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
25 Nov 09
Hi jannafaye, welcome to mylot. 
I think you are very wise in that you have identified what it is that you don't like about the relationship you see with your parents and have resolved not to live the same life yourself. My parents struck me as cold and uncaring when I was growing up. Later on in life I realized that it was not that they were uncaring, but rather, the time that they grew up in...the traditions they learned from their parents. I also resolved to give my future children a different life and I did just that. I tell my children every day that I love them and they freely do the same on their own to me. They have always felt loved and cared for. I'm a grandmother now and my grandchildren benefit from the way that their parents were raised. They also feel loved and cared for.
I think you are very wise in that you have identified what it is that you don't like about the relationship you see with your parents and have resolved not to live the same life yourself. My parents struck me as cold and uncaring when I was growing up. Later on in life I realized that it was not that they were uncaring, but rather, the time that they grew up in...the traditions they learned from their parents. I also resolved to give my future children a different life and I did just that. I tell my children every day that I love them and they freely do the same on their own to me. They have always felt loved and cared for. I'm a grandmother now and my grandchildren benefit from the way that their parents were raised. They also feel loved and cared for.
@magic9 (980)
• China
25 Nov 09
uh, uh, sorry to hear that. In my mind, parents always love their children in all cultures. I can hardly imagine your situation by now though I know some families don't stay tight and intimate. but very few.
I hope you get out of such situation soon and realize your dream.
@mandy719 (49)
• China
25 Nov 09
In my opinion God help those who help themselves....so my suggestion is that you should read some books or join in some clubs related with how to build out own family...just try to do sth to make smoe changes....hope you can have a fulfilling life...
