Something very interesting happened today. My son got "sick" at school.
By mommaj
@mommaj (23112)
United States
November 24, 2009 9:43am CST
At what point is your child sick? What does their temperature have to be before the clinic sends your child home? My son was at school for about an hour and he didn't want to do his puzzles. He's in pre-k and can't talk because he has autism. So the clinic called and his teacher told me he had a fever of 99.8. I asked if he was pulling on his ear or if anything was visually wrong to take him to the doctor. She said he just wasn't acting right and said go home several times. I decided not to take him to the doctor that I would bring him home and watch him. I picked him up and he seemed fine to me. She said he had been crying because he didn't want to do anything. I don't mind getting him from school, but was this a case of the school not wanting to deal with him? He's acting fine. He ate three slices of pizza and couldn't be happier. I think maybe he was hungry and while he was at school he knew he wouldn't get food. STRANGE. He was probably running the fever from crying and throwing himself around. I can't see anything wrong with him. I really hope there isn't. LOL
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
26 Nov 09
Well I hope too that nothing is wrong with him.it could be that he just needs to be with his mommy too.I donthave a hild but I know they need special care and especially a child with autism.I would be sad though if he was just crying because he was hungry and I hope they learn to deal with him and prevent that from recurring
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Dec 09
hi mommaj I really would not fool around with a child with a fever as something is wrong, little ones do not run fevers with out a physical cause. if it were me I would take my child to the doctor as soon as I could get him in. a fever should be looked
at as so many viral infections are going around now not to mention the swine flu .
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Dec 09
Doctors don't really want to see a child unless they have a 100 degree fever. Without any symptoms they would have thought I was crazy for going to the doctor. I totally agree with you though. I picked him up from school and watched him to see if he did anything unusual. Other than eating an extra slice of pizza, everything was normal.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
24 Nov 09
Maybe he crys his fever away! Such a funny boy.
Most people need to drink water, and then go toilet many times to lower the temperature, your son just cry and cry, and then his temperature returns to normal. Is it in your genes?
Maybe he's sick of school, that's why he wants to go home. It's a good trick to use, ask your husband to learn from him.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
25 Nov 09
haha, he's getting smarter now! I wonder how he manages to get the fever! I guess if he learns to control his temperature, his future is very bright!
I just read your article about mobile home. I dont think that article get much in upfront payment, try to use "mobile home refinancing", that is a more expensive keyword, AC is likely to offer better rate.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
26 Nov 09
LOL. Winterizing your mobile home actually got in my range of "normal" upfront payments. I was happy to accept the money. LOL I may have to write another article. LOL
I hope my little guy doesn't resort to trickery at such a young age. That would be too much for me. LOL
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
24 Nov 09
Congratulations! You just taught your son how to get out of school when he doesn't want to be there. Of course, the school is not without responsibilty here. They DO have special ed and they DO have a clinic and they DO have a staff of professionals who are supposed to be equipped to deal with this kind of situation.
On the flip side, he's what, 4 years old? Of course, emotionally he's younger so they have to be able to cut him some slack as do you, but he also has to learn that he doesn't get to go home just because he says the words several times.
I've said it before, you have your hands full with this one.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
24 Nov 09
That's exactly what I told my husband when I got him home. I can't believe they wanted me to pick him up with a temperature under 100. I guess they were afraid if it was something that he was contagious. I said he only had a fever from fussing. All I can say is he better not do this again. Well, I don't mind if he does it, but I hope they don't make me pick him up again without a reason. LOL
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
25 Nov 09
His teacher was helping him with his puzzles and then the next tantrum was going to the office. You have to realize it doesn't matter who is with him when he gets ready to throw a tantrum. Unless you have magical powers, the boy will go down on the ground and if you try to get him up he throws tantrums. LOL I got to the point now, I try to coax him up and if that doesn't work, if he's in a safe place I will leave him.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
24 Nov 09
Well, I hope for your sake they develop a better way of dealing with him. Where was his regular teacher and the fabulous assisstant when all that tantruming was going on?
@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Nov 09
Hi Mommaj,
This is really interesting-- if your son has all the abilities and skills to be out of that weird school (for not treating him well and attending to his needs appropriately), the school has it's own crazy obvious style of not doing their job to be a caring, sensitive and passionate teacher to your son. My heart is crying while reading your story... my boys who are also autistic are treated well in school. If you're just here in our country i can recommend my kids' school to you. Please extend my power hug to your son and to you too mama!
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
26 Nov 09
Aw, thanks sweetie. I really don't think they meant any harm. I just think they over reacted to him. I will say that he was definitely hungry. He doesn't know how to ask them for food at school. He knows at home where his food is so he will go to the refrigerator or to where I have his poptarts and cookies. He grabs the celery container out of the fridge and brings it to me if he just wants a snack. He was going for as much food as he could find that day. LOL
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
26 Nov 09
No problem. I have heard so many bad things about teachers I don't trust my son to just anyone. LOL In fact, if the head teacher isn't there, I probably won't leave my son in the classroom. I don't know why it is so hard for people to deal with these children. Most of them don't even act up. I've seen "normal" children act worse than his class.
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@msfrancisco9369 (10002)
• Boston, Massachusetts
26 Nov 09
...i am being carried away with this negative feeling for the teachers... i apologize! ok...lesson learned from this experience of your son---cry and you'll be full. I hope the teachers will be innovative enough to respond to this kind of needs and be more familiar with your son's way of expressing his hunger.
Thanks mama for the enlightenment!
