what would you think is the best way I can do with my neighbor?
@celestial052506 (2914)
Philippines
November 24, 2009 6:37pm CST
My neighbor is in a hard time. they have so many problems left and right, they have lots of debts to pay, bills, mortgage and everything. Only the husband has an income and it is always short every month. I can hear the wife sometimes said, it is better to commit suicide so that everything will be solved. I pity on them but I can not help them financially because I am also broke.. 
I'm just scared when she said, suicide is the best solution.. Did you hear this from your neighbor too? what would you do it you are in my situation?
I'm just scared when she said, suicide is the best solution.. Did you hear this from your neighbor too? what would you do it you are in my situation?3 people like this
7 responses
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I really don't know what to tell you. People act differently in situations like this. Some people think it's better to just not be on this earth than to have to deal with all the problems. I would maybe make them a simple dinner and take it over and sit and talk with them. Tell her about ways she can make money on the computer and maybe that could help them out a little bit. She could even do mylot to try to make some extra money. I hope their situation gets better and that she doesn't do anything to harm herself.
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Thanks for th best response. Could she maybe clean a few houses for some extra money or watch some children in her home? Just some ideas of how she could make some extra money.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Oh!! I like your idea.. she can;t work online either because they have no internet at home. She is not an internet savvy also.. So then, it is really hard to both of them.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
25 Nov 09
I think she really needs some listening ear and does she say that often? That's really worrying. If she keeps saying that, you might want to monitor that closely. Money problem is something that can really be a burden to someone, but it's not forever. So, you might want to coax her and let her know that everything will be fine.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
That's right!! it is not forever.. but if she will just keep on complaining and would not help her husband? maybe this situation will be forever until they are still alive. I always give her advice but I don;t know if she put it in her heart and mind.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
25 Nov 09
Do they have things they can sell? Or maybe the wife can find a way to bring in a bit of income from online work?
This is scary. Times are really hard right now.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
That's what I am thinking.. why she can't find a simple way of bringing in income to help her husband? she has no little kids at home to take care. Their son is in grade 3 now.. and she is just staying home...
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I'd talk to her. It is not the answer and it won't help a thing. It would just give her husband more issues and more financial problems. Do they have children? Hopefully she was just ranting and venting and would never do such a thing. If after talking to her, you still have concerns then I would talk to her husband. If she is seriously thinking on those lines then she needs some help. I'd talk to her first. Sounds as if she is under a lot of stress and may just be ranting.
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
They have one child.. and indeed they really have a big problem and that includes the mother of his wife. It is really affecting their relationship...
@Muelitz (1592)
• Canada
25 Nov 09
I believe the best that you can do for them is to pray that they do not lose hope because of their predicament. Being there to listen to their problems is also a way of helping them. Listen to them with empathy and tell them to be positive in life. Prayer is very powerful. Hope this helps. 
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Exactly right!! I agree with that. Prayer is the best weapon for discouragement. that's the best thing I can do for them.
@smile823 (45)
• China
25 Nov 09
Hi,celestial.Welcome to mylot.
You say they are two people only the husband at work,if they are economic predicament is not due to gambling or other bad habits,then you can suggest the women go to work,when there are job opportunities for you to give her introduction,because you the help that she will be very impressed.With the work she would be more optimistic about life.I hope ou help her out of the predicament of life.
Good luck to you!
@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hahah thanks for welcoming me.. I am a member of mylot for more than a year now... but anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
25 Nov 09
I don't know what to tell you. Sadly people say such things when they are under alot of stress. Is there a way you could help in just little ways I don't mean paying their bills but mow their lawn, watch their kids for a few hours, bake a treat and leave it at their door w/ a note just because you care..... . Sometimes it's the little things that can make dreadful situations look a lil brighter if only for a moment.
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@celestial052506 (2914)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Well, I give a little bit help. When they said they had nothing to eat for the day, I lend them rice and tell them don;t pay it anymore. they owe me money but I did not ask them to pay... I have no lots of money either but I still manage to survive with my kids. Thanks God.. My husband is working outside the country but his salary is ust enough for us sometimes it is not enough.. so I have nothing to share a lot.
