do you mind if your parents ask for your salary to them?

My parents never ask me for money, even I give them , they would not accept sometimes. maybe your parents have some purposes, maybe they want to collect money for you. anyway, when you need the money, just tell them, I believe they will understand you .

When I started working, my parents and I had an arrangement that I'll be giving 10% from my salary to them. They both do not have jobs, me and my siblings are the ones working and sometimes paying the bills for the house. That's okay for us, we didn't mind giving them money because we knew that the portion of our salary will go to payments for our utilities. You can make a similar arrangement with your parents. Also, if you are saving up for something, just tell them and make them understand that you can only give a certain amount of money because you want to buy something for yourself.

If you are living at home, then their expecting some "rent" could well be expected. And some parents seem to think that since they raised you they deserve to be "paid back." However, if you are living on your own, and you need the money for your family/household/bills, life expects you to "pay that forward" by being a good member of society and, if you have children, raise them and not expect to be paid back for doing so. So, my advice is, if you are living at your parent's home, pay them rent, but once you are living on your own, you really have the obligation to take care of yourself FIRST and then if you want to give them money, you can. (said from a single person in her mid-50's) Around here, they have a saying - remember how you treat your children, because they are picking your nursing home... Well, actually, my mom picked hers, but its a good one!

Do you still live at home? If you do, you should be paying your parents room and board. If you're on your own, I still think you have a responsibility toward your parents, particularly if they're needy. But if your parents don't need any money from you, it's your money to do with what you please.

Think of it this way, when you were still a child, daily, your parents too give you "money" in terms of pocket money, transport and food, eating at home also requires them to give money. They have been giving you money for over 20 years. Maybe you have started working at an earlier age but your parents are still giving money to you in that they are paying for the place to stay, the electric and water, the miscellaneous things to use in the house like shampoo,soap, toilet papers etc. It is till later, when your parents become old and can't work that they are asking you to give. Why do children forget that when parents are doing the paying/giving of money, the parents too have times that they NEED the money for THEMSELVES, but they STILL give money to the children, cos they know the children can't support themselves then. SO NOW WHEN THE PARENTS CAN'T SUPPORT THEMSELVES BUT DAILY MONEY IS STILL NEEDED, WHY CHILDREN HAVE TO FEEL ......? Even though they are old, sorry to say money is still needed to pass every day. Now, you can earn BUT they can't. So don't request that they know what YOU want the money for, there is never an end to wants. They only wish to know that you put THEM 1st on the list.

Hi riri I don't mind. As a child, I think we should give some of our salary to parents ! It is our responsibility to do so ,at least for me ! I live in a common village in North China . I am the only child in my family, so my parents took the best care of me, I think . They are all peasants , they put all their hopes on me . They worked hard in the field ,making money to raise me up ! So I have to give my salary to my parents to raise them when they are old ! I think it's my responsibility as a son of them !

I think if you are out of school and working, you should be paying some sort of rent to live in your parents house, if you are living there. You have to remember, there is food to buy that you eat, and utilities that you are using.

well if you still live with them then yeah you should be giving them some money to help with the bills and food etc etc I used to pay 20% of my salary when I lived with my parents as I think that's fair as you are using food and power etc etc. If you don't live with your parents then nah you shouldn't have too. Although I would still help my parents out moneywise if they needed any as they are my parents and family is family.

My mom often asked my salary every month, when I used more, she would asked where I spent. I don't mind give my salary to her every month. but I don't like to tell her where I spent my money. I have my private spending, so I don't like her to ask. Reference to your mom, you can talk with her and tell her you need use money to do something, I think your mom will understand and accept.

Sometimes it would never hurt if you tell them the reason why you can't give some financial assistance to them at least for the time being considering you also badly need the money for personal or emergency purposes. I think they will understand it for sure, with a little persuasion and cuddling so their feelings won't be hurt in case your parents are very sensitive persons. You should let them know that you are more than willing to help them and be with them, take care of them but still make them understand that you also have yourself as an individual that also has needs and wants, just like them. And if they make an argument with you, just stay calm and reiterate to them that you love them and will support them all the way, but not now that you also need the money too. Time is key when your parents eventually get non-reasonable. After a week or so, they'll slowly realize that they too had some fault in having a quarrel with you. Although many parents usually not exhibit weaknesses like that but you'll see it to them when they start talking again to you.

If they need some money, I'll give them whatever my condition is. I'm lucky that my parents always understand my economic situation. Sometime they refused to accept the money from me though they really need it just because they know I need it either. But for me, my parents' need is more important than mine. So, sometime I have to insist them to receive my money.

I think your parents should understand your condition.. It's normal to give away some of our salary to our parents, i did that to.. But if i need the money and can't give them money for a while, my parents always understand my condition and they will try on their own to complete their need

ohhh i am still sudent, but as case of my brother this is really happen to him. When he still single he all give his salary to our parents and he only ask for his needs from our parents. This is what i have notice here in Philippines that we child is giving our salary to our parents but i dont with other culture. Even now i still study my parents always remind me to get new job so that i cant help them too.... huhuhu its crazy but it really happen.