Rumors at work

First of all, happy belated birthday to you. 21 already.. that's cool, yeah. For me, rumors are just rumors. I know it's hard to grasp it sometimes, but it's best to ignore it. After a while, the rumors will just die down. If I were in your situation, I'd just ignore it like totally. That's the best action ever, to me.

The best way to let rumours die on their own is not to attach any importance to them. The more you scream that they are lies, the more people will think that it’s the truth you are trying to hide or deny. So the best is to just not respond to any such rumours and not encourage them by making any comments. Once people see how disinterested you are, they will stop circulating such rumours.

Hi friend, nice to see you. Being a lecturer gives you the benefit of having the opportunity to face the students all at one time. So why not go ahead and grab this opportunity, make it clear in front of all the students that you are not having any crush on the supposed student. However, I suggest that you don't make this statement bluntly because your students will start another rumor about you, and it would most probably be about you denying it because you are just ashamed and actually you really have the crush on that particular student. I suggest however, that you make it a casual thing by asking them nonchalantly. Spare a few minutes in your lecture time and make a slot of ice breaking or something. Maybe you can even start a slot "tell the truth about yourself" as an extra assignment for your student. In this slot, ask your students to personally talk in front of the call about themselves - the truth about themselves and what are the things that make them embarrassed. After hearing all of their confession, you can slide in your own confession and embarrassment too, and in this situation it would not be an awkward moment or embarrassing to you anymore because everybody else had also contributed their own share of embarrassment. See.. you can try this idea if you want and see how it comes out. Good luck!

aixshaonline well I think you will have to sort of shrug it off and act as adult as you can and also I would definitely have a sharp talk with this student.tell him to quit with this as it will harm your job. that you will not have this going on in your class room. you are the teacher you need to exert some discipline with your students and not let them walk all over you.

hmm..that's a pretty hard one. I mean, people usually just keep on creating rumors even though it is not true, thinking that someday, somehow it will turn out to be that way. It might not be started by himself, but if he likes the rumor itself, then it could go on for quite a time. well, to face it, you would have to do what is hard to do for others, but in my opinion, is the best thing to do - stay calm and act natural. i mean, treat the guy as you would any other one. without the "unconscious" lingering stare or the awkwardness because of the said rumors. For some, its hard and they end up not talking to the person, but in your work, you just have to face it, head on. So just ignore it because if you get affected by it, then others will assume that there really is something.

Awww, that must be really disturbing and irritating. You're a very young teacher. Maybe that is why you are being subjected to this type of rumors. I don't really know what advice to give you but I would like to remind you not to do anything that would harm your reputation further. Weigh your action plans very carefully. Be more cautious about what you say or do within and and even outside the campus. Have a blessed day.

Ehhh, difficult and I am very honest to you that I can't help it out because my way of tackling this situation would never help you out. If I were in your place, I would not do anything but just avoid my rumor partner. AFter one or two days, everything will be fine!

You cannot avoid that situation when you are a teacher. Because your beautiful and lovely as can be. The right thing you do in that situation. Talk to the student that allegedly your crush. Ask him if that rumors coming from him or someone of his friend because he will be the one talking to his friend that have a crush on you...If you find out that he is responsible just ask him to go to the office of the guidance and or principal office of the president office to let them know that your not the one who crush that person to preserve your morality being guarded... That rumors will reflect to your career if your not doing something, my friend. Have a nice day and hope that issue will resolve soon...

Not the 'crushable' type! Sorry, I don't mean to find it's funny, but it seems to me that this student of yours is the one who has the crush in you, so, he might be the one who has started the rumor. It's very irritating indeed when the situation is reversed. You have two options either to be brave to come forward and clear the rumor or just let it be, but I am sure a few pair of eyes will be watching your movement and how you treat 'this' student. All the best and Happy Belated Birthday!

I would definitely talk to your boss about this. It would be better that he hear it from you than hear it as a rumor from some kids and possibly believe it is true. Tell him you are concerned because you know what the laws are about teachers and students, and that you are trying to figure out what you should do. Better to confront it face on than to try to see if it will blow away on its own... these things rarely ever do! And besides, kids shouldn't be allowed to go around saying whatever they want to about whomever they want to. That is very damaging to all parties involved.

Dear Aixsha, Rumors at work are not uncommon.There is a group of people who always link someone to someone and enjoy doing it.In any profession,rumors don't help an employee's reputation and more so in your case as you are working as a teacher.You can ignore the issue if you think its not making you too uncomfortable but just in case you feel that its affecting your performance in any way you'll have to do something about it.Either you can change your attitude which is to say that you be a bit more strict with the students and if it doesn't help,you can even go the management and ask them for help.You could tell them that this is disturbing you and I am sure they'll do something about it.Also,you'll be saved of any doubt being raised over your credentials if they come to know of it from some other source.