Oh...i'm losing my baby...is he really a grown up?

Well, I think your son has the point. You must be thankful because your son know about responsibility and that is to take care of himself. Kid is not always a kid because maturity comes in our life. I know as parents they always treat their children as baby because of love. But we need to accept that children will grow older and older that need some space in their life.

Hi Sis, Well, tell you honestly, I was never treated like a child even when I were a child. i am the eldest and from a very young age I was always preached to act as a "matured" person. I will always think for the rest of my life that I lost my childhood. Bodhi

Congratulation fo you jaiho, you can grown up your son well. It can saw from your son feel. He want to play his friend and not protected or treat from his mother. This is the sign of kids when he recognizes his world outside home. You can give him chance and decrease your protect.

let him be.. it natural he should learn by himself...and if he falls down.. now the time to be there by his side..

Hi jaiho. Don't worry.Your son has grown up,he wants to show he can do many things alone but not always with the help of his mother. What you really need do is watch him quitely and supply help if he really needs. Just let him try new things,the first time going to school alone,the first time wash his clothes himself,the first time he clean his room and the first time he can supply help to his mother. I think he will surely feel happy to be a helpful arm.

hi.. yes a 11 yr old is a bit grown up, we must understand that he is thinking of doing things by himself and it is a good one.. it doesn't mean that he dont like you.. all he needs now is a great support from you all so that he can prepare himself to be a good self driven person in future.. believe in him that he can.. but pls watch and guide him.. you all love each other.. extreme care and love sometime make poeple uncomfortable.. all the best for his future..

Well, this is the hardest bit for us Mums when they start letting us know they are old enough to do things themselves but it happens, I cried when they started School and I cried when they left School and joined the working world the last one was the worst, my Children had grown into Adults, It is hard but we need to respect it I know one thing I would do though is make sure that he will be safe walking on his own to School I always did that with mine before I agreed, my Son always walked with a group of Friends My Daughter I carried on taking by Car before I went to work as she was to scared to walk due to bullying and other issues But yes it is hard to see that you are loosing the Baby of the Family

I do understand that too in my case. My son is 7 years-old and I can sense him growing independently already. But as a parent I guess it is part of our children's development and we could not stop that anymore. I am just happy and content that he is growing to be a good boy in his age. I am hoping that as he grows he would also be mature as time goes by and be a responsible man in the future. But it is really sad that the child you reared in your arms. Almost too helpless before is slowly standing up on its own and slowly leaving our protective arms already. But that is nature and we just have to accept it.

Hi, j. No you are not losing him. You are just losing him during his childhood years. He is learning to become independent. This is a great thing, so by the time he reaches high school, he will be ready for it. He is ready to be more mature. Let him. He still loves you as his mother. I am sure that he will never forget that. As he enters this stage continue to give the the love, encouragement and support that is needed for him to grow to become a mature young man.

Well, you shouldn't control everything they do. Let them develop their own opinions, and ideas. You can help them, but try not to push them too hard. If he's only 11, he doesn't have that much life's experience, so I don't think he's grown up yet :P Oh well. What will be, will be.

wow i guess it always happen when they realized they are already old enough to do so. My kids are still young, 5 and 3 years old..but i could not imagine what i would do when its their turn to say that to me! hehe.. but then i could remember when i was also at that age when i would insist my mom that i could do it without her help and she was like, you are not yet old enough blahblah... i guess it is mothers nature to do so!

Hi there! Well that is funny for me, my brother is also 11 years old and he is the baby in our family because he is the youngest but he always pretends to be a big guy. I guess you are loosing your baby because he is starting to grow into a man. I understand that being a mother it is hard to accept especially if he is the youngest because we always love to have a baby or younger one in our family. I hope that you will just accept this things and guide him because this is his first step into manhood.

Well if he's 11 years old already he's definitely not a baby. He is slowly maturing and soon he will go through puberty. It's a normal thing all of your children will go through. You can't treat him as a baby forever. Once he's a teenager he'll be acting a lot of things on his once. He will have his own things to take care of. The best you can do is support him your best. I sure know I'd hate to be treated like a baby still.

Unfortunately, that's just how it is for every pre-teen to teenager. They go through a stage that makes them want to experience new things and explore alone without their mom or dad being by their side. Just let them do their thing and always let them know you're always there for them (but not too much as to you're annoying them). They just want space, and it's normal for them go through this phase.

Time and tide waits for non LOL so rather than being wistful, enjoy the times as they come. You’ve at least had the good fortune of bringing up three children, I’ve only one son and he’s 10 and he’s already demanding to be treated like an adult. Not that I allow it all the time, but just sometimes I do give in to see how he manages it…like I do allow him to go to nearby shops alone and from next year, he’ll be returning alone from the bus stop after school. I’m sure we wont lose our kids, that’s never possible…only we need to move along with them judiciously so that they allow us into their lives at all stages.

If you think that's bad I feel like I'm losing my baby girl. I could only have one child. I had had two miscarriages and was told I wouldn't be able to have kids after that. But then she came along and it was hard as she tried to kill me while giving birth. She got her foot stuck in my rib cage and every time I pushed she kicked my heart. They had to preform an emergency c section. I went through hell to have her and she's my pride and joy. My one and only that I can have. Now she's 19 years old and getting ready to get married. I can't believe that so many years have already passed. I never thought this day would come or at least not so soon. My baby's grown up.

Hi jaiho, Letting go is never easy, especially when it's our youngest child yet cutting the apron strings is very important. Your child is eleven years old, and although he may not be a grown-up,he is ready to start doing things on his own. He probably sees his friends venturing further and further and feels that he must try his wings as well. My advice is love him and let him go and don't let him see those tears that you know you will shed. Let him go a little at a time of course, and discuss it with him each time he wants a longer leash. Let him know that you respect his opinion though you may not always agree. I know it's not easy and there will be an ache in your heart for some time to come. Blessings.

I feel grown up when I had my first menstruation...I started to feel uncomfortable with my parents..but of course I know I was immature then... With your situation I think you just don't feel like giving up treating your youngest son "a baby", just face the fact that he's growing up and soon will have a family someday...maybe it really hurts at first but in d end... you'll see your child has a bright future ahead.

Boys tend to go through this sooner than girls. My thoughts on this are to let him go. He will eventually realize that he still needs mom and dad, just not as much. Also, make time to have mom and son time. Find something he likes and spend quality mom/son time with him. If he likes shooting hoops, take him and go shoot hoops at the local park or gym. I have a 20 year old son and a 13 year old daughter and I still take time out one day a week to do something he likes(without her) and another day to do something she likes(without him). Then you have the quality time with him to find out exactly why he is feeling this way. He is however old enough to go to school himself. Just take things one day at a time and you will be closer than he realizes. Also continue to field trips and school functions with him and that will show him how much you really care without making him feel like a "baby". Good luck and I hope this helps.

maybe he felt ashamed with her schoolmates. maybe he think he is a big boy now even though he is too young to know everything. So, if you want to let him independent, you must monitor him from any dangerous things that can harm himself.