Do you gift for gift?

I agree that some emotional value is attached to these gifts mimpi. But, one thing--this exchange of gifts between or even acceptance of gifts from close people is easier than taking something from another outsider.Even among close people, people do have different families and this giving tends to get equal at some time point of time or the other.It would not be weighed in a balance but there is some thought that does go within and is reflected [I have observed this many times]. I feel, nominal gifts like a hairclip, a bar of chocolate ,[not a box mind you], an occasional saree, a glass container, --really do not matter. WHen the gifts become expensive , then it is slightly tricky because the receiver would either feel burdened with the thought of returning it some day or feel a sense of inadequacy.This would all happen when there is a marked status difference between the people you had mentioned.We ca never decipher what goes on in another person's mind however much we try to be sensitive to them.On the other hand when there is perfect understanding between people it is not too difficult.

Hi, mimpi. I will give a gift with no expectations of a return. I don't look for someone to give me something back. All my gifts are from love and from the heart. I am a person that enjoys giving someone a gift just to see them smile. It makes me happy to know that they enjoyed their gift.

Oh yes, A gift is a treasured item when it's recieved from a loved one and i can tell you this, it remains with me for a long long time. And if it's something which i use, i can't describe the special care and feeling with it every time. On the other hand giving a gift is not at all taken from an obligation point of view. I'm the type who likes to gift as often as i can and it's often that i go around trying to find something appropriate,or if i like something i want to share it. The time and effort in putting it all together, the wait of giving it and the expression on the reciever's face and eyes if i could see or imagine it---It's all so special.

You don't seem to love me Mimpi.

I have always believed in and been taught from a young age that it's not the price of the gift, but the thought that goes behind the gift, doesn't matter if the gift costs a few cents or if it's home made which is more loving and thoughtful than a purchased gift. Anyone can pay hundreds of dollars to match a present they've been given, it becomes obligation and routine even, but when the thought comes straight from the heart, well that is priceless!

Hi Mimpi, Big or small, cheap or expensive...as long as it is given from the heart--it's the thought and love that count. Of course i love receiving gifts and i want giving surprises and gifts too, i want to make people happy and know that they are not forgotten and the gifts will symbolize how they mean to me.

the special part of giving a gift is that it comes from the heart, but I don't care if they don't give me gifts.

That is the very idea of gift giving. At least for me that is.^_^ I would really prefer to give gifts because I want to and not really because I have to. Though there are instances wherein a person just needs to give because it is mandatory. Like in work places for example. There is the practice of Kris Kringles during the Christmas Party. It would be terrible if the person did not even bring something to pass off as a gift during these events. Good thing that Im not in that situation yet. We did have those during our Christmas Parties in elementary and high school but I was very willing to give a gift to classmates that time. These days however, I dont ask my parents for cash so that I could give my friends gifts. I really do save up for them and those are not just the items that I first saw on the shelf. Gift giving for me is a process. I would really like to know what the person wants to get. Then Ill see if I can afford it or calculate whether the savings that I could get the following weeks would be enough to buy that gift as well as for others' gifts. If not then Ill try to find an alternative that could be within my budget. I also have the habit of writing notes/letters attached/inserted/hidden inside the gift, so that they would still be surprised after the initial surprise of getting a gift.

Indeed, gifts are beautiful. I love receiving gifts from loved ones and friends too. I enjoy wrapping gifts for them, though they are just simple things that i buy. I know that they appreciate whatever i give them because i feel it. I feel happy when i give gifts, especially during Christmas.

Exchanging gift is a good deed for the ones that you love or share soem special moments of life. Your friend and family are part of it , but sometimes colleagues too. I take extra care and start searching for it days before the occasion. I also ask for help from friends or collegaue. Take 2/3 rounds of the market to get the gift in good price. usually my nephews and necies tell em what they want but for my mother and sisters I pick specially clothes.

I do not think it matters what the value of the gift is what is important by giving you are showing your love for that person. You do not need to gift for gift as being there for someone shows them you loved them.

With the economy hitting so hard my family had a good idea. The women would buy a womans gift and the men would do the same. Then the gifts were numbered by gender. You would pick a number out of hat and the get the gift corresponding with that gift. We would have a min to max price for the gift. It was fun also. The men had more fun I believe because Wal-mart cards and Gas cards were a big pull over for them.. They just loved it when they got the gifts with the envelopes. We had fun with it. Then we would buy for all the kids. But our family has grown tremendously so we mostly concentrate on the kids.

Hi mimpi, I think gifting is an art. If I were a good painter, I'd be happy with a nice large pallet, with a few brushes (they are expensive, mind you), or some of my favorite shades. :) I wouldnt hanker for jewelry, clothes, or any other form of gifts. But if I were a singer, my objects of desire would be something related to music, like the latest CD of ... Now, if you compare costs, there may be a vast difference. Does that mean, the person gives me a CD worth 400 loves me less? Does it always have to be that saree of 1000+, a saree that I dont really like, but I accept because it doesnt look nice to refuse, and I immediately start planning whom shall I pass it on to? Get what I mean? So some people have reduced gifting to merely exchange of purchases. If there is a personalized touch to it, it is great. If not, it is a formality which people have been doing for ages, and which doesn't really make any sense, except for people to compare costs at the end of the day to assess who has gained and who has lost. Second point I wanted to make in this context was gifts should be spontaneous. You walk into a shop, you think - wow this is exactly what she would love, and you buy it, and neatly pack it. You give it without any ocassion. That is a nice surprise! It is something accompanied by thought about the person. This is not same as giving gifts when it is a festive season, or any wedding in the family! Gifts at such occassions is something you have to do because you dont have a choice! How can that be great?

I feel that gifts should not be obligations, but symbols of love and caring. I do not feel that someone should give me a gift in return if I give one to them and visa versa.

i am alo like you,i also gift whenever i wish to,not on any occassions but sometimes i do give gifts to my friends on occassions like friendship day etc..

Hi dear! Most probably each of us like to receive gifts and presents as they come along with a tinge of happiness, joy and surprise. Gifts many a times hold surprise element in it, till we open the wrapper and the suspense before opening the gifts feels thrilling. I value the gifts very much, whenever someone give it to me I remember who handed it over. My better half is very particular and she does not forget to gift me on the occasion of my birthday and our anniversary. We (me and my better half) always feel an urge to return the favour by one or the other and we do it at the first available opportunity. I remember one incident. One of my bosses was transferred to other city and we threw a farewell party to her. In turn she invited all her members of staff to her residence. She not only treated as nicely, entertained us with sumptuous dishes/snacks and when we were about to leave, she handed over a packet to each of us. The packet contained a beautiful tie and tie clip. I still wear that tie and cherish the same and have not forgotten that officer. We did not actually expect that she may invite us like this and hand over gifts to us, therefore, it became all the more exciting.

People love getting things for free. Sometimes I do not care much about gifts. The visit of the chat with the person is better than the gift.

Sometimes I receive gift from my loving sister. My sister always give me a gift. Sad part of it was I didn't give a gift my sister because I have no money to buy...hehe

I like to give gifts more than receive them. Not that I don't like to get them, but to me I get more enjoyment out of giving. Some people return everything they get. I am the opposite I save everything. I try and clean out my closets for example and end up keeping most everything even if I don't wear it because someone gave it to me. I really enjoy giving gifts for no real reason. I like to give Christmas & birthday gifts with no thought of what I might get in return.

Same here too. I too love to give gifts to my loved ones:)