I wanted to serve God again and go back to the music ministry. But my ex...

@ncrc15 (17)
Philippines
November 25, 2009 8:45am CST
My ex is a member of our church's music ministry. And I know that he still has feelings for me. By the way, I am already married and a monther to a 11 month old baby girl. I have a gift for singing and I wanted to sing for God, and hopefully be a song leader too. I actually don't know how to start..
1 response
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Great to hear that your using the talent that God has given you. But let me ask you this, is God really the reason why you really decided to be in the ministry or for someone else? Since you have said that your "ex" is in the same ministry? and still?? has feelings for you (is that right), meaning he knows that your married and has a kid, and yet has an eye on you? forgive me, but that is simply adultery... Jesus said if anybody looks upon with lust, desire.. he is committing adultery already in his heart... so I suppose a real Christian would have known that he is being deceived if He still has that motive. Don't get me wrong, nor quote the most misquoted verse in the Bible to Judge not, it is a righteous judge and a rebuke to a brother if that is the reason why you are now avoiding each other because of this. But check your hearts motive too. If you both are following the Word of God, you may understand clearly what will the conviction of the Holy Spirit with regards to this. Pray and ask God above all else since we have been prioritizing sometimes Ministry instead of our walk with God. I am not saying that Ministries hinders, but what I am saying is ministry and your personal relationship with Christ is two different things, which one would you prioritize?
@ncrc15 (17)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
I was already a christian even before I met him at a different church. We moved to their town and I met him at our church. We had a short relationship but I loved him. He loved me (he said) but he let go of me. Until I met this guy (my husband)and became steady for 5 years before we got married. (last June 09) My husband by the way is not a christian but he has already attended our church but not regularly because of the nature of his work. He has nothing agains God and going to our church. It was kinda long story why I stopped being a member of the music industry. I know that my ex still has feelings for me. I can feel it. I just hope and pray that he's not commiting adultery while looking at me. We're friends and I treat him as a brother in Christ. Thank you for your advise. I'm praying real hard for this. I was not given a gift for singing for nothing.