If you were diagnosed of having a malignant cancer,what's your decision?

By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
November 25, 2009 1:12pm CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters, What if you were diagnosed for having a malignant cancer and the doctors had given you a year to live,what would you do? Will you continue the treatment knowing that it costs a huge amount of money, or would you rather keep the money for your family's well being and security when you die? Waiting for your responses and have a good day always
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10 responses
@wjmc20 (1)
• Peru
26 Nov 09
I would be sad, but I would look for medical treatments to abel to cure myself
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• United States
26 Nov 09
It would depend on what type of cancer. Some are easier to treat than others. For the easy ones I would definitely go and get medical treatment. For those that are harder to treat, I would pass up the medical treatment, because the quality of life usually isn't that good after treatment. I am talking from experience. Not my own, but people in my family who have had cancer. For those who are terminal I would say if you can do like on the movie "The Bucket List" and do as much as you can that is possible in the time remaining. You could also look up all the natural remedies available and try them as a last resort.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello greatsasuke, Alternative medicine is good or one resort the least a cancer patient can every try. I will also recommend or undergo with alternative ones. And yes...doing things with our loved ones,having fun with them while there is still time and leave them with good memories to remember is much better rather than spending time at the hospital and feeling sorry after. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
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@sirnose (2436)
• United States
25 Nov 09
If I was diagnosed with cancer I would not treat it if there were no hope of me recovering from the illness. I would just ask for some kind of pain reliver and get my affairs in order. Like asking for forgiveness to family and friends that I my have hurt in the past it's better to do stuff this when you are still up and about, instead of when you are bedridden.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello sirnose, This is a good time to do good things to our loved ones. I will be very thankful for the last time given,that i can still be with my family ,thu it is limited. I will never loose a single minute being with them and showing how much i have loved them. I will never look at my condition as if,i was the only one suffering with it,but i will also consider my family's feeling. I will live my life as normal as possible,anyway,we will all die,it just happen that mine is sooner than the other. So i agree with you,better do the unfinished things done while there is still time. Thanks for your response and have a good day awlays
@kezabelle (2974)
25 Nov 09
I would take the treatment I have children and I wouldnt want to say goodbye to them any sooner than I absolutley had to! Treatment here is free but even if it wasnt i would still do it having watched a very good friends husband die of cancer he continued his treatment to spend as much time as possible with not only his wife but their baby son aswell. I have health insurance anyway so my family would be more than adequatley provided for if the worst was to happen
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello kezabelle, I fully understand about what you feel and what you mean dear,i am also a mother of 3 kids,so,i don't want to leave them as much as possible. But undergoing some treatment will only leave them mark of suffering as well as myself. I do respect your opinion,but if you may ask me,i will not go any treatment. I would rather spent my last days doing the usual things i am doing and won't think about my condition. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
26 Nov 09
Hi dear Sis, Thats a very tough one to answer, I can only answer that if i am really suffering. But given the condition and the way I am put up now, I won't let myself get treated, I would pass the money on to my parents. I won't even reveal my condition until the pain and convulsions become unbearable.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hello dear brother, Oh,what a great words,you will suffer the pain all alone. You will never reveal it to your loved ones? I guess it would be painful to them,but,it is your choice. I have read some confession same like this. It is about a gay that suffers a cancer for a prolonged used of hormones. He never tell his family about it,until he is already bedridden,and he can't moved alone by himself. He was using that hormones(injectables)to look like a woman becoz he wants to give his family a better life as a female performer(he is a gay) That was really a sad story of sacrifice and love. Thanks for your response and have a good day always dear bro.
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@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
If I were diagnosed as having malignant cancer, of course I will seek for the second opinion. But if that second opinion also saying i have end stage of cancer and just having few years to live, i guess i will just accept it with all my heart. I believe that it is my fate and god gave this to me. I will just maximize the time that was left for me. I will not go into treatment anymore because I believe that it is just a waste of money instead I will save it for the future of my family.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello junmae, I think this is a very practical thinking,and this will also be my decision. Why waste time and money for any treatment when we can still have time to spend with our family and be happy with them. This is just to prove us that,money can't buy us life. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
If I can afford it why not try the treatments but if not I might just wait for my time since it would just be a waste of money if my family will suffer a lot having it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello rsa, I can understand about it.Some people choose not to undergo treatment becoz of financial statement. That also add more burden to the family and the concern. Thu how much we wanted to give the best try and medication,but our resources won't let us do what we wanted to do to prolonged the life of our loved ones. But,even if i had the money,i would still not go any treatment. I would rather spend my last days having fun with my family,at least leaving them in happy times and not always in sad moments. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hi jaiho! I pray I won't go through that ordeal. That is simply devastating! I've been doing a healthy living as much as I could afford and if still cancer comes to me that would be too disappointing. Anyway for the sake of discussion if diagnosed with malignant cancer I will not go through the conventional way of treating cancer such as chemotherapy and all synthetic medicine which are all really costly. That will not help at all. Chemotherapy is killing the cancer cells and at the same time killing also the good cells and hence there is a very, very slim chance of survival. It is only prolonging the ordeal. Of course this does not mean I will surrender my life just like that. I will instead go for the alternative way of healing cancer. This is natural healing through herbs, vegetables and fruits.And also of course I will ask God's mercy. If still this will not heal me then I know God has a reason why and at least I have done something.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello salonga, I can understood that you are following a very strict diet and also goes with alternative medicine which is better than having dugs.(commercial medicine) I also agree with you,i would rather resort to alternative ways and with God's mercy,it is on HIS hands if HE will take me earlier or,will HE prolonged my life to be with my family and serve HIM for many more years. This is the last thing we want to hear from a doctor,and last thing we want to happen to any of our loved ones.We never want to be in this situation,but,it is also reality that,there were people facing such fate. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
25 Nov 09
No one but the person and their family could answer that question. They will have to decide.
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@1hopefulman (45120)
• Canada
26 Nov 09
Hi jaiho2009! Only when we are faced with a situation can we react. Sometimes it's hard to decide in advance. The family and all concerned need to look at the situation. What does the person want to to? Sometimes someone from outside th circle comes with help. I guess we can always pray, look at the options, and do what we can. Take care!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello hopefulman, yah,no one can give definite answer,but the concern,we never knew what will be our decision too unless we are on the same situation. Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@jewels49 (1776)
• United States
26 Nov 09
Doctors are wrong all the time. I would fight with everything I had to stay alive. I know too many people that are alive years after a fatal prognosis. It would never be about the money. dollars and cents cannot be how we measure the value of a human life..unless you count the amount I would give to have juat one more day with someone I had lost.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
hello jewels, What a comforting words dear "give the best for one day to live".Of course we never want to lose someone we love so dearly,but this is life,we never knew who will go first. This is one thing that had open my eyes and mind too,we wanted to stay our family and beloved with us,so,the moment we knew that he/she had an ailment,it makes us sad to think that we were losing them sooner. The only best thing i can do is...to show how much i love them,give them quality time to spend with. Not to waste a single moment,but to make each day a special day for everyone. Thanks for your response and have a good day always