Mylot a place for making friends?...No..Not.

HI abhaijith! I have to disagree with you. Let me explain. We have a list and it is called a 'friend list' but, in my opinion that is not a true definition. When we add a name to that list it is lile sowing a seed in the garden - if we water it and help it then it might grow. If we just leave it there and abandon it to get on by itself, then it will wilt and die. I have been here almost three years and duting that time my list has become very long. Among those names are a few with whom I got closer, through reading their posts and exchanging views in PMs. Then we exchanged emails and then phone numbers and we speak regularly on the phone (I am lucky that I can call most countries for a minimal flat rate monthly). Next year I shall be meeting more than one of them in person. Adding a name to a list does not mean that we have a new friend but it is the first step towards coltivating something which could last a lifetime and outside myLot too. But it takes two to make it grow...

One can make friends here. However people tend to concentrate on starting discussions or responding to them. So most people do not have the time to make friends. No one seems to be interested in being friends or sending messages.

In real life we have a variety of friends. We have people we recognise and give a smile or a cheery wave. There are some we stop to have a little chat with, and some we linger with a little longer, maybe sharing time over a coffee. Then there are some we mix with more regularly and share more deeply with. Best of all, there are true friends with whom we share our innermost thoughts and experiences and support and encourage one another. In myLot life doesn't the same apply? Don't we have a variety of friendships? Some are passing acquaintances, some we meet quite often, some we enjoy debating/discussing with. Then there are those really precious friends whose appearance we look for eagerly and thoroughly enjoy a time of fun and sharing with. I like to think that some of the friends I have met here will be lifelong friends, but I know that just as in real life, our ways might part. Even so, I will treasure the times we enjoy here. Can we make real friends? YES!

abhaijith well that might have been me and yes I did say we can make friends from all over the world,.what the heck is wrong with that? so maybe you think we americans are not good enough or we have the wrong religion, what is your bias? I have what I feel are real friends in other countries and they are not snobs,they know I am an American and so what? friends do not practice bigotry, they accept each other unconditionally so the color of our skin or the name of our religion does not matter to real friends. yes I have gotten private messages from my real friends not that is any of your business. you sound snobbish and I do not do snobbish.

I actually started out on this site with an attitude somewhat similar to yours. I thought there would be interaction and casual conversation, and I might make acquaintances, but I never dreamed that I would find real friendship on here. I found out that I was wrong. If you open up and be yourself, then you will find that there are a lot of others on here that do the same. Some are instant connections and some develop over time, but they are no less real than forging a friendship through phone conversations or chatting by the water cooler. Several people have said it far better than I have, but I do think that if you are open, then you can develop real friendships on here.

wew.. i say its wrong.. we can make good friends here.. some people only add you just because.. but we can also find good people.. some people just add me just because but some people here on my friends list are already good friends of mine here in my lot.. if you didnt make any friends well too bad for you

Hi dear! Our dear friend Vandana has said it all. You see you need to go deeply into the meaning of friendship and here friends are called on-line friends. There is some difference in off line or real life friends and on-line friends. When you add someone and wish to know more about him/her, you do not limit yourself to discussions only, you may exchange PMs and may exchange even email IDs to know each other better. It is upto you how much you want to know the other person. Here also, on mylot you can develop good friendship, provided you are putting in some sincere efforts in it.

I think you have some points there. I think it could be said that online friendship is somewhat pretty different from a real friendship. But the sense of trust, good relations and all are still the same and I really appreciate a good friendship anytime. I certainly agree that we can find some real, good friends here, and just because we are all living far apart, it doesn't mean we can't have some good friendship. Good topic here..

Hi, I have more than 100 people in my friend´s list. I never say no to a person asking to be my friend. But although I dlete some once in a while, I am too lazy to do it on a regular basis. Those people are not my friends. But here, at mylot, I have some real friends. Friends That I would like to see, friends that I have offered my house should they come to my country. They are a few but they are worth it. I know how my friend´s children are doing (or grandchildren). I care. Although it is much easier to have a friend if you share the same space, I think that you can become friends through internet. I must admit though that these wonderful people can be counted with my fingers. But then, my wonderful friends in my country are not thousands either. Take care!

HI abhaijith, my definition of friends may not be the same as yours, but still I will try to express who I think my is an online friend, and what are my expectations from such a friend. I think a friend is a person who can listen to your problems, and give you his or her opinion honestly and dispassionately, when your own mind is clouded with emotions. A friend is somebody who has same vocabulary as yours, for expressing appreciation of some songs or movies, but because you have already used those words, he or she is just reduced to saying yeah, that's so true, ...:). A friend is somebody who will trust you for doing right always. And a friend is somebody who would encourage you to climb one more rung with words - come one, you can do it. There are many many qualities of a friend, even online friends. So I will be the one who would feel honored to be in friend's lists of others. :)

hi abhaijith, i think you going very deeply, even i have online and offline friends also, actually to say, i mingle with everybody easily, this is my plus point and also sometimes it makes me minus also. i have some friends in mylot also, and other friends in someother sites. only my college and school friends with me online contact and we all meet one day and discuss our feelings. there is no way to do friendship yaar.. i think you and me also becoming a good friends right. please don't mistake me for above words. this is my opinion about friendship. nice discussion my friend. have a nice day.

Hi abhaijith, I agree with you to a certain point. Here we can make friends from all arount the globe. We are just adding people to our friends list. We may be interacting in the discussions or private messages but then also we are completely stranger we would not be knowing anything about that persons. Have a great day

There are actually to types wherein you can get "friends" here in mylot. One is to have him added on your mylot account alone and become friends to him because he is already there. Another "friend" may be considered if you are talking to that friend/someone. That's the type wherein you can share opinions in private message and talk anything under the sun which i don't think is a hard thing to do.

I have to agree with you up to a certain point. I agree that when you have first started posting on My lot's boards, you are quite lonely in that it doesn't quite live up to My lot's mantra of 'making friends online' but I assume that once time passes, and you have stayed on this forum and have commented on peoples posts in a loyal interval then you do end up making friends. I have only got a few "friends" on my page, but soon I should be able to have some meaningful conversations with them as I get to know them. You have 745 posts so perhaps you should have got to know some My lot members more closely. Give it time and you shall.

I am not very particular with who I make friends in here in Mylot. In fact I have many friends in here that in my facebook account. For me for as long as he contributes and he responds to my posts then he can be a friend in Mylot. But to become a personal friend or something is different from my so-called friends here in Mylot.

yes, I think it is a place for making friends. It really is or at least it can be. It's all in how you look at it. I have run into certain people here on several discussions and actually got to feel as if I know them. We have done private messaging and I do consider them friends...I really do. It has nothing to do with adding them on my friend's pages. Some of them, I've felt close to and conversed with on here for so long that it is only when one of us tries to PM the other that we discover that we are not "formally" friends. Some people on here have actually met in person which has got to be pretty cool. Like I said...it is all what you make of it.

Hi abhaijith, I have been on mylot for over a year and within the year I have made a few close friends through Mylot, I have meet two freinds and also I have made friends form all other countries and speak to them on skype, to me I have made good friends here and they are not stragers to me as we care about each other and they are always there to help me in so many ways, so mylot IS a place for making lasting friendship and NOT just for making money and I have to thank mylot for giving me friends who are good and so kind to me, cheers to all my friends. Tamara

hi abhijith^^;; mylot is my first social site where in i didn't know anybody unlike facebook that we add friends that we really know.. i started here with no one to call friend except my referrer who abandoned and never know me but i'm happy i found a smiling sun or moon who patiently guided me over here. that moon is just above hakhakhak! other's would be that white-haired witty guy and that kitty who isn't here quite several days...to name a few..and there are many others where as i start a discussion and response to their discussions came closer and we enjoy chatting. we may not be as close as offline friends but the company and thought and fun they bring is enough for me to be happy and enjoy my stay here

HI,abh,many cases you are right..the friendship is not crossing the exchange of responses,not more than that..very few cases are evident for friendshi..fortunately,i had 4 friends on mylot,majority times we used to send private messages..why private messagess..we had exchanged personal mail id's..2 from US,1 from Maldives and 1 from Philippines.. Have a nice time.

you kinda right about making friendship. through mylot, its very difficult to catch friend. but there are little bit scope and chance to making friendship by using mylot messages option. if you like to build friendship with some one you may try to come close with him/her, may care to write respond to her/his discussion regularly and my communicate on personal messages. but again, mylot are not designed specially like friendship networking site, suppose facebook. through facebook we can hunt friend easily. but easy getting friend are not long lasting. i hope mylot is hard to find friend, but its will much long lasting so.