Why do people cry when someone die(love ones/friends)
By Jane
@jaiho2009 (39141)
Philippines
November 26, 2009 3:24am CST
Hello friends and dear mylotters,
Why do people cry when someone they loved die?
Of course it does hurt when someone we love dies,or any of our friends.
It is really hard to accept that we lose someone we love so dearly,we never ever want to think about it.We don't even want to talk about death.But death is reality and no one can never avoid it to come.
I come to think of this matter,that,when someone dies,the family cried and say things they ever regretted.
Unfinished things,or words left unspoken to the dead love one.
We can hear them saying...:if only i knew you will die this soon,i should have buy you the car you asked for many years,or...i should have told you that i loved you so much".
What's the use of having a good and expensive coffin,good or best funeral services and rows of flowers?
The dead person cannot feel and appreciate those things anymore.
So,this is the right time to let our loved one knows how much we loved them.
Start saying " i love you" each time we had the chance to tell them.
Buy them the things they asks from you,as long as you can afford to buy it and won't hurt them.
Give them the best you can do,now that they can still appreciate it.
Sometimes i think that,people cry over their dead loved ones becoz of regretting things they haven't said and done.
What can you say about it dear friends and dear mylotters?
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11 responses
@gx7001lm (63)
• Malaysia
26 Nov 09
i think we do take many things for granted
especially our closest people such as relatives and friends
we would think that they will be always there for us when we need them
sometimes we tend to ask more favor from them than to do them a favor
we grow up with our relatives and friends
so close that we may not live our life without them
it is like losing a part of ourselves once they past away
at those times people will cherish the sweat time they had together the most
i think we should all start living each day by doing thing that would not make us regret in the future like appreciating our close ones
try our best to accomplish those task and the feeling of regret would be lesser.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello gx,
Precisely,that is one truth.
We think that our loved ones,relatives and close people to us will always be there.
Sometimes we also taken them for granted,like," never mind,i'll see you tomorrow" or " never mind,"i'll tell you some other time ".
We never knew what will be our tomorrow,so,it is better to do and say things we wanted to do and say to our beloved ones.
you are right....we should our best to accomplish things so the feeling of regret will be lesser.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@benhar31 (3)
• India
19 Apr 12
Hi,
We all are bound with emotions. We cry not because we need to cry. Human is always dominated with emotions and least on actions. How many of you have not cried when Tsunami took tons of lives, how many of those victims were our beloved, known. Then why did we cry ?
@paleorainy (630)
• Italy
26 Nov 09
I think we cry because we'll not see that person anymore, because all is gone.
But I really agree with you, start saying " i love you" each time we have the chance to tell them, that is REALLY important. And we should leanr that. We need to say that much much much more.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello paleonrainy,
We really need to say and show them how much we care and loved them.
Even if we look like crazy,always saying " i love you "kissing and hugging them every time we had the chance to do,we have to.
It is better to look like crazy with doing things like that,rather than regretting things we haven't done when that are still alive.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Nov 09
hi jaiho yes we do c ry for anumber of reasons,we will not ever see them in this world again, we will miss them,this is a normal human trait.of course we should always t ell our loved ones how much we care for them and do nice things for them all the time.
sometimes its a shock and you cannot cry then when you do after the numbness is gone,you hurt so bad you will cry to let out the grief and to refresh yourself to go ahead with your own life.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Hello Hatley,
Some people can't cry with shock,that is true,not until they realize what really happen,then,they can cry out loud.
It is really traumatic to loss someone we dearly love,and very hard to accept the reality.
but life has to be that way,...we are born and die also.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@rorisricha (732)
• India
27 Nov 09
Yeah...u r right....we cry bcoz of the unsaid and undone things......
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@happy2512 (1266)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
We cried because of the loss that we will not see that person again. Recovery takes time even years to heal. Its only up to us to give it up.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Hello happy,
That's it my friend,it is up to us when we will give it up.
Some people mourn and grieve and for years,becoz,they can't give up and can't accept their loss.
This is normal i guess,but also sad,we must always think that,we still have our loved ones with us who also care for us,and also feel hurt seeing us still sad and lonely for our loss.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Apr 12
hello UI,
I am sure everyone cry.
Some people don't shed tears literally- but deep inside they are crying.
thanks and have a good day
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
26 Nov 09
I do tell the People I love that I love them
Both my Children who are 22 and 25 to this Day I tell them I love them and they tell me
I tell my b/f that I love him I even tell little Gissi every Night that I love him
I have lost loved ones I cried because they where gone and I knew I would never see them again, they are in my Heart but it is hard to loose someone you love
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
Hello gabs,
It is really hard to loss someone we love,no matter how much we have shown our love and care when they are still living with us.
It is not the same,it is like having a part of us that is missing,that make us hard to move and do our usual things.
Keep showing your loved to them dear,at least you can say that you have given your best.
Thanks for your response and have a a good day always
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
27 Nov 09
I know this is true. I try and direct my girls to tell people how you feel before they die. You have to always be aware that anything can happen anytime....you just never know. You have to never take for granted anyhing. you just never know. Never leave someone you love on bad terms.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Hello sid,
Precisely,we never knew what will happen the next moment in every seconds of time.
We can never tell what tomorrow may brings,so,we mustn't take life for granted.
We should always show'd love and care to our beloved ones,not to regret things we haven't said or done.
Thanks for your response and have a good Monday to start your week
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
26 Nov 09
My dear Sis,
I think I will not cry, if I lose someone I love, I will go insane, I will not be able to accept it.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello dear brother,
Nah,don't go insane...you can cry out loud as you can (wahhhhhh)
That is really bad,people who can't express their sadness tends to lose their sanity too.(traumatic experience)
Ohhh...never think about it dear.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello ebuscat,
Yup,the missing...it is mostly the reason why we cry when we lost someone dear to us.
We miss the smiles,the laughters that we shared with them.
The usual things we do when they are still with us...really..we will miss everything.
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
@bluray (408)
• Singapore
26 Nov 09
It is normal to cry for our loved ones , when they left us. It is our emotion and it feels bad one somebody departs. but yes it is true ,we should live life to the fullest and remember to care for our loved ones. we should learn to express our love and care for them. life is too short. u never know what may happen tomorrow.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
26 Nov 09
Hello bluray,
I know it really hurts when we lose someone we love.
We will miss the usual things we does when they are still alive and with us.
But thinking how much we have cared and shows our love is enough to console us too.
We can cry and mourn,at least we can also say..." i have given all my best to love you ".
Thanks for your response and have a good day always
