I don't want to listen

Yeah I have experienced that very often before they often yells even on a very simple things.To the point where I got affected also and also become like them that I don't even know why I do that. Over times I realized that the problem lies within us we don't straighten things out we just impose the things I want or they want without realizing it hurt the others. The most effective ways to solve that is to talk with each other and tell what you have feel towards each others in the house WITHOUT yelling just be calm and be truthful in what say that you are very serious about the problem. We sometimes feel ashamed about confronting our problem but this is the only solution to solve your problem. Have the courage to say what you feel without being angry.

Hi Bianca and welcome to mylot. It's hard to listen when someone is yelling at you but, unless your parents are monsters, they're trying to guide you and teach you lessons. I'm sure that my grown children could tell you stories about how I droned on and on about things but they were important things that I had to get through their heads. Now that some of them are parents themselves they are probably going to drone on at some point just like I did. Be patient with your parents and your brother. One day you will be out on your own and you will probably find that you did learn a thing or two from them. Hang in there.

First and foremost, what ever you do, do not let all this anger get to you and change you. You already see what has happened with your brother. No person on this earth is ever born angry. It is learned from the people we trust the most. Your parents learned this from their parents. If your mother did not, her anger comes from fighting with your father. If you went back and looked at his parents there is a very good chance this is how he grew up. If not then something has happened in his life to him to make him this way. The way you are treated is not a reflection on you what so ever. Your only option is to deal with them and wait until you can be on your own so you can get away from this. Please do not let this get to you. If you have dealt with this most of your life there is a very good chance you will marry someone just like him. You may not believe that now but even though he may not seem to be before you marry there will be something that appeals to you. It is what you know. And I really have no idea what you meant with your last sentence but the implication is far worse than I hope it is. Your relationship with your father will determine your whole direction in life. You must somehow become objective and find your own way. Your future depends on it.

Hi Bianca. It seems to me that you all should have a huge family talk. Express yourselves and let one another how you truly feel. Keep your cool, and when you become grown, then you can move out and into your own place. I know how this can be. Just pray about it and it will get better in time. Good Luck! I just wished that you mother, father and brother could communicate with you more effectively. If they would, it would diminish the tension in the house. When others don't communicate or come to some sort of resolution, things can become much worse!

I know the atmosphere at home really influence the mind of the children . It feels bad when the child saw their parents fighting on trivial issue. it starts the comparison with other families and one wants to run away from the home environment. i think it is the parents responsibility to make home a better place to live for their family.

When you are being yelled at it would be just natural to think that they hate you or for you to be mad at them. In a lot of cases when teens are getting yelled at they dont know why so they are mad but the parents have areason.

Parents do have the right to scold, but there is a big difference between scolding and just yelling at every little thing that goes wrong. What message does the parent want to send? Do they want to actually educate the child as to what they did wrong, and maybe explain to them why what they did is wrong, or do they just want to yell to let them know who's boss. I don't know about you , but most people don't end up liking their boss very much. They may obey, but is that all a parent really wants from their child? A parent should be in control yes, but I say that when a parent yells, they have lost control.

So sad to hear all these sentiments from you.Maybe you should talk to him one on one. Maybe it is just a misinterpretation of the two of you. Parents always looking forward for the betterness of their children except to my father who left us when I was in high school. With your brother, let me ask, is he older or younger than you? If he is younger than you, better not let him do those things to you. try to be firm, show him that he should respect you since you are older than him. If in case he is older than you, he should not treat like that because you are a lady. You should be respected.happy mylotting!!

Maybe he want you to be just like him. I'm not a father, I don't know exactly what he is thinking when scolding you. But my advice is to listen. Listen does not mean you will do what he asks you for. Just listen to know what he's saying.

Loud voice work better for parents for it tends to stick in a kids mind for longer and they remember what is being told for life. I know I learned not to disrespect my elders at an early age for just on loud talk from my grandfather who was raising me and have never forgot it to this day. Brothers are rude that just seems to be how it works growing up for what reason I have never figured it out. Yes I get loud when my husband does too why for I am in conflict with myself whether he is right or the child it all depends on the subject but usually I wonder if I should say on his side on the other. I do not want to act like I wear the pants for really that is his job and he does do it well. As for doing things you do not want to do it all depends on what you mean with that statement really. Life things like taking out your dishes or helping with chores ya you might not want to but it is part of growing up trust me I didn't want to clean my room or do things while I was growing up but that helped me learn how to do them and now I can do it in my own world. I have met some teenagers who can not even use a broom for they were not taught. I was shocked the first time I ran across this I thought the girl just did not want to do it but came to find out she was not joking at all she did not even know how to hold one. I see this more and more every day kids not knowing how to do things for themselves why because kids are not taught. Take it from me once you are out on your own you will be glad dad made you do somethings and mom too.

HI Bianca, thanks for expressing your point of view here. i am a mother, and i am confused sometimes, why my daughter is not following me, and seemingly kept on disobeying me. on the process, i yell, hoping that by yelling she can get the point, and remember what the "shoulds and should not". but i guess you are right, parents are not supposed to yell. i'll check my self out. thanks and as for you Bianca, yeah hang in there. things will change though...

Hi biance Try to calm down. You know, they are your family, no matter whether they are rude or not, they still love you. Perhaps their ways to show love are not in season. My dad is bad-tempered, he couldn't tolerate with any faults we made, but i know he is for the benefits of us. Don't care much about right and wrong, have a good day.

That would happen to me all the time when I was a kid, to the point that I really thought that my parents hated me. Sometimes parents get angry for no reason, and we have to pay for them as we're the 1st person to get in the middle of their way. Some parents should learn of a way to vent their anger that doesn't affect to their kids.

Sorry for that but try to be friendly with them and sincerely tell them how you feel.There's a chance that they will understand you and change their attitudes and behaviors.But first of all you'd better calm down.Best of luck.^^

I think no one likes to be yelled at, and the natural tendency is to tune it out or try to avoid people who yell. I don't know what things your father expects you to do that you don't like. Chores and such? If that is the case, many parents do expect that, but there must be better ways to get it than yelling. Karen

As long as your conscience is clear there's nothing to worry. If your parents and brother don't understand you, it is quite frustrating. Often the solution lies within us. A little give and take might help improve relations.