How you share the payment with your lover?

In India, husband is considered god by his wife. I share everything with my husband. But I feel he does not like disclosing his salary and expenses with me. But on the other hand, he asks count of every single penny of my salary, and does not give anything, till he sees my account with zero balance. I do not know what to do. I want to save money for emergency. But he finishes his salary without explaining the expenses to me, and does not allow me any investment or saving. Otherwise he loves me and cares a lot for me, but this behavior and irresponsible economic strategy irritates me.

Even my husband and I came from different countries and e different kind of cultures, we already have an agreement before we married that we will share everything that we have, everything that we will get and everything that we need to pay. So we don't really have problem to share payments and earnings after marriage.

hi, sorry to hear that... i have family my own also, and with two children. to tell you the truth, I pay everything in my family and I am the head of household... my husband used to make a lot of money but not now. so, now he depends on me and I depend on my job. Before we married, he gave me all he saving to me, and when we bought a house, he loaned his parent 25% and I loaned my parents 25% also... but we already paid it off. My husband never asked me to pay on my personal payment or household bills, but I have to pay all of those myself cuz he has no money beside me. it is hard when husband and wife have to share thing separately, I thought it should be together right? I usually ask my husband to pay his own bills if he never ask or tell me about it then he has to responsible for it. In your case, you should try to save as much as you can just in case of rainy day. Another thing, if he loves to separate like that then you should give some to him and some to you... make it equal. if you use, you pay... about household bills, both of you have to share cuz you both use it. about the house payment, you both share 50/50 cuz u both live in it. beside that, whoever name on it that person pay for it. I know some men are like that, he doesn't want someone else to use his income beside himself ever he used other income instead. that's what I call SELFISH. to deal with this kind of person, you should save for your own and always think of yourself first before you think about him. I pray for him and hope you find the resolve out.

Hi. As far as I know, most couples here in the Philippines normally combine their income without regard as to who is the higher or lower earner. The husbands normally give all their earnings to their wives. The wives would normally do the budgeting subject to approval of their husbands. After that, the wives normally manage and monitor the household's day-to-day expenditures, asset acquisitions and savings. In my personal experience, I have already insisted in giving my share to our expenses since we were dating. The practice continued when we became boyfriend/girlfriend. When we finally got married, my husband started to give all his earnings to me to be combined with my own earnings. I prepare our annual/monthly budget and present it to him for approval. I also monitor the actual expenditures. At the end of each month, we would discuss the reasons for variances - expenditures over/under budget. This is also the practice of some of my married friends. Well, the case was different during our parents' time. During those times, only the husbands work in most households. Then they would give everything to their housewives for budgeting and monitoring of actual expenses.

That's weird! Why husband and wife live in individual manner?! I haven't got married but I life as a Christian. You and your husband are one, everything you have is his, and what he has is yours. By the way, husband is a head of the family. I think just obey him, but discuss it with him ab your problem in good manner. Cheers!

We shar our most of our earning togeyher.And my husband will take out all his money and give it to me.But i will deposit some money in bank ,usually afer two weeks i will take out and give it to my husband.