who will you choose?your lover or your new born baby?

This is a hard situation. My husband and I discussed this when we had daughter. That if this situation arose what he should do. We both agreed that if it came down to it that he would have me saved and regretfully abort the child. It was a difficult situation. I think that this type of issue should be discussed during pregnancy so that it is known what the wishes are of each other.

Oh my god, this is an impossible situation. Without the mother, the child is doomed, but without the child, the mother will be fine. However! you will be endangering the baby by putting it into a foster home. Being greedy is a sin. Incredulously enough, you will have to fight fate and get both.

Maybe because haven't been a mother,I will choose to live instead of the baby without hesitation.i'd like to tell the wife:if you choose your baby to live,you aborted your husband,your parents,your brothers and sisters, and of course, your life.you can't promise the baby will live happily without you or even you can't make sure she or he will come to live and company your husband all his life. if your baby and husband lived unhappily in his remainder life,will u leave with ease?

Save the wife, could have a child later and if not adopt, it's hard to be a single parent, and no one wants to grow up thinking they killed their mother.

That's a horrific call to have to make... I don't envy anyone in that situation. For me - my partner and I don't want to have children, so I don't think it would come up. If it did: I'd probably choose to save my partner, but feel terribly guilty for the rest of my life... Good question.

I couldn't help but to choose my lover's life over the child's life. It's not that I don't consider the life of a newborn important, but I really feel that my choice would be with any doubht that one.

This would be truly someones worse nightmare. If you truly knew you had to give up one or the other and you needed to be the one to make that decision, I believe, it would be beyond most peoples ability. No matter what choice you make, you loose. I would personally ignore my wife's request and save her. If things were at a point where one or the other had to die I would consider it God's will to have lost this child. While it would perhaps be selfish of me to want to keep her for myself there are so many options that would go away if you saved the baby. If she could not have any more children there is always adoption. If the procedure did not involve her losing the ability to have children in the future we would try again when the time was right. Of course I would run the risk of her not forgiving me. But life, no matter how we reason it out, wants to continue. Of course she would pick the baby...that is the natural instinct of a mother..but down deep inside she would hope that he picked her. I would take that chance and try my level best to insure that she understood the reason.

If I had given the chance to choose between the life of a mother and the baby as I am now a mother I will choose to save the life of a mother. A simple reason is, the mother still has a chance to have a new baby. But if we choose the life of a baby, it will become so difficult to a father to care for his child in a first place. But if it is going to happen there are lots of people I know can really help to care. This complicated things are happen only if there are situations like we need to choose between the life of both mother and child. It's very rare situation.