Can you make friends easily?
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
November 28, 2009 12:15pm CST
Some people can make friends very quickly and easily. Some take their time to become friends. I make friends instantly. How about you?
Do you have many friends?
I am happy to say that I have many friends and we are in touch with each other as often as possible. I now have some online friends as well.(that includes mylotters too)
How about you?
4 people like this
21 responses
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
29 Nov 09
I like to think that I like to make friends really easy. But I do have a problem. The problem is it depends on whether or not people accept me. Alot of people judge others too quickly and don't really give me the time of day to get to know me. If they do start to get to know me, they just walk away. It does upset me but I have to know that not all people will see beyond my exterior.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
You can be a little more positive when you go for a friendship, chookie, that is what I think, thanks for the response.
@chookie1971 (2271)
• Australia
30 Nov 09
It has been happening all my life. I am positive when I start talking and getting to know people, but it is how the others see me.
A year ago, I met some online with the possibility with meeting them face to face. I was told that this person was shy and reserved. I allowed her to lead the conversations. I found that she was not shy or reserved. She was really outgoing and open. I thought she was fantastic.
It was only later I found out that she didn't really like me. She gave me a false impression that she liked me. She went out to destroyed 2 friendships that I had with her partner and a mutural friend. These friends that I had, I had known for alot longer than her.
At the end of the day, I feel that I am a type of person who only wants to be friends with people and care about them. It is people like her that miss out on a caring friend. Only those that take time out to really get to know me, will find that I am a very caring person.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
29 Nov 09
I'm not the kind to make friends easily. It takes its time, and I will need a while to begin calling my acquaintances "friends". The word friend is important, so to call someone friend that person has to be attached to you in some kind of special way.
Maybe it's easy for me to make acquaintances but not that easy to make friends.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
I think there is nothing wrong in judging people and then making friends with them. thanks for the response, madteaparty.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
We are alike. It would take some time for me to be real close with acquaintances. There are some characteristics of a person which I personally find in a friend. they should not only be someone who sees you when you're happy. He should be a friend who cares about the whole of my person. I have 4 closest friends for 33 years now (they were co-workers from my second employment) and their husbands and children are additions to our circle. 
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Yes, I seem to make friends very easily. I am a very friendly person. I am somewhat on the shy side but quiet. I am easy to get along with. And I love making others smile and laugh too. I feel that I can make friends very quick with my attitude. I have online friends and friends that are outside of the myLot realm.
@voldrox (7191)
• India
29 Nov 09
well i am not easy with making friends, i am a conservative person and i need time for others to let me know me better and then we become friends, well but i have quite many friends , to some people who don't know me well i seem to be like a mean person and serious person that i am not, i just don't like to show my emotions at all places, only when i am with friends and having some good time, after i make friends i make quite good ones too, i mean they can understand me so well... it is just that they need to anticipate a little 
... well i have friends here at mylot too!
, to some people who don't know me well i seem to be like a mean person and serious person that i am not, i just don't like to show my emotions at all places, only when i am with friends and having some good time, after i make friends i make quite good ones too, i mean they can understand me so well... it is just that they need to anticipate a little ... well i have friends here at mylot too!@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
oh, I thought you are having problems making female friends alone, voldrox,lol. thanks for the response.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
1 Dec 09
hehe well i do have a little more hesitation making female friends though, but talking about overall i am a conservative person but i don't making nice friends, i just make some people wait a little hehe, some wait to know me and some don't the ones who wait become good friends with me...
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
29 Nov 09
Hi vijayanths
Both are sailing in the same boat. I too make friends just like that and people likes me very much. Whether it is a child or an adult, they will befriend with me instantly and even discuss with me about their personal matters. If anybody approaches my husband for any address, he will immediately call me, and say you only know about the entire colony, so please help. Not that I will gossip with each and every one, but If somebody likes me, they will tell their friends about me and my helping nature and next time that person approaches me, like that. Because I helped so many people to get rid of their diseases through pranayama and yoga and by providing them with my herbal plants, which impressed them a lot and they started a liking towards me and that made me popular
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
You are absolutely right vathsala. I have noticed people sharing their very personal matters almost instantly with me. that may be because we are good listeners. a good conversationalist is one who listens more. thanks for the response.
@veggalamvenu (8)
• India
29 Nov 09
I am glad tat I am gud at making friends... I get close to people very easily... I love making friends and be in touch with them...
@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
29 Nov 09
I am the same as you are about making friends I don't have any trouble making friends at all I got so many friends which is nice and [that includes all mylotters]HAPPY MYLOTTING!!!!!
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@WOL330 (13)
• United States
29 Nov 09
let's see how can put this I do not make friends they're easily .it's not that I do not try . 'cause I do . But I guess to people think I'm boring or something like that . I'm not sure what it is . You can just must say my messenger is a little bare lol oh well !!!!!
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
Oh, don't worry, things will change very soon, friend, thanks for the response, wol.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
wow, nice to note that vandana, this is another pleasant surprise. thanks for the response.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
I am not quite good in making friends. I am one who waits for someone to introduce himself as I do not make the first move. I am quite deficient on that area, lol. It will take time for me to become comfortable with someone because I tend to be choosy. In the workplace, of course, we know everyone but there are people whom I have reservations of telling very personal things. It will be very easy for me to be comfortable with a person ... it would be when there are more common interests, characteristics, hates or dislikes and respect between the two of us. And, when I do, I can be a very good friend, keeping him/her for life. My closest friends are with me for 33 years now and we are still in constant touch with each other. They were with me in my happiest and saddest times of my life.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
that is so nice to hear moneymakingtoday, thanks for the response.
@deepasubramani (1074)
• India
29 Nov 09
Hi vijayanths,
I Take some time to make friends but still i have lot of friends, 
I keep in touch will all my friends through chatting with them or call them and speak and with other friends i mail them. Thanks for your discussion,
Happy mylotting.
Have a great day
I keep in touch will all my friends through chatting with them or call them and speak and with other friends i mail them. Thanks for your discussion, Happy mylotting.
Have a great day@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
Don't take too much time to become my good friend, hehehe, thanks for the response deepa.
@saurabh_rmp (846)
• India
29 Nov 09
Yes I like to make friends and due to that I have very big friend circle.
But due to some reasons i am not in touch to everyone.
I am making friends online using mylot like sites.
Thank you Mylot...
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
Yes, in this fast world we can't be in touch with all our friends, sauabh, thanks for the response.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
so, you have starting problem, right jensie,lol, thanks for the response.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
Keep trying hard, you will find that it is very easy to make friends, thanks for the response, badbasty.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
10 Jan 10
Just casual friends i can make quickly..but those which are close and good ones..i take some time..becoz sometimes you can't find the people as u expect and specially for women its not possible to be friends with too many ..so have to be selective..once i am fast friends with someone..then they are going to be forever...
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
24 Feb 10
I have some 10,000 online friends and I have tons of just friends but I have one friend and she is my closest friend in the whole world and her friendship means the most to me. Otherwise I am pretty friendly.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
28 Nov 09
Hi Vijay. I've never had a lot of trouble making friends, perhaps because I am genuinely interested in and concerned about people. I think perhaps others can sense that.
Karen
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
I thought so, otehrwise you can't create 3050 posts at mylot hahaha. thanks for the response, jugsjugs.
@Torrs13 (217)
• United States
28 Nov 09
I absolutely love talking to people so I do tend to make friends easily and I have many of them. My friends all come from different backgrounds and experiences, so if I ever need to talk about something specific, I have a friend that I can go to for advice or guidance. I don't know where I would be without all my friends; they hold me together sometimes and are very encouraging.
@arsalaum (57)
• Philippines
28 Nov 09
Hi Vij! I can easily make friends with people. I have a lot of friends too but I only have a few friends that I can confide to. I usually observe a person's behavior if I dont like that person then I will distance myself from him/her. I only stick to those people who are trustworthy.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
30 Nov 09
Yes, so nice to hear that from you arsalaum, thanks for the response.
