Indicent proposal. how will u handle the situation??

@simonelee (2715)
China
November 28, 2009 8:36pm CST
gosh! this morning i opened my other social site and got indecent proposal. This guy was so desperate and start sending me foul word and etc.. he starts comparing two nationalities. he said he is better than English man and my partner won't satisfy me and etc. I got pissed of when i read all his messages and he keeps doing this for a week. Now, i'm still waiting for the admin to take the action. Have you ever encountered a guy who is so desperate to have you/someone? and they do everything just to get what they want even if they hurt someone's feelings? What do you usually do in this situation?
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14 responses
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
hello simone! that's really annoying and somehow scary...huh! is he someone that you also know in person? or i mean have you already met before? if not it will be easier to avoid him... just ignore him and blocked him in your lists, report abuse or whatever...and if all those don't still ork, just leave your account and make a new one. i have never experienced things like this but i remember there's one guy that i met online, he told me that if i want to i can travel with him anywhere, will give me this and that...haha and as an exchange, just be with him and give him a baby! hahaha what a jerk! the next day...i blocked him and never talk to him again... and something the same also happens to me hen i was still single, and i get the proposal from my boss! waaaaaaaaaaah! what i do is to stop working with him and don't talk to him again...hehe im scared!
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@cream97 (29086)
• United States
29 Nov 09
I agree, ckyera. She might just have to sign up as another user just to get this creep of pf her back.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
29 Nov 09
of, was misspelled.. Sorry..
@simonelee (2715)
• China
30 Nov 09
Hi, there! Good morning. No, he is totally stranger. He is just too confident though. He's guts was overflowing.I already did some action to stop him and also the account admin. He will be sorry because his account will be deleted.(devilish laugh) Abandon my account? nu-huh! it was an earning site.hehehehhe he's the one should leave.lol In my previous account, plain social network site, i already deleted those accounts because same thing happened, much worst, because those people who keeps bothering me are the one who knows me, not deeply but they misinterpret my actions. That's so00 so scary girl. Is he a foreigner? He is so desperate to do that. I guess he haven't experience being loved. An indecent proposal from a boss???! Gosh! You what? resigned or re-assigned to avoid him? Gee! Does anyone from the office knows?
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Nov 09
simonelee take it to the police that is what I would do if it'were me as they can tell you what to do if they cannot do it themselves. I had to call the police and get a restraining order on a young man who stalked me and tried to get violent with me in a cafe when I turned down his marriage proposal. He grabbed my arm and tried to break it but two big waiters pulled him away while someone else called the police.he later ended up in prison for ten years for attempted murder of a girl who refused his advances. truly a frightening thing to happen to one.
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@simonelee (2715)
• China
30 Nov 09
HI, there. Whoa! that's scary especially at night when you are alone walking on the street. The man was really crazy inlove and desperate to have you. So, how long the court hearing last? Here in our country justice is delayed, you have to wait for so many years to have the result. When you file the case, did his relatives got mad at you? Thank you for sharing with us your experience.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
29 Nov 09
That is o disrespectful! It is much easier to deal with this behavior on the internet because you can just block the person from having access to communicating with you. It is much harder in person ina situation such as work or a regular social gathering. Sometimes you just have to be rude for a person like that to back down.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
30 Nov 09
Hi, canelitta! Yes, it's so true that it is easier to deal with these people on the internet than in real life where you cannot control them and might not know what's running in their mind and harm us physically. I already blocked the guy and the admin of the social site asked for his user name to banned him. Have a nice day. Thank you.
• Malaysia
29 Nov 09
I never encountered such situation before, but I did receive some messages from guys that wanting to know me. I just ignored the messages and deleted them. So, if I were in your situation Simone, the best thing to do is ignore those messages like everybody else suggested. Don't even read them because the moment you do, you will be tempted to respond because of your anger and this stalker of yours might be glad that you were responding even though you were using nasty words. Just delete him off your friend list if possible and never gave him a chance to annoy you, which is just wasting your time and energy.
• Malaysia
4 Dec 09
Hi, Simone! Thank you for honoring me with the BR! It's very much appreciated.
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Hi, simone. I have encountered people like that. What I did was to block them. I deleted them from my list. If he still persists, maybe you can consider creating a new account with a username that he will not recognize. That way, he can no longer do the same thing again because he no longer knows you.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Dec 09
Hi, there! So far the problem was solved, I already blocked the guy and deleted some of the photos I posted. If ever this thing will happen again and a new pesky will start bothering me probably I will follow your advice to create a new account and unique name that they won't recognize.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
totally agree in this one.. make a new start..
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
9 Dec 09
Congrats. problem solve.. Yeah, its really not advisable to post your personal picture in internet cause its attract attention especially if you have a face to show. lolz By the way. can you help me out? I'm quite active in terms of opening the site but don't know how the site works..lolz.. I'm really quite naive about it.. thanks
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
29 Nov 09
I have been in that kind of situation, and there are only 2 ways to handle that. One is just ignoring that person. Many social networks have an option to unfriend, ban or ignore, so you wouldn't have to deal with that person again. The other option is to tell that person straight to stop it, and if you can be very rude, better.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
4 Dec 09
Hi, bulastika! How was the new site you recently joined? If you have any question just feel free to PM me. Anyway, You have a lengthy explanation there and you well explained it. You saw the possibilities of this and that. .. you really thinking before you hit those keys. Thank you for the response and have a great day.
@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Can I contradict the other option? quote " tell that person straight to stop it, and if you can be very rude, better" I'm totally against it. Let do a behavior testing.. IF that person is so violent and very persistent its only one thing.. don't care to the feelings of others want attention control addict. Now if you try to answer his/her email good or bad..that person actually don't care about the contain of your email.. He/she is more and eager to piss you for this reason. You reacted so that mean your affected.. and his method is effective..and the more he will piss you! and he will never stop.. because his feasting with your emotions! You give them what they want. your attention! They feel that they are in control and you are hopeless about it. .................. My suggestion..just simple ignore.. or be invisible to him.. If he don't see you that you are active..he will stop and look to other to victimize. other guy suggested that you report this to police.. but what can police can do about this? if his in africa and your in singapore.. Do you think police will go to africa just because that guy emailed you crazy things? They can't even catch the snatcher in my neighborhood.. There are things in life that we can't win and become simply a victim.. unless you turn into what you really hate most.. make a virus that bomb him with spam mail so that he have nothing to do buy erase his email account..but if you do that then you also become like him..
• United States
30 Nov 09
I agree with the second response. People that characteristically show patterns of psychosis, especially with an aggressive nature, are often fueled when given attention. Assuming that you two have not developed a genuine relationship of some sort... you should be wary of his advances. He's aggressive towards someone he has never met face-to-face. Whatever you do- DO NOT RESPOND! Keep the emails for your records, but don't write back...if you could also avoid opening them try to. (Some sites show when the messages have been read). I would keep trying to inform the admin. If all else fails you could always resign from the site. This could be just another ignorant person, thinking he's cool by being so obscene...or he could be dangerous. Either way, you don't need to find out.
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Hi, simonelee. This is very serious here. I have never had this happen to me. You should report him to your webmaster on this site. Try blocking him so that he can't leave you any kind of messages. You can also try changing your profile name, if you are allowed to do so. Change your picture,, username, etc; Don't leave any kind of information that is personal and private that he can see. Be careful and try to let others know what is going on.. I hope that this gets resolved so that you can be free of this pervert. He is a loser that is lonely and miserable.
• Southend-On-Sea, England
29 Nov 09
I'd just block him, and ignore any emails...sending those from him to the spam bin.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
1 Dec 09
It has not happened to me but if it did I would first of all block him from my profile and ignore all messages from him. You’ve done the right thing if you reported him to admin. Hopefully his account will be terminated and he will simply disappear. It is a shame that there have to be people like that in the world but unfortunately they are everywhere. We’ve had hassles here on MyLot with trolls and the like. They are best reported and ignored.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Hopefully, this is just over the computer and not someone who is near enough to stalk you. I would give a copy to the police. If they are like our department, there won't be anything they can do, but if you come up missing at least they have a place to start. I really don't think I would even open the emails. Now that you know what the person is saying and how he is acting if you can't get the emails to stop, don't open them. If you do open them, read them, think "what an idiot", laugh and go about your business. If he didn't threaten you I don't think you should worry about it. Just ignore it.
@happy6162 (3001)
• United States
29 Nov 09
I have never been in a situation like this. I would just ignore him and block his emails. Make sure that the website takes action against this person so he does not do this to anyone else.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 09
My advice is ignore him. Next time delete his mail without opening. Other than that I am not of much help. Cheers!
• India
30 Nov 09
simone, i feel sorry about the incident happened to you and im also equally affected like u.. but the problem is im a guy.. when i say this to someone they will laugh at me.. there were 2 girls who made a very indecent proposal to me asking to cooperate for some nonsense and blackmailed me that they will create it as an issue if i didn't cooperate them.. but by gods grace i escaped narrowly.. and about ur situation, since u dont have him near it will be as simple as that to avoid him by not responding his msgs and mails as other respondents suggested you
@arsalaum (57)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
Well, I havent receive any indecent proposal before but there's only one thing to do with that. Just ignore it. It can only hurt u if u read through the messages. And if u did, still ignore it. Prove to him/her that ur strong and his words wont hurt. Dont retaliate cause you're way better person than him/her. :)
@simonelee (2715)
• China
30 Nov 09
Hi, there! Well, at first i just keep ignoring his messages but last night was too much, though i have the choice not to read his messages but i was tempted to read it.(grin)When read it I burst into anger because his words are below the belt and he is too confident that he can still me from my partner or by anyone.