Can you take your emotions out of a situation in order to love someone?

Yes I could if I could keep his Friendship and help him that way You just don't know maybe further down the Line he might realize his true feelings, but yes I would be able to put my feelings aside to stay a good Friend

Hi Sachi! I really am sorry for your current situation. I know it must be difficult. I don't know if I could do something like this right at first, anyway. I think that I would have the ability to be friends with someone that I USED to love, but if I was still in love with him I would have to seperate myself from him for a little while at the beginning. There are times when I, like you, push my feelings to the side to help take care of someone else, but you can't just neglect yourself or your feelings completely. How old is your son, if you don't mind me asking? If you were in a committed relationship with this man for two years then I'm sure your son became very attached to him, just as much as you did. I don't know if it's really all that fair for your son to have to go through the emotional rollercoaster of "he's here and now he's gone". You need to take a step back and really assess the situation and focus on the kind of example you're setting for your son. If you're dwelling on this past relationship then chances are you're not acting as happy as usual, and I would bet money that you're son is picking up on that unhappiness, and that's just not a good environment/healthy for him. I think that you need to sit back and really consider your options. Maybe make a pros and cons list pertaining to whether or not it's good/emotionally healthy for you to keep him around for the time being. You can't torture yourself by longing to be with a man who doesn't want a relationship with a single mother. That's what you are; a single mother. That's never going to change. It's not fair for you and although I don't know you personally I can say for sure that you don't deserve it! No one deserves it! So be good to you. Put you and your son first. Make the two of you happy, and once you're in a good place then I'm sure you'll realize that you don't have to dote on someone who isn't interested in you. If you find the strenght and courage to let him go you'll find someone who loves you and wants to be with you. I hope this helped, and if you ever just need to vent know that I'm here. I'm a fantastic listener! Good luck!

well...if i were you, certainly i can not take the pain. I would rather leave him and not see him again for the rest of my life. Because the that kind of things just make my pain get worst. I love him but i can not make him mine. It is easier for me if he leave me too and try to find someone else. But I know that is not easy too. Someone good would help you to recovery from your pain. Maybe you should Ask the THE GOD to give you another man... a better man..I hope you successfully ease your pain...

It is very respectful that you can take your hurt to side in order to love him.But If your goodness still can't wake up him,and he maybe not receive your goodness,it it time for you to leave him.After all your happiness is the most important.Maybe you can find a better man to ease you pain.Just personal ideal.Wish you lucky!

If you truly cannot be friends with this man without it bringing up deep pain within you that hurts you beyond what you can deal with, I advise you to cut contact with him. Otherwise, I would remain his friend; deep, warm friendships are precious things and people have a tendency to undervalue them because they don't fit into some clear category like spouse or family, and while it hurts now, maybe you can move to the same plane of friendship that he exists on. He is also what seems like a good influence on your son (is he the father?) and that should not be discounted either.

you should be thankful , because God has shown to you like what your friend's . Continue to pray that God will give you the best of friend in your life. God Bless you...

Love is one of the strongest of emotions, so I personally can't see how you can take your emotions out of a situation that involves love. It may be of course that you don't have a choice, in which case you have to deal with letting him go. But why would you let him go if you could have him to yourself? If you can't have him to yourself though, which seems to be so, then it isn't really your choice. Any way. Taking emotions from love, which is a strong emotion, seems like a contradiction.

I had one like that. We are still friends, though we don't see each other often, and yes he would turn to me when he has problems. I understood completely that he's not into marriage, and what I have for him now is not love, but a deep empathy with another human being who doesn't know what he wants. I actually feel only pity for him. I only keep up with this because I do want to be a good child of God and not grudge. As for the pain, well, once I receive in myself the fact that he is really not the one for me, (because I wanted a man who would love my child and me) and it was foolish of me in the past to love him too deeply while I knew it's not going to happen. But I do put a limit to how far I would go in helping him. Because we have a responsibility to our children, and it's their emotions and future that we have to focus on.

it depends upon the situetion.