How do you cope with a relative who is always angry?

Wow that sounds exactly like my father and frankly there were only two ways to deal with such people sad to say .One way is to leave them and hope that they will look in themselves and change their ways or totally avoid them .At least that is how my mother dealt with my father and he would always come around when he was lonely enough in his big house. The other way is out of our control,old age.My father mellowed out from the tyrant he was in his younger years.If I didnt know any better I might even call him sweet .Granted this method is not immediate but quit effective for people like that. Oh and I just thought about something by maintaining a positive attitude around such persons may actually help them to mello out too.It rather taxing to have a sur attitude around people with a good vibes and as you see him you try to project that positive vibes.

Well, the best solution to your problem is to stay out from his way and never respond to his anger because that will only cause to a bigger fight.

WOW!!! Sounds like my father came back to life!!! How do I cope? I moved 2300 miles away to get away from him!! There wasn't anything anyone could do that was good enough or right enough or done well enough for him. Everyone else was wrong and he was right. It's funny because I was just telling my daughter about how he'd criticize his sister for having to do any work at home - she's a teacher -- because "if she knew how to do her job, she'd have all the work done before she got home." Right - like he did anything beyond high school to know. Unfortunately, because I grew up in that environment, I find myself doing similar things...although not as much now as I did when I first moved away from home. To paraphrase a verse in Psalms, stay away from an angry man lest you become more like him.

Unfortunately I have family members like this. One in particular is grumpy, critical, racist and sexist. All the other members of our family have had confrontations with him at some point in their lives simply because he is so disagreeable and sadly even his own children dislike him. The best way for me is to be to stay away. I know it's not ideal but in my case I don't want to get involved so his behaviour affects me and I don't want to get into conflict so that it affects other members of the family. After years of trying I've given up and instead chosen not to have such a negative person in my life. I don't think your relative waits for your depressed moment, I think it's more likely that he tries to antagonise you and it depend son your moood when you respond. Nobody is a magnet for these bouts, if he is a critical person it is him not you.

Even i had experienced this with my friends uncle.whenever my friend used to do any noise or for any other reason he used to come harsh at him and on us too. one day he has decided to leave him coz he was fed up with him and his words and he is happily leaving in a Apartment as an paying guest. May be you got to get out of that place rather than fighting with him every day coz it also effects your work too.so take a decision before it too late. gud day.

Well your situation is so similar to mine...I mean, In my home too, there are not one but two to three of them who are always angry....It is so difficult to live in such an atmosphere....I know the feeling LOL...Usually I just stay away from that person.... like eat food after he completes eating his food.....Just ignore the person

That is a very bad thing right? Everytime you talk to him like he has the whole world burden. Hmmp , well yah I knew someone like that , she is a woman , my office mate , she used to be always criticizing everything , like how our boss treats us for her is negative thing , she always gave a pity for herself like she is the only poor person in the world. At first we always take the right timing to talk to her but now we became good friends. I find way for her to talk things she love to talk. It's a matter of right timing and an intelligent talk . Knowing her weakness could probably help. Hope this will help. Don't worry time will tell he will then look someone to confer to. :)

Sounds like he has problems with you being depressed. I wonder if it reminds him of something bad from his past, particularly his childhood, watching someone who's in a depression? All the same though I'd recommend avoiding him if he gets violent. Are there times when he's in an OK mood and is easier to talk to? I'm wondering if those better times (if he has them) might be the time to gently question as to whether there's anything bothering him?

Its hard work living with someone like that. Maybe he has his own issues with depression. you probably notice it more & are more vulnerable to the anger when you are feeling down yourself. I'd say its important for you to have other people you can spend time with so that you are not having to cope alone.

If I had to live like this I would try to fine me someone else I could live with who does not get angry all the time. If that is not possible then you need to avoid being around him as much as possible. I myself would ask him why he is angry all the time and why does he wait until I am feeling bad to attack me.

Such a person ,I will generally try to avoid them is to discuss sensitive topics,so that I can avoid a lot of trouble.

My Uncle is like that but I will just ignore him because I don't want to be affected with his negativity. Its very irritating whatever he says but I don't pay attention to it I will have my self busy with other things. Don't mind your relative if i were you, don't get affected whatever he says just make yourself busy & ignore him while you can.

Oh my, we have the same problem. My husband and I are living in the same building with his sisters' families. One of his sisters has the habit of shouting and nagging at everyone. Everything's a big deal for her and her husband. Good thing we're living at different floors. So most of the time, we just ignore them. Personally, I think that people like these are really hopeless. They would always find faults at anyone and be angry at anything without any valid reasons. So if you have good personal reasons for staying in that same place with him/her, you can just hold your nose and ignore that person as best as you can. Or, you can also move out of that house. Life is too short to be spent with useless and hopeless people. In our case, we are just staying in this building because we have just recently married and could not really afford to buy our own house yet. So for now, we are determined to just ignore them as best as we could.

i think he like to debate. just ignore him. if you not fight him, he will know that you don't like him.