Is it better being single or taken?
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
United States
November 29, 2009 4:53pm CST
I've been single for a while and I can't stand it! It's not as fun as it used to be. On the positive side being single means I can do things more freely without worrying about someone. So how about you? Do you prefer being single or taken?
10 responses
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Hi there!
Either way, I don't have any problem.
I can be single and can do everything I want without having much of a worry.
But I preferred to have a partner now though. Still happy about it
@yan_blue8 (1437)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Yes it is healthy and hoping for it to last.
Have long have you been in your relationship?
I agree with you, those characteristics are needed to have a healthy and lasting relationship.
Hope you are happy as me too! Take care
Have a great day!
Have long have you been in your relationship?
I agree with you, those characteristics are needed to have a healthy and lasting relationship.
Hope you are happy as me too! Take care
Have a great day!@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
3 Dec 09
The longest relationship I've been would be about 2 years. It ended tragically but that was the past. To be happy one must look to the future with goals to want to accomplish. And it's kinda fun to have some hobbies on the way. I like to messeage to people from around the earth with my laptop, and also fix computers. And may you also have a nice day. :)
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I'm happy for you. :) I hope your relationship is long, lasting and healthy. I also prefer to have a partner. And one thing I learn to have a healthy relationship is to have these few things; trust, respect, communication, and have fun!
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
3 Dec 09
Touché. That's why everyone has free will. But generally the times when to do nothing is when there is either nothing to do, or everything is already done. But if we do nothing before we finish everything we wanted, there would be stuff to do later on in life. (Like how someone does all their work, they have done everything. But when they procrastinate there is alot of things to be done.)
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I understand that, and respect your opinion. In face I fealt the same way when I was in relationships sometimes. But after I did everything I want, there was nothing to do. What will you do once you have done what you want?
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
I do prefer both, as it really feel bored being single though i still love my freedom. i take it like a relationship bounds with no condition and not feel being pressure. it likes give and takes as long as both love each other is alright to have a companionship while if both finally decide to end it up. It is better to say it in advance than to makes a promises. Being single i miss to be with someone then when I am with someone, i miss my freedom. though it is a matter of balance which i need.
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
3 Dec 09
I agree with you on that. In fact that's how felt in a point in time. I had no freedom before because I had to do so many things it took up all my time, but then when I turned single, I missed having someone by my side. But sometimes in relationships where it might go too far and just take all your freedom, (mostly in a jelous couple) and when you wanna have your space back, you miss the person who was smothering you.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
for me,I prefer being single.I am happier being single.I get to spoil myself.I enjoy my freedom.I get to do something or go somewhere without anybody contradicting my decisions.I am happier when I have no one to please but myself.
@ArelSaiten (10)
• Singapore
6 Dec 09
For me. A little bit mixed for both of it. As,without a girl/guy, life would be damn bored and plain. But with them,life sometimes can be complicated
@RyanneD (186)
• United States
29 Nov 09
I love being married and I don't miss being single at all. But it's really a personal choice. Some people prefer being single so they can do whatever they want whenever they want to do it. But if you're not finding being single that much fun anymore than maybe that's a sign that you're getting to that point in your life where you wanna settle down and start looking for someone to share your life with.
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
29 Nov 09
You have a point there. Before it was fun and games, but I might just do that. Only ironic thing about this is that for some reason it's really hard to find someone when you're single. But then when you're taken people tend to want you more.
@RyanneD (186)
• United States
29 Nov 09
Yeah that really does seem to by how it works, doesn't it? You'll find someone, though. Just try to not force it, ya know? Just keep doing what you're doing. Enjoy being single, meet different people, and keep having fun, just maybe look for different qualities this time around; if they share the same views as you, if they enjoy doing some of the things you enjoy, if they share your same goals in life. You'll make it happen ;-). Good luck!!
@arystine (1273)
• Philippines
3 Dec 09
I used to think being single is fun. I mean, there is so much freedom. But it's been awhile and I guess, at his point, being taken is better. Not that I'm taken, but I'm ready to look for a partner again. Sometimes, you come to a point where you want someone to take care of you and someone to share precious time with.
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
3 Dec 09
That's actually how I feel right now. I've done most of the things I wanted, I hung out a lot with all my friends, found hobbies, even studied more. But it didn't really seem like fun since there was no one there to share my achievements and time with. This is really why I can't stand bring single, because it feels like my heart needs something to concentrate on (since my brain already has something to concentrate on.)
@syaryel (155)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 09
well, I'm single for about 5 years now..and I'm perfectly OK with that..I'm not saying I don't enjoy being in a relationship..
Its good to have a girlfriend, but, I rather being single than in a relationship JUST because to fill the seat of that special someone..
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I've been single for about a couple months and I don't like it. Lol, and I also agree with having someone fill the seat of being a special someone. I kinda did everything I've wanted that someone can while being single, and now it's kinda boring. How do you keep the single life up and fun?
@arsalaum (57)
• Philippines
29 Nov 09
I dont know. I guess its better to be in a relationship. In a relationship, though you're not that free to go without the permission of the other but at least in every special occasion you're not lonely. You have something to think about and something to take care of and of course someone who does the same to you. :)
@l4dgeneraldefence (60)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I felt the same way when I fist got out of my last relationship. I was so used to having someone to care for I fealt empty. After a while I got used to being alone, but fealt lonely when I saw everyone in their relationships. I don't know, sometimes being alone makes you envy. But thanks for your opinion. :)
@quisha89 (76)
• United States
9 Dec 09
I'm in the middle on this. I am in a relationship but sometimes I think it's easier to be single. I know it's selfish but when you're single you have more money, more free time, and you can have whatever friends you want without worrying if your mate likes them or not. A relationship is hard work.
