As a Kid, I used to hate Christmas
By anne25penn
@anne25penn (3305)
Philippines
November 29, 2009 11:11pm CST
I hated Christmas as a kid. The other night I tried to recall why I hated Christmas so much, and I found the answer to my question. As a kid living in the Philippines, private schools hold Christmas parties before Christmas break. The parties usually would have pot luck for the food and refreshment and the kids would exchange gifts. I was in first grade and had just transferred from Manila to a school in the province. We would be assigned to bring something for the party and I remember that I was assigned to bring ice cream for the party. I told my mom and I don't know if ice cream was expensive at that time, but I know she wasn't thrilled to buy the ice cream for the party.
By second grade, we had fallen into hard times. Our family business wasn't doing good but I had no idea since I was a child at that time. I don't remember what was assigned for me to bring, but I recall that I never brought anything except my plate. We were asked to bring our own plates so that it will lessen the need to buy paper plates which I know were expensive at that time. I remember my teacher haughtily asking me why I had not brought anything. I don't remember everything clearly but I recall that I was not allowed to eat, or was just given puto(rice cake). But the incident certainly left a traumatic experience for me that I began to hate Christmas.
The following year I recall not attending the party. I had nothing to bring because we were really going through tough financial strain and I also had nothing to contribute for the exchanging of gifts. I transferred to another school in Manila by fourth grade and I also did not attend our Christmas party because I had no gift to give my "baby". I was so ashamed that the kid who drew my name always had something for me because our teacher thought it would be cute to have something given everyday. You know, the something sweet, something funny, something long, etc. I hated the whole process.
I transferred again the following year but this would be the last of my school hopping. I do remember always skipping the Christmas party for the same reason that I could not bring any food for the party, or afford a gift. I only enjoyed Christmas when I working and our company held the party and raffled gifts instead of us bringing the gifts. But the whole experience as a kid, I really hated Christmas and always dreaded the season as it drew near. And my family also did not celebrate Christmas, not because we didn't want to, but rather we could not really afford it.
How about you, did you enjoy Christmas as a kid? Happy mylotting!
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4 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
hello there anne, we don't always make exchange gifts every year because there are times too but i tend to give but cheap or not so expensive gifts. it's kinda hard when you're not giving gifts, i used to it too. too bad am a slow learner, you know, this is the first time i realized that giving gifts and having a christmas tree isn't always the main reason for christmas. but it's family and Love and GOd. took me a month to realize.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Christmas shouldn't be commercialized with all the gift giving and parties. This is the reason why I hated Christmas as a kid because of the parties and "monito/monita". At grade school, you can't really voice out your opinion that you don't want to join the party or exchange gift activities.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
I think you misunderstood my topic..the Christmas parties and gift giving that I was referring to was the one that is held in school. You know how it is here in our country. Well at least that's how it was in my time.
@BambooPanda13 (867)
• United States
30 Nov 09
That is a bummer, and as a kid it can be hard because other kids can be mean about stuff like that. There was a girl in my class and her family really couldn't afford much other than what was necessary and if we had pizza parties I remember one time she didn't come because everyone had to chip in like $2-3 each and you got 2 slices. Well she didn't even have that to bring. So one time me and some friends said we'd bring an extra dollar so she wouldn't have to feel left out since she would just not come to school that day. I know the teacher wouldn't leave her out but I she would just not show up. But we told the teacher we would pay for her pizza and we told her we would buy it for her so she could participate. I think as you get older though any class parties you sort of just volunteer to bring stuff. I don't think it is fair to the parents to be required for their child to bring stuff. Sure most parents can afford like $5 to buy sodas or plates or napkins or a box of cookies or whatever, but there are some who cannot and if everyone who is attending brings something, it makes that other kids feel left out, and it would be rude not to let them eat stuff too. But also the parents will feel bad for their child that they cannot afford to get them something for the party.
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Thank you for your response. It was nice of you and your classmates to think of chipping in for your classmate. A lot of parent really cannot afford even the smallest amount because in reality they really have nothing to spare.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
hello bamboo, i believe now a days, the true spirit of christmas should be spent not on just gifts, and xmas trees or parties or food, but the willingness to forgive, giving something to others like your time, and spending time with your family.
@cloudwatcher (6861)
• Australia
30 Nov 09
Hi anne. As a child I had no real idea of the spiritual aspect of Christmas and I would have to say I hated it for much the same reasons as you. Although we lived in an affluent society and my mother had enough funds to go on world tours, we never had much at Christmas.
I can't remember receiving much in the way of gifts, but I DO remember the kids at school boasting about their presents and exchanging presents with one another. Since I didn't have any friends, I missed out there too.
I have been very happily married for almost 50 years now and we always celebrated Christmas with our five sons and I'm sure they remember happy times.
@Calebsnana06 (38)
• United States
30 Nov 09
I feel guilty after reading your story to admit that I had nice Christmases. I did not have a happy childhood however, but Christmas morning was wonderful.