Do you think it's unfair?

Philippines
November 29, 2009 11:31pm CST
In our society when we found out that a husband or men having extra marital affair, we tend to accept and make it as part of a relationship and nothings new. While when it comes to women who are found cheating and unfaithful to their husband we tend to judge, criticize and condemn their acts. When we think, there's no difference with what the men done. Do you think it's not fair?
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10 responses
@Drsunny21 (556)
• India
30 Nov 09
It`s very unfair....Men should also be criticize and condemn for their acts...Women are also human beings...They should have same rights as man.Men should also be punished for this act..If women are not truthful then they are punished then why should not men..Men are not came from other planets tht they are not punished...We should understand tht womens have the same rights as man...
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• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Yeah, it's absolutely unfair. What I just to have is having a fair understanding for women who happened to cheat their husband. And not jumping into a conclusion and worse condemn their unfaithfulness. I think people just need to have an open mind, just like the way they accept gay people, although it's not the same, but just the peculiarity of the situation. Since, yeah, men are not come from other planets. Although having a fair thought and judgment doesn't give license to women to have an affair, because it's not their nature, compared to men. Like what I said just a fair understanding would be enough. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
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• India
30 Nov 09
You ate welcome and Have a great day..Thank you
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
30 Nov 09
i do agree with you on this. i think from day one of human walking around on earth woman have always made to look worst then men. if a man sleeps with many different women he's a stud and a female is a hoe.
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• Philippines
1 Dec 09
When it comes to men they're counting their affairs and when it comes to women they're cautious not to commit an affair. I think it's always like that now and then. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
30 Nov 09
I understand how you feel in this kind of situation.It is actually true. Women are being condemn if they are involve in cases like this. Men are not being condemn on this because they are already aware that men are known to be polygamous. With women, it is not really good to see if they are flirting with other guys especuially if they are married. As what the old folks says, with girls,they would be loosing a lot, especially their reputation. With men, it is just fine, because they thought that it is just natural.
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• Philippines
30 Nov 09
Yeah, you're are right. People always thought and consider that it's okay for men to have an affair, because they are higher than us, they are men and they are powerful compare to women. There's always no equality. And when it comes to reputation like what you'd said women easily lose it, little unpleasant acts and gestures often misinterpreted and credited on their character. When it comes to men everything they do is acceptable. Even in our modern society, still our minds doesn't change. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
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• Philippines
30 Nov 09
In a society like ours, it has been looked down for women to cheat on their husbands. We have a double standard in our society. While it seems okay for men to cheat on their wives, it is not so with women. She is being judged and ridiculed in a society such as ours. We may say it is unfair for the women. But, on the other side, I now come to ponder: What fairness are we talking about? Do women think that we should be given the "right" and acceptance to cheat on our husbands? In the first place, it behooves upon the partner to honor the promise and vow they made to each other in the eyes of man and of God, to remain faithful, honest and loyal to one another. That is the fairness that we ought to see.
@dong88 (795)
• China
1 Dec 09
Indeed,this phenomenon is widespread. If you are female,greeted it was an accusation that there are still the same for women accused of accusations.I think is unfair.this demonstrates that a tradition of discrimination against women.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
Yeah, it only shows and demonstrate the old tradition of discrimination against women. Though I don't agree that women should do what men do, because women were objects of good example about love and obedience. However they should also be treated and judge fairly. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@locohboi (55)
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
why did you say that is so unfair?when you found out your husband that have extra marital affair to other girls you file him a divorce right,same with boy that if he found out that his wife is make an extra marital affair to boy she can file him also,so there's no unfair in this world because there is law that can give you a justice.so girl just be a fighter and dont give up.
• Philippines
1 Dec 09
What I'm talking about is the way people look and judge on the situation when women found to have an affair. They're quite unfair since often times they condemn those acts, compare to men. Yeah, men are women do have the same rights, they can file divorce anytime they found their partner being unfaithful to their relationship. Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
30 Nov 09
Pshh nature to be polygamous my tail. Ive heard that same crap too about how men have some left over primiative instinct to stick it to everything thats got a hole because they "need" to populate the earth with their spawn. Well women have some primative instincts too like sleeping with more than one man to double the chances for her off spring to come out healthy and strong. But there is also something called self control and trust and we are supposed to be evolved beyond the need for such a thing. Wrong is wrong no matter who it is that does it.
• United States
30 Nov 09
I don't think generalization at all is fair. I also don't condone cheating whether it's committed by the female or the male in the relationship.
• India
1 Dec 09
this is a male dominating world so it happens. when women do something wrong then they are blamed but when a men will do same thing then it is not wrong. it is totally unfair dear. i won't like this. as both male and female are equal.
@suchi60 (912)
• India
1 Dec 09
I certainly agree that there has to a line drawn on equality among men and women. If men can eat the cake and have it as well, women too should be given that privilege. Not that I advocate the theory of extra-marital relationships, but I think both, the husband and wife should be true to one another in all respects of their relationship.