Two thousand discussions bawling us out for not commenting will not help.

Oh,darlin', don't let such inadequate people getcha down..They're members of the new 'me' generation..That's not a justification for the ignorance, but a statement of 'as it is'..Maybe they just have a major identity crisis, and will spoil for attention any way they can, just like the children they are.. As to 'a mile in my shoes..', that's not their style. Enjoy!

I guess they just do not realize that some people actually have lives to live I wouldn't let them stress you Hatley. Go at your own pace and to heck with anyone else. Sorry to say but nobody gets to wear my shoes!

They don't get it. They don't get mylot. I don't know if they haven't been here long enough to understand how it works. I have read many of the discussions you are referring to, and I don't respond. It would take me too long to try to get them to understand, and frankly I don't think they would be satisfied by anything I could say to them.

Hatley, my dear, newbies like that should be ignored.

Hi Hatley, if this is what I'm thinking it is, please don't be upset with me for I mean no harm but the person who started that discussion was talking about another person, I don't think they meant you at all. This person that she was referring to, is on my friends list too and is still fairly a newbie so I took the time to explain to the newbie that typing up a bunch of discussions and not responding to them upsets a few people and it's courteous to at least acknowledge the responder of their discussion and that that's how they earn more money. In other words, the more active the discussion is, the more they'll earn. But if they don't acknowledge the responder then they may lose them because they may not want to respond anymore when the discussion maker doesn't converse back. I hope I didn't step on your toes!! I sure didn't mean to!! (covering my head!) lol

Hiya Hatley, I only respond to whoever I want to. They can take it or leave it whoever they are. Actually I have´nt found any of those discussions yet. Maybe because I can only surf a limited amount of time during any day. Take it easy I certainly don´t feel prodded not to say that no one has ever tried to "tread on my toes". You are right a lot is happening around each one of us too. Maybe they are the lucky ones and are untouched by all these "happenings". Are´nt they the lucky ones eh? Hugs. Sue.

Hi Hately, In the beginning I left my discussions without comments, that time I was new and didn’t know that commenting back is important. When I realized the fact then I did justice to all my responders. But I agree some of my discussions which started recently left without completing the comments and I am doing my work as much as possible in a day. I also want to dispose it many works and I am trying my best to adjust with the time. I can’t concentrate always my discussion only; I should attend my friend’s discussions too so commenting back work is doing slowly. I haven’t seen the particular discussion you are mentioning but I know that you are doing your best always. I know all seniors are doing justice to their responders and if they didn’t that means they are busy with some other works. Hope the juniors can understand us sooner or later.

I am usually pretty good at commenting on all the responses on my discussions, but lately I've been neglecting the ones I started before I went offline for awhile. Now they are so dated I really can't be bothered, nor do I have the time really. I used to feel so guilty about not responding to everyone, but now, I figure if they are really my friends, they won't take offence, and if they're not and they do take offence, well good riddence. I don't have time for people who don't understand that real life is more important at times than virtual reality.........

Hi Hatley! You do an excellent job responding to discussions, and replying to responses. If some one has a problem with it...well then they have a problem. Not you. I've never been one to respond if I have nothing to say. In fact, the guidelines say that you shouldn't unless you have something of substance to say. Who ever is complaining needs to read the guidelines. I found some black raspberry ice cream and hot fudge, and made a sundae. I brought two spoons....ready?

It is a choice each person will respond or not, they have not realized that responding to someone requires a match between the discussion of our own making with other people who commented. Do not impose what we do not like to be that we like, because it will cause conflict between us.

Yes mam you are absolutely right. Every one of us have our own priorities. So please please bear with us. Thank you for bringing this out in the open.

Hello hatley! Yes I completely understand what you mean. It happens and that is unavoidable sometimes... We have our lives outside mylot. We are all busy people and mylotting is something we do on our spare time... I think what matter most is, we do come back to our old discussions and try to answer some of those responses... It doesn't matter how many days it was left hanging... I, personally also have some responses that were not commented back yet but sometimes after 2 to 3 weeks I will get an answer from the discussion starter... I guess we just have to be patience and understanding. I am sure they have reasons... And for some who were screaming "NO ANSWER!!!" I think we should also understand them as well... they are newbies here and very excited to interact with other members... and they feel disappointed somehow when they don't get comments in return...

hey hatley. dont concern yourself with what other people think.. and heck yeah you're right.. there are more important stuff than mylot. they should be more considerate of others rather than themselves.. some people are just in it for the money and i guess them wanting more responses to their discussions means more money for them.. chill hatley.. and have a nice day..

This is a place with much freedom,of course including the freedom of choice whether to comment or not.Why make a fuss about not being commented.Those who complain about that just see their own and never think further like you mentioned.What a shame...

Hey Sweet What the new ones that are shouting about this need to learn is that People have routines that they keep to and have been doing this for years in my case 4 Years, we do not run and respond straight away as we have responses to do, we have other Sites to see to, we are not willing to jump as soon as someone has responded we wait for more before getting to them Patience and efficiency is what they need to learn on here So my Sweet Friend just ignore them as they will learn the hard way which is getting in a muddle, not going to be able to respond to other Discussions and all that I ignore them as I have been here 4 Years now and I will not change my ways and routine just because someone is not patient Hugs

Exactly! Recently I was indisposed of and also due to a lot of work pressure, I cannot really be active the way I used to be previously. And one f the users grilled me stating that I keep telling that I do comment but many of my discussions are uncommented on! Even though I appreciate the trouble he took to find out, I told him that I do have my priorities which I have to meet first. Luckily he understood. I feel bad that I cannot keep up with my discussions and I know I will soon but still I have my prerogative. Thanks for this discussion. I could rant out!

Hi Hatley! I honestly haven't been here as much as I used to either so I hadn't noticed this! But, you'd better believe that if I did see a newbie making that kind of comment I would put the in their place! What bothers me is that some of the newbies who post tons of discussions and THEY don't bother EVER commenting! There is one such poster in particular and I have decided that I should probably stop responding to her discussions until she stops posting 25 discussions a day and starts responding to some of them! I saw one person call her out in one discussion, but, apparently she never went back to the discussion to read it! We all have things going on in our lives, whether we work or not and some of us just can't be here all the time and that is understandable! But, I don't think that someone who is new here has the right to complain when they still don't know most of us or understand how this place works! Sorry for my rant Hatley, but I needed to vent too! Hugs, Opal

Hi Hatley, I get what you are saying...I responded to a discussion about the lack of comments and I agreed that it is annoying not to receive replies but in my response I noted that I was referring to the MyLotters who start up to a dozen discussions in a day and do not respond to any comments, ever! The rest of us are doing the best we can and we do fall behind, just like how I am right now! I don’t ever respond and then sit there counting the days until I receive a comment; it’s just some never, ever bother but having said that, I guess it is their priority and we don’t have to respond if we don’t want to. I haven’t even had the time to start any topics for ages…I have been so busy…Life away from the computer will not allow us to be here as much as we would like and it would be nice if everyone showed a bit of understanding to one another.

Hatley my dear, when are you going to stop thinking that any of those discussions have you in mind as they don't. There are some, like us, who always respond, and if we get behind no one who knew us would doubt that they would from us. It's aimed at the likes of all the ice cream discussions which force us to think long and hard with witty responses to say vanilla, and then never never comment back. Those who delay a while sometimes are not the target and you most definitely are not.

I agree with you. These mylotters need to realize that there are more important things than mylot. I feel like the ones who start these discussions are probably teenagers or people in their early 20s and they don't give the more important things any thought. I realize that some of the mylotters have jobs and they have to make a living. Mylot takes a lot of time. Kathy.