Does beating your kids when they are being difficult, amount to abuse?

I COMPLETELY agree with Max. I think what you did DOES constitute as child abuse and is in NO WAY "ok". You need to seek professional help and you DEFINITELY need to learn how to control your anger. If you get to the point where you want to cause physical harm to your child then you have no business even having children!! If you have a conscience AT ALL you will contact someone for help and you will save your son from further abuse!!!

yes i think you went too far. A good rule of thumb is to NEVER discipline while you are mad. Put him in his room until you have calmed down. You should never never never draw blood. I always stuck to just a pop on the butt. The point to discipline is not to hurt, but to get the childs attention.

you need to see a shrink, you did it once you'll do it again

yeah him being four is hard. maybe alittle tap on the behind, but if you are leaving marks and making his noise to bleed not good. i would try time out with him, if he's 4 then its four min in time out. either on the couch or in a coner works good.

You need to call a hotline or something, if a 4 year old can push you to give him a bloody nose what is going to happen when the little guy hits that know-it-all 7 and 8 year old stage that is so much fun for us parents?..The fact you only think you got carried away scares the living hell out of me. Everytime you hit a kid you rob them of something, you change who they are meant to be. Beating and discipline shouldn't even be used in the same sentence..I beat my child should be followed by the phrase..you have the right to remain silent. I'm stopping now before I cross some line here, I know I sound harsh but you hit my main nerve, about the only thing you get points for with me at this point is the fact you actually asked us what we thought..I just hope you are ready to find out.

I don't think so. The major responsibility lie on us when we bring up a child. Do anyone think that you had never been beaten up by your parents. It's just a part of training a child when he grows up. It can't be amounted to abuse unless it is over done. Definitely things has to be made understood politely and kindly with all ur love. If taken it lightly then it has to be made understood in a different manner. Hope you got the message.

Wow, this was really hard for me to read. I understand sometimes children can be very difficult, but you need to find other ways to discipline your child. Slapping and spanking are two different things, and I really do agree with the others that you need to get some sort of help to be able to manage your anger better. I was a screamer myself when I was younger and believe me I've done so much better with my grandchildren and putting them in the chair or stand in the hallway for 1 minute time out (I stand with them). I never overdid the 1 minute timeout and it's worked great with the kids...they hate being taken away from what they want to do. Good luck to you and I'll keep you and your son in my prayers.

I have never hit anyone let alone my son. It must have been more than a slap to get a blood nose. I think you need help, or better still your son taken away from you. If you feel the need to ask on here if it is abuse then your in need of some serious help before you 'slap' him hard enough to kill him.

mohinimandokhot wow what a long user name hi Yes you were abusing your child, you lost your cool, beating is abuse it teaches the child thats its all right to punch someone in the face for anything. no never do that. here in the US slapping one in the face is considered an insult and to do 'this to a defenseless little four year old, go see a mental health person,you need help. do not do that to a little child thats unreasonable to the nth degree.,

I don't believe that spanking a child can change once attitude of a child. For me the best discipline that you can give is to talk to a child. You know when you hurt a child, that hurt remains in their mind forever. So, when they recall the incident they create bad feeling towards you. I'll never spank my children because i really love them. It's natural for a child to play, naughty, and even running anywhere because they are a child. Talking to your child is the best way in disciplining a child. You should know that they are human, subject to commit sin, like you subject to commit sins too. Our children are the gift of God, you should thank that because, there are many parents now have no child at all. They have no gift like a child like you. So you are lucky God given you a child.