Some boys want to fight my son, and I don't know what to do, HELP
By 34momma
@34momma (13882)
United States
December 1, 2009 1:37pm CST
Last night my son was chased by a group of boys who wanted to jump him. I asked him who were they and did he know why they wanted to do this to him. He told me that he only knew one of the boys and only because he sees him in the halls at school. He doesn't know him personally or his name.
I had to go to my aunts house last night to pick him up in fear that these boys would still be hanging around waiting for him... Have you ever had to deal with anything like this? What did you do, how did you handle it, I need help!!
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9 responses
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
Oh my, sorry to hear about that..that's really bothering. Lots of incident these days with like what your son is in right now is very bothering. I don't know what's up with the boys now a days, they just go tripping on innocent boys without any reason at all..I remember i had to pick up my lil brother when he was still alive just so he will arrive to home safely. just like your boy, he was being chased by these boys who rides motorcycles, worst is that he got hit the first time by them. He also doesn't know them, one of those boys hit him with a wooden thing, i don't know exactly what it is.Its so scary coz i had to take him to the hospital that he broke some bone from his back and it didn't stop and the fear is always there, so what I did is I had him with my mom moved out to a safer place since there are some incidents that young boys got killed because these boys are tripping, I wont want to risk his life for that and I don't wanna limit his life because of fear.
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@bulastika (5966)
• Philippines
2 Dec 09
The best solution is go to the school and report the accident..
You need to talk to the boys parents first..second if no action or you don't like the result of the meeting, ask your lawyer about it..ask for an advice..then third go to the police..
Don't go to the police directly..They will just ask you question and nothing will happen..
first the accident only end on chase..
So no physical contact or anything..
Second you don't have a name..Do you think police will make some move?
Also if the police will get involve..it always end up in court..So what is the case? The police can't just pick them up if theirs no case..unless theirs a crime.
I think the social welfare will be more involve itself in the case than the police cause it involve minors..
May I ask how old is your son?
Cause if his in legal age then that's a different story..
@34momma (13882)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Angel of Charm, OMG you are so scaring me!! that is my biggest fear that these boys are going to hurt my son. that is why i am not going to take this lightly. I want these boys stopped at all cost!!!! i am so sorry something like that happened to your brother.
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
7 Dec 09
34momma, i know this is a real scare--but then I realized no one can protect him but his self..It wasn't the bad guys who killed him but himself..anyway, I really hope you can resolve this real fast and its a good one that your son recognized one of the boys, its hard when they don't--hard to track them down..
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
3 Dec 09
First thing you do, is contact the school and ask them to watch. Tell them what is going on. They can do that without confronting the kids, unless they see something. Here the kids can still get in trouble for bullying for fighting or picking on people from the time they head to school until after. Your son should not have to live in fear of these boys. You can contact the police, and see what they suggest. They may just send a cruiser around to watch things. Nip it in the butt, fast. It will really take a toll on your child fast.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
2 Dec 09
Thankfully I have never had to deal with this sort of thing. How old is your son? I would probably go to the school or the police. I'm not sure if that is good advice as sometimes these things get worse if they find out that you reported them. Your son has no idea why they are picking on him?
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
2 Dec 09
there is more to this, your son needs to say why. most of the time bullies just dont do this.
but i wouldnt allow him to walk alone anywhere and if this started in school you need to go to the school and let them know. but i used to tell my kids you dont fight if you can help it, but if you have no choice then you do it and do it fast and dirty.
depend how old your son is, i wouldnt confront these boys yourself that would make it worst for your son. but have him always walk with a brother or cousin anywhere he goes.
but i would have to ask your son what's going on again.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
2 Dec 09
that is what i kept asking him... why does this boy all of a sudden want to fight you? what is going on hear.. he swears he has no idea. that he doesn't even know this boy. he only seen him in school a few times. I am not sure, but i promise you i will get to the bottom of this
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
2 Dec 09
I do not want to sound violent but I did grow up in a violent area and I know that no matter what you do chances are they will keep coming at your son, even if they lay low for a bit they will probably come after him again. Yes inform the school and the police if it happens again. More importantly get you kid some classes be they karate, boxing anything. This will do two things, 1, make him feel a little safer because he will know how to handle himself, 2. He will know how to handle himself if these other kids do jump him. It is better to be prepared then to have to pick him up from the hospital. I am not condoning violence just registering the fact that sometimes it is needed for self defence. Also it is good exercise and there is the chance that if you say something or have them arrested they will find it as another reason to do not only the intended harm but more.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
2 Dec 09
wow you have scared the sh*t out of me and have really helped me at the same time. i know how serious this kind of thing can get and that is the very last thing i want! my kids their healthy and happiness and their safety is number one to me. I will look into those classes. I know he wanted to get into boxing. maybe i will look into that. thank you so much
@OpinionatedLady (5965)
• United States
2 Dec 09
It is scary. I taught Karate. I know that when it came to my students a very large percentage came to us for this exact reason. Though many where in fact girls. I would look for a local self defence coarse ( you go too it is a good bonding experience as well as it will make you feel better to see what he can do) for a little quick learning then add on a boxing class this way he will not be totally unprepared as he learns the basics of fighting. I would also stress that these classes are for fun and self defence. While growing up and then now my rules for my own kids are simple. Never start a fight, either with fists or words but if it happens finish it then and safety as possible, and if all else fails hit hard and run.
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@sparkofinsanity (20471)
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Dec 09
Speak to the school immediately about this. Most schools now have a 'no bullying' policy and they need to know about this group of boys. Let them bring the two boys together and get to the bottom of the problem. And if this doesn't help, contact the police............they are big on no bullying policy too these days in an effort to keep gang violence down, and this has all the ear marks of budding gang activity. Good luck and keep us posted.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
2 Dec 09
you are very right about that. i am not dealing with my very out going son not wanting to leave the house becasue some a$$hole kids wants to mess with him. he is on the school basketball team and he is so outgoing and fun, I will not allow anyone to take that away from him. I am so going to bring this to the schools attention
@agnescmary (75)
• India
2 Dec 09
I am very sorry to hear like this. Please immediately go to the school and meet the principal and tell them about this incident. And collect the details of the student and meet their parents and tell them about their son's character. don't send your son alone to school. arrange some vehicles to go to school safely. Pray to God for your son's safe journey.
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@zlcdouble (58)
• China
2 Dec 09
Clam down,first thing and the most importent thing is to comfort you son,he is just a child and never seen that things before.And you cansent you son to school
and let him point those boy if possible.if it doesn't work,call the police.
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